Has anyone lied about

Pregnantmama4 · April 2011

symptoms or experiencing pain just to go to the doctors and see if he or she will do a u/s? I'm feeling 50/50 about if my pg is going well. My first apoointment isn't for another 11 days but thinking about my baby consumes my mind 24/7. I have experienced zero symptoms and have taken 4 tests all bfp.

KateCollins11 · April 2011

Absolutely not. There are plenty of women that actually DO have extreme pain and bleeding and lying about it and wasting my dr's time when he could be seeing those women is not okay in my book.

This REALLY rubs me the wrong way. I hope that none of the ladies that are experiencing REAL problems right now read this.

And just so you know, no symptoms is not a a bad sign. Unless you are having severe pain and bleeding, you are most likely fine.

AggieKim04 · April 2011

Nope. I've been lucky to have been pretty much symptomless throughout it all so far. Even to the point a few weeks I wasn't peeing all that much really. And when the doc and nurse each asked, "How are you feeling?" my only answer was, "Great." No follow ups...no desire to talk about being tired or anything.

lydswashere · April 2011

KateCollins11:
Absolutely not. There are plenty of women that actually DO have extreme pain and bleeding and lying about it and wasting my dr's time when he could be seeing those women is not okay in my book.
This REALLY rubs me the wrong way. I hope that none of the ladies that are experiencing REAL problems right now read this.
And just so you know, no symptoms is not a a bad sign. Unless you are having severe pain and bleeding, you are most likely fine.

so, so true!

nurseblondie · April 2011

I guess if you haven't been for your first appointment yet then you probably aren't too far just yet. If you're still early and they do an U/S you won't get to see much anyways. I had my first appt at 6 weeks and the doctor said he could see the heartbeat but I couldn't see it, and we were too early to even consider hearing the heartbeat. I also didn't even feel anything for the first few weeks but it did catch up quickly thereafter. I still don't actually feel pregnant at 10weeks but I know it's there.

Jing22 · April 2011

No, why in the world would you lie... this is your health and baby at risk! Are you going to lie during labor? Are you going to teach your kid to lie as well?

dana1318a · April 2011

I haven't. If this is your first pregnancy, and you have always thought that things should be a certain way, I can understand worrying because your symptoms have been different (or non-existent). But I don't think it's a good idea to lie about a problem or exaggerate anything just to see your doctor sooner. I had an u/s at 6wks this time, and couldn't see anything because it was too soon. My doctor said everything looked good for early pregnancy, but not being able to see anything did NOTHING to calm my nerves. It's really scary to look at the screen and not see your baby, even if you know that you're a little early for it. I think you're better off just waiting until your doctor recommended you come in. 11 days will fly by faster than you think.

FWIW my mother and aunt both swear they had no symptoms their entire pregnancies (and they had 5 healthy babies between them).

ETA: Now that I think about it, I wasn't even 6wks at that first u/s because my EDD has been adjusted since my last u/s. So I was really early..

Sarahbear621 · April 2011

lydswashere:
KateCollins11:

Absolutely not. There are plenty of women that actually DO have extreme pain and bleeding and lying about it and wasting my dr's time when he could be seeing those women is not okay in my book.

This REALLY rubs me the wrong way. I hope that none of the ladies that are experiencing REAL problems right now read this.

And just so you know, no symptoms is not a a bad sign. Unless you are having severe pain and bleeding, you are most likely fine.

so, so true!

+1 more

KZ2010 · April 2011

As a healthcare provider, this REALLY rubs me the wrong way. If I go out of my way to overbook a patient into my schedule because she's complaining of worrisome symptoms, then she better not be lying about it just to get a peek at her baby. It's unfair to the rest of the patients trying to get in for real reasons and it's unfair to the rest of the patients who will be seen late that day because you were overbooked in. Also, healthcare providers like to have time to eat at some point during their day and like to be able to leave relatively on time to see their families too, you know.

jenni888 · April 2011

KZ2010:
As a healthcare provider, this REALLY rubs me the wrong way. If I go out of my way to overbook a patient into my schedule because she's complaining of worrisome symptoms, then she better not be lying about it just to get a peek at her baby. It's unfair to the rest of the patients trying to get in for real reasons and it's unfair to the rest of the patients who will be seen late that day because you were overbooked in. Also, healthcare providers like to have time to eat at some point during their day and like to be able to leave relatively on time to see their families too, you know.

This. Not as a healthcare provider, but from the other side. I truly did have worrisome pains on just one side that were really concerning me and I was dreading the worst and worrying myself sick leading up to my u/s. I was so grateful they were able to fit me in despite being so early. I would have been so upset if I hadn't been able to get my u/s scheduled due to someone who was lying just to get in for an appointment.

jaminjeff · April 2011

As someone who has had to go in for bleeding and scares after two other miscarriages, I'm a little offended that others would pretend to be in danger just to be able to get in earlier. I'd MUCH rather be that normal woman who doesn't get into the OB/GYN until 10 or 11 weeks than having betas and ultrasounds each week making sure my baby is still okay and having a constant worry anytime I see blood, which was happening just about every other day until last week.

amy0610 · April 2011

Sarahbear621:
lydswashere:
KateCollins11:

Absolutely not. There are plenty of women that actually DO have extreme pain and bleeding and lying about it and wasting my dr's time when he could be seeing those women is not okay in my book.

This REALLY rubs me the wrong way. I hope that none of the ladies that are experiencing REAL problems right now read this.

And just so you know, no symptoms is not a a bad sign. Unless you are having severe pain and bleeding, you are most likely fine.

so, so true!

