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hurt..
I had been with my boyfriend for 4 years and we have always talked about being together, gettin married, having children. even had the names picked out!!
Well i end up pregnant and everything is soo perfect he is so excited, well now he is spending all his time away with his friends and in the gym and spending his money on stupid selfish things and hasnt even saved money for our child together.
He wanted to break up with me the other week then changed his mind and swore on the baby he was in love with me then yesterday he tells me he is confused and doesnt wanna be with me... now i am doing this alone!!
i just dont understand why he would be so excited and always talk about our family then out of the blue just leave.. he says he will still be here for the baby but its like why does he get to go out and be free & do whatever he wants to do but i have to go through this whole pregnancy alone. its not fair!!! i hate this so much because i still love him with all my heart but then again why would i wanna be with someone who walks out on me during pregnancy!! I swear boys never turn into men there are only a few out there & they seem to be taken...
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Re: hurt..
Like PP said, maybe he is just freaking out about losing his freedom when the baby comes. Alot of guys do this and most of the time they come back. But if he doesn't then you shouldn't want somebody like that anyway. I'm assuming this is his first baby so he will probably want to be involved. As much as it sucks maybe you should just give him his space and time to think things out.
If it turns out you do have to do all this alone, it'll make you a stronger person. So many people do this by themselves. But I hope things work out for you!
I'm sorry honey. That sounds awfully similar to my experience.
My STBXH walked when I was 4 months pregnant too...and that was after we had been trying for over a year and with fertility intervention...it wasn't really a "surprise"!
((hugs)) I hope he comes around...but if not, like the PP said, you're better off without. The second you see that baby, nothing else will matter.
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Beta #1: 4/1 - 51.5 Beta #2: 4/3 - 189 Beta #3: 4/6 - 778.9
AMH: 1.06 FSH: 10.7
DS: 11/2010 Clomid + HCG Trigger + IUI + Progesterone
Well, I hate to say this but sometimes things like this just happen. Nothing in life is a guarantee and this guy sounds like he is definitely confused. He's running away from responsibilities and, unforutnately, things like that happen sometimes. Obviously he's not the man you thought you knew, or someone that you can depend on.
I was married and had a husband who started acting similarly when I got pregnant, even though it was all planned and he wanted nothing more than to be a father. I've learned that you can't control anything in life and everything happens for a reason.
If I were you, I would ignore him and start preparing yourself for life as a single mom. It's not how you imagined it or what you would want for yourself, however, it's the hand you have been dealt.
I'm going through the same situation.. me and my boyfriend have been together for 6 years and one week he loves me and the next week he doesn't.. it gets old and you will soon learn not to care. i mean my boyfriend isn't coming home tonight because he'd rather be out cheating on me and hanging out with his friends.. all i can say and its up to you to take the advice but i told him if you can't be there for me and with me during my pregnancy i don't need your there for me or my child after my pregnanct. don't let him mentally and emotionally destroy you.. plus its not good for the baby. I hope the best for you and I hope everything works out the way you want it to;