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myeshabride
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Is pregnant the new sexy?
myeshabride
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I had a teary/my-feelings-are-hurt moment last night. My DH informed me last night that he doesn't think "Mmm, that's sexy" and want to jump my bones if I'm walking around in all my belly glory with a sexy/cute bra & panty set on but more like "Aww, that's cute". He said this isn't a time to be sexy but more "motherly". Plus he's not into women with a gut/belly BUT knows I have a belly because I'm pregnant so it's "ok". WTH does that mean?? So you mean to tell me I've been going out of my way to buy the stretchiest Victoria Secret panties money can buy to look somewhat sexy for nothing??
After I gave him a "you're a dumba**" look, I politely got up and occupied myself with something else. I think he knew he hurt my feelings because a little while later he was trying cop of feel and I told him to knock it off...LOL! And P.S. DH: While you're talking about bellies...I don't recall Bradley Cooper or Brad Pitt requesting you as their ab stunt double lately either! Ugh.
So, I've decided to be sexy for my damn self. 
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Re: Is pregnant the new sexy?
Yeah -- be sexy for yourself. How you feel about how you look is what matters. It definitely helps when SO wants you; it helps me to know that just because I've got a belly now he still wants me the same.
But I hear it's different for every guy: some guys get really turned on by the baby belly, like it confirms their manliness or something. But other guys get really turned off.
I'm sure your DH still thinks you're beautiful. And what truly matters is how you feel about yourself!
Yeah. Our sex life is still great but to hear him verbalize his thoughts like that surprised me. He just sees me as the cutesy little momma instead of a hot momma.
Maybe it just intimidates YH how powerful and strong you are (since you will be giving birth in the not-so-distant future).
Why in the world would he feel the need to vocalize that?
You are sexy and you work it all you want in your sexy panties. In a couple days I'd let him know that you aren't too turned on by something he's got going on.
LOL my husband is the complete opposite. Yesterday he said, "Why don't you have a freaking belly yet?! I like to imagine it big!" I asked him if he actually liked the idea of me looking massive and he smiled and said, "YES. It is so sexy."
It's completely normal for him to feel that way. Lots of guys do. Some guys totally dig the belly, and some guys find it flat out terrifying. Was it a little douchey of him to vocalize his feelings about it, yeah. But, you'll have that.
My personal opinion, I feel pretty sexy. I feel 10x better about my body when I'm pregnant. DH thinks its sexy too. But even if he didn't, I still feel pretty good about myself, and you should too!
Some men can compartmentalize it better than others. My DH thinks the belly is sweet whens he's kissing it and talking to LO. But he's not thinking about LO when it's, umm, mommy and daddy time.
Regardless, I say, rock that sexy lingerie! In fact, I think you have an awesome excuse to go by something totally sexy and impractical and strut around the house and dare him not to think your sexy
My husband loves my new curves, especially my new boobs! I have a pretty boyish figure, and small boobs before, so compared to then it seems like I have huge D's or something. Even though he is used to my thin waist and flat tummy, he says he likes the change because its new and novel (along with the awesome fact that its all for our baby) and he knows it won't be this way forever.
I was feeling a little uncomfortable with my body for awhile, but then my husband reminded me that its temporary, and for a great cause. Usually I can gain weight, and you'd never notice, but I've gained 3 pounds and its DEFINITELY showing. Maybe not to the public, but to my husband and I because we know what my body looked like pre-pregnancy.
For all of the ladies whose husbands, boyfriends, baby daddies, have something not so nice to say about your body. Tell them if they aren't going to compliment you and tell you how gorgeous you are, then they need to shut up and say nothing at all. Especially with how fragile our emotions are right now. And not to mention its a huge change in OUR bodies, and WE are the ones who have to deal with it!
This. I mean, I don't feel very sexy myself. I kind of always feel like I'm on the vurge of farting. I feel so damn bloated. But if DH said it, I'd be so hurt.
I think men tend to fall into one of two camps: the ones who think it's uber-sexy when their partner is pregnant, and the ones who are, well, a little weirded out by it.
I suspect my DH falls into the latter. He hasn't really said anything, but I can tell he's not one of the ones who's going to go gaga over my belly. He will think it's cute, but I don't think he'll be ravaging me left and right because of it.
Wow, why would he even vocalize that? That wasn't very nice. =/
When I asked FI if he thought I was still sexy, he was like, "Absolutely." He says nothing is different for him. Same face, same body, and the only difference is that our baby is in there, which he says is more of a reason think I'm beautiful. He was like, "I don't have a thing for preggos, it's not like I went around before just lusting after pregnant women. But I have a thing for you, and that hasn't changed since you got pregnant."
Well anyway, just do what you said you're gonna do and be sexy for yourself. Work it, mama! =D
// I love you too. //
You are only 15 weeks along. Your belly cannot be that big! Like you said to verbalize something like that, while he probably didn't mean to hurt your feelings he did. I'm coming close to the end of my pregnancy and I have to hide from my DH sometimes because he wants it all the time. Yes, there was a point where he thought he couldn't have sex with me because my tummy was getting bigger and he was all about "there is no denying there is a baby in there now". However after a couple of days, he forgot about that
Feel sexy for yourself if not for him, but I hope you tell him how you feel about his comment. Because you will only get bigger as the time goes on
xoxox
Amanda
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