+1 more

:butting in from October:

Add one more. And you're also committing insurance fraud. Be patient and grateful you aren't throwing up 24/7 like some of us.

:butting out:

RedCamaro · April 2011

Can anyone else say MUD? I can!

snowkiwi · April 2011

KateCollins11:

This REALLY rubs me the wrong way. I hope that none of the ladies that are experiencing REAL problems right now read this.

Absolutely Yes . Respect and consideration for this journey, the medical process and other people's feelings and experiences should tell you that this is not an option.

momtoo4 · April 2011

I think we all get excited about getting the chance to see baby and would go everyday if we could

Why dont you just ask when you will be scheduled for one?

Also, if you want you can always pay to have one have one done

https://www.peekabelly.com/

KateCollins11 · April 2011

RedCamaro:
Can anyone else say MUD? I can!

I wish this was MUD, but i really don't think it is.

Froggy76 · April 2011

Eh, I kind of did with my last pregnancy. I had some pains in my left side (near my ovary), and even though I read it was probably normal as long as it wasn't severe, I still mentioned it to my doctor at my first appointment to see if she'd give me an early u/s. I had a bad feeling about the pregnancy and I really wanted to see if everything was okay. I didn't really have to exaggerate much to convince her.

Unfortunately, my instinct was right and there was no HB. If I hadn't gotten the early u/s, I suppose I would have just found out a few weeks later at my NT scan if I didn't m/c before then.

ETA: Since everyone is so up in arms about this, I'll just point out that my u/s was scheduled in advance for 3 days later, so I certainly didn't "take time from other women with problems". Sheesh...

KateCollins11 · April 2011

Froggy76:
Eh, I kind of did with my last pregnancy. I had some pains in my left side (near my ovary), and even though I read it was probably normal as long as it wasn't severe, I still mentioned it to my doctor at my first appointment to see if she'd give me an early u/s. I had a bad feeling about the pregnancy and I really wanted to see if everything was okay. I didn't really have to exaggerate much to convince her.

Unfortunately, my instinct was right and there was no HB. If I hadn't gotten the early u/s, I suppose I would have just found out a few weeks later at my NT scan if I didn't m/c before then.

ETA: Since everyone is so up in arms about this, I'll just point out that my u/s was scheduled in advance for 3 days later, so I certainly didn't "take time from other women with problems". Sheesh...

There is a BIG difference in mentioning REAL pains and concerns while you are already at your dr. appointment and blatantly lying to GET an early appointment with the hopes of an ultrasound.

MissMex · April 2011

I really hope this is MUD.

Otherwise, I think you might seriously want to consider being a parent to this child. I'm not sure your level of maturity will be able to handle the rest of this pregnancy and all of the uncertainty that being a parent brings.

I am deeply offended by this as a Mother, Health Care Provider and high risk patient. I would give anything not to have the daily stress I have carrying this child and the HeII I went through with my first pregnancy.

Why don't you stop over on the Misscarriage/Pregnancy Loss board or check out Nolan's story so you can see what they symptoms you are faking actually bring.

I feel sorry for your OB, Nurses husband and future child for having to deal with a patient and partner like yourself.

As a fellow woman, you disgust me.

rachaelski · April 2011

amy0610:

:butting in from October:
Add one more. And you're also committing insurance fraud. Be patient and grateful you aren't throwing up 24/7 like some of us.
:butting out:

Yes!!! Insurance costs are out of control in this country (especially compared to other developed nations), and your extra appointments and 7 ultrasounds add to the problem. (Please note, if you truly need 7 ultrasounds for high risk reasons, not talking about you!)

marista99 · April 2011

No, I haven't lied about it. But I do understand considering lying about it...because not getting an u/s when you know of so many people who get to see their babies much earlier is VERY hard emotionally. This is not to say I would lie, or have lied, I'm just saying I get why someone would feel like they should, I guess. Also, FWIW, my friend who is a NICU nurse actually told me I ought to lie if they refused to to an u/s before 12 weeks otherwise (citing the importance of dating the pregnancy to determine a baby's risks at delivery). Again, I didn't (it felt wrong and I'm a terrible liar) but let's not pretend this is that crazy of an idea.

romigu · April 2011

KZ2010:
As a healthcare provider, this REALLY rubs me the wrong way. If I go out of my way to overbook a patient into my schedule because she's complaining of worrisome symptoms, then she better not be lying about it just to get a peek at her baby. It's unfair to the rest of the patients trying to get in for real reasons and it's unfair to the rest of the patients who will be seen late that day because you were overbooked in. Also, healthcare providers like to have time to eat at some point during their day and like to be able to leave relatively on time to see their families too, you know.

all of this. Although no one tells me (obviously), that they're making up symptoms, this post makes me a little more wary of people that look fine but have complaints. Don't ruin it for everyone.

littlewinnie15 · April 2011

I would never do this, for basically all of the reasons stated. Plus, I figure my doctor would be able to tell if I was making up symptoms....

But, I understand the feeling of being nervous and scared that something is wrong. That's why I decided to buy the home doppler...when I have freak out moments, I just whip that out and find the little lub-dub, and I feel better.

MrsNash37212 · April 2011

Fallon621 · April 2011

jaminjeff:
As someone who has had to go in for bleeding and scares after two other miscarriages, I'm a little offended that others would pretend to be in danger just to be able to get in earlier. I'd MUCH rather be that normal woman who doesn't get into the OB/GYN until 10 or 11 weeks than having betas and ultrasounds each week making sure my baby is still okay and having a constant worry anytime I see blood, which was happening just about every other day until last week.

This!!! except my bleeding has stopped!!! (((HUGS))) It is scary!!

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