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Babies: 3 - 6 Months
SAHMs how do you stay motivated??
Before we had DD my FI and I did pretty much everything equally. Since she was born though, we've fallen into the stereotypical gender roles and I'm having trouble making myself do everything I need to do when I'm basically stuck at home with the baby all day. I mean, I take care of DD and give her all the attention she can handle lol but sometimes laundry or dishes end up piling up.... Another question, do your SOs just leave stuff laying around. sometimes I feel like I'm ALWAYS picking up behind my FI. He works like 12 hours a day so I know and understand that he's tired but how hard is it to throw your dirty clothes in the hamper?
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Re: SAHMs how do you stay motivated??
Francesca Pearl is here! Josephine Hope is almost 3!
Story of my life.
SO also works long days and leaves stuff everywhere.. then b!tches when he has to do a speck of housework.
DS constantly wants attention and to be held and he doesn't like to self-entertain for more than 10ish minutes. I usually wear him in the Moby a lot to get stuff done. As much as I don't want to admit it, we have to do "Dancing Dishes" when I wear him because he gets squirmy and mad when I stand still for too long. So I turn on the kitchen radio and bounce/sway/move to the music while I do the dishes. I'm certain I look like a freak when I do this haha the things we do for our kids...
Staying motivated is difficult for me especially if DS didn't sleep the greatest the night before. SO actually helped me clean the whole house today but only because we had company coming over.. I wish I had the urge to clean and organize that I had when I was "nesting". I have never been such a clean freak in my life, but when I was nesting, everything was immaculate. Like I took q-tips to things to get in small crevices, compulsively washed clothes and rearranged DS's closet at least 10 times. It was crazy.
So enough of my rant, but just know you're not alone in the unmotivated department
Goodness! My eyes just bugged out of my head when I clicked that link!
Damn, usually I have to be real nice to get spanked, I need to change my style, being a total biitch is so much easier.
BAHAHA!
Francesca Pearl is here! Josephine Hope is almost 3!
DH looks forward to Mondays because he's so exhausted from being home with LO over the weekend.
Honestly, I thought the same thing before LO was born. But between being stuck inside with the crappy winter weather and LO wanting to be held all the time-I'm exhausted, and nothing is going to get me off the couch while he's sleeping in my arms...well maybe a snickers bar. Being a SAHM is a FT job and I think we don't get as much credit as we deserve.
Nobody gets the credit they deserve. Working moms, stay at home moms...no one is handing out "you're awesome and you work really hard badges". I'm not trying to be snarky, but most moms work really, really hard. And other than your spouse (hopefully), no one is going to give you credit for it. I think society as a whole doesn't value motherhood very much. (As evidenced by matenity leave practices, pay gaps for working mothers, etc, breastfeeding stigma, etc.)
I completely agree that moms don't get the credit they deserve. Being a SAHM is a full time job and it's hard. But so is working full time and coming home and being a mom. When I was home with DS I got everything done because I viewed it as my job. I took it as a job and did my "work" every day.
I also could have written this. We transitioned to me being a SAHM when DD was about two months old. It took me a good month to realize that she was fine playing by herself for 15 min. while I did the dishes in the sink, and if I left her in her bouncy seat for 3 min. to go change a load of laundry it would not kill her. If it's possible, I bring her with me. When she still fit in the bouncy seat i would bring it to the kitchen with me and talk her through whatever I was washing/cooking/cleaning...she would watch me fold laundry, make grocery lists, etc. Involve her in your everyday things. Don't feel like you're stuck at home either!! Baby's love to be out in different places. Take her everywhere with you! DD has been to the grocery, hair salon, thrift store, home depot, target, fabric store, park, for a walk...she loves it.
As for DH...yeah... I think I will be picking up after him until I die. It does help that babyproofing is now becoming an immediate issue. That is my excuse for things. "honey, we can't leave that out because she will put it in her mouth". Works pretty well. The pj's will forever and always be on the floor. I just have to get over it.
This all said, I still take a lazy day once in a while to just enjoy her. We both need that.
H picks up after himself for the most part, socks are the only laundry he can't seem to always get in the basket and the occasional glass is on the coffee table in the morning. If the laundry is full he'll throw it in the was before leaving for work while I'm feeding Molls.
Otherwise, when she sleeps I power clean, diapers are first and then I pick one room to do next. It takes me all week to clean the house but I vacuum every other day and sweep the kitchen after dinner nightly. Monday I did the kitchen, Tuesday I did Molls room and yesterday the bathrooms...today...I may take a nap.
I try and go out of the house every other day and Molly loves it for the most part, Sunday is grocery day and I get to shop alone.