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My friend's LO is is NICU

zapgurl44zapgurl44 member
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My good friend's LO was born sat and admitted to NICU with a rare brain malformation.  This was completely unexpected and wanted to know if you ladies had any ideas on how we can help out.  It looks as though they have a long road ahead of them and we want to be there for them but want to know how.  Thanks!
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Re: My friend's LO is is NICU

  • ESM354ESM354
    I guess I would say just continue to be a good friend to them.  Every person deals with things in a different way but for me I wanted my friends to be a part of the experience with me.  I wanted to celebrate the birth of my tiny little boy.  So many of my friends backed off thinking that we needed our space to deal but for me that was the worst thing they could do.  I wanted them to call and visit.  I would just check with them and see how you can help.  You could make meals for them to have in their freezer, get them gc's for gas or a restaurant by the hospital, bring them magazines.  Most importantly just be there for them.  I hope everything goes as good as it can for them.
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  • kck329kck329 member

    Like PP said, stay with your friend on this journey. Most people back away and that makes the NICU time lonely. Understand that your friend will probably go back and forth between grief over the situation she is in and wanting to celebrate your baby--do both things.

     One of the best things our friends at church have done for us is to organize a care calendar (carecalendar.org) that allows people to sign up to help us with things. We have dinner waiting for us twice a week. The system they set up is that we leave a cooler on our front porch and whoever is dropping off food just leaves it there for us. That way no one has to be home to receive it. Twice a week has been perfect for us since many people give us large portions and there are only two people eating. Other things that could be added--yardwork, childcare if there are other children, pet sitting/walking....

    I hope your friend's NICU stay goes well!

     

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