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Oriana.Ocampo
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Survey: If your SO isn't your first love
Oriana.Ocampo
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Do you still think about your first love? Do you talk to them or see them?? Hate them??
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Re: Survey: If your SO isn't your first love
My first love went psycho after we broke up. I still saw often him b/c our parents were neighbors until 2008.
He also moved to Houston when he found out Alex lived here (before we got married) and actually moved into the same apartment complex that Alex lived in. Like I said, psycho.
He works in downtown Houston so I have seen him when walking to lunch from time to time. But, I avoid any interaction at all costs.
He is totally cray cray. But he is just about as sexy as they come.
Oy. My ex and I set up our best friends the year after I graduated hs. Fast forward 10+ years and she is pregnant with LO #2 and we are each still friends with them. So, yea, we see my ex at all their big events (walking down the aisle toward -- as in he was standing next to the groom -- the guy you thought you'd marry while your now-fiance is in the pews was beyond awkward).
It's still weird and we don't talk much but when you're off and on for 5+ years, and break up for "the one" then things can be strained. But we both just had our first children and we're adult about things.
Never, no, no and no.
It was such a thing of the past and I'm completely in love with DH.
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SO is only my second relationship. My ex and I were best friends our whole lives and lived together for 4 years. He made new friends and turned into a drunk and I had to leave him.
We have mutual friends still and he got sober and is apparently himself again. I wish we could be friends, but I recognize that since he is back to his old self I would be in danger of doing something inappropriate.
We have just so much history it isn't a good idea. I still miss who he was everyday, but I moved on and have a family of my own now.
ETA: It sounds like I don't love my current SO from this post. That is not the case. Things happened so quickly after me and ex broke up. It has actually only been a year and a half since we broke up.
We met at work a month after me and ex broke up and I got pregnant a month later whith me using the pill and condoms. I personally think it was meant to be because he helped me through a rough time and I fell completely in love with him.
First love as in the first person I said I love you too?
I think of him more as a high school/learning love as he was such a douche if I'd been a little older I wouldn't have given him a second date let alone two years.
I had an epic first love. It was off and on for 4ish years. It was an alcoholic who thought he was Bob Dylan and at the time I found it charming. He cheated on me and he cheated on other girls with me. It was a very "I can't quit you" situation.
He moved to Nashville and worked as a songwriter, came back to visit after my first date with DH. On that visit he asked me to move to TN and marry him, had it been a few days before I would have stupidly said yes.
I ended up marrying DH and when I pregnant with DD he sent me a letter saying it should be us and had this whole story about living in a cabin working the land blah blah blah.
It's weird this was brought up because I've had a few non sexual dreams about him lately and he happens to be in town with his band.
Looking back I was such a sucker.
Sorry about my rambling first love story, but to answer the actual question.
Yes, I think about him occasionally in an I'm lucky we didn't stay together because my life would be effed right now. I don't talk to him and I really just feel sorry for him.
I was engaged once many, many, many moons ago.
We broke up my freshman year of college because he od'd. On what, I don't know. I never even knew he was doing drugs. I also found out he was stealing to support his habit (stealing from me, my family, etc.) and I couldn't stand behind that. I broke up with him. He later served time in prison for robbery.
Even so, it was hard getting over him. For a couple of years, I kept comparing every guy I dated to him.
This was 15 years ago and I probably last say him 14 years ago. We have mutual FB friends but we are not friends. I am so glad we didn't work out because I would be stuck in a small town, probably very unhappy. We are two totally different people. I am glad my life took the turn it did because I wouldn't be with DH, who is my end all be all.
Interesting fact though... my ex-FI has twin girls.
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First love was my high school sweetheart... we had a long drama filled breakup where the fallout lasted until we graduated because he turned into an azz.
He grew up when he went to college and we were back on good terms. Not best buddies but friends on Fb and chat once in a while.
Weirdest thing? I randomly have dreams about him even though I have no feelings for him at all (in fact he is not my type anymore anyway!).
My first love is my best friend's brother. I am really close with the whole family and spend lots of holidays with them, so I see him, his wife and their kids often.
I don't hate him, but I did for a long time, and he knows it. We used to just kind of ignore each other, but lately we have actually had some short conversations. I think about him in that I hope he's happy in his marriage (which I have heard he isn't, and that makes me sad), and just kind of wishing we had a happier relationship then, and that we had been able to enjoy normal teenage boyfriend/girlfriend things like prom, which he always managed to screw up.
Also, fun fact. my husband thinks he is pretty much the best guy ever and has a little man crush on him. It's kind of weird to see them hanging out.
My first love was my high school sweetheart. We techincally ended our relationship once we left for college but would see each other on and off when home for breaks. After we graduated from college, he moved west and it was really officially over. This was 13 years ago. I think about him occassionally and I dream about him although I'm not sure why. We would have never made it as an adult couple. Our interests and priorities went in very different directions when we were in college so it was best that we stayed apart.
We don't talk now. It would just be awkward. We're not even friends on facebook even though all of our old HS friends are friends with one another. We were together for most of HS so I feel like I lost a friend moreso than a boyfriend.
I guess to answer my own question, yes I do think about him often, yes we talk on fb, and no I don't hate him..
He has a girlfriend and I'm married. I am very happy with my husband and I am glad the way my life turned out, but sometimes I do wonder "what if" because we didn't break up because we didn't love each other, but because of the long distance.
I'm still friends with my hs b/f. We have grown apart, but we still talk/see each other once in awhile. DH knows him and is okay with us being friends. I still care for him, but have 0 interest in him romantically. I'm thankful we broke up because he has no ambition.
I do still think about my ex FI. We dated for 3 years in college. Our break-up was strange. We never officially broke-up, but I did find out he was married while he was trying to get back together with me. There are a lot of unresolved feelings, but I am so glad we ended things. I met DH a month after we broke-up and thought he would just be a rebound guy. My rebound has lasted over 6 years!
I know how you feel. One of my really good friends is an ex of mine, we didn't even date that long, but we definitely had a deep seated "thing" for each other. We never actually managed to be together though, he was always wrapped up with the girl he was dating (unsuccessfully, she cheated on him like 3 times). His GF totally hated me, and every time he got back with her he would cut me out of his life. Each time she cheated on him, he would come back to me and look for support. Like an idiot I would give it to him, and totally fall back in love with him. The last time it happened he finally realized what a dumba$$ he was and it was too late, I was engaged.
He's dating a really great girl now, and he and my DH are friends. But I will always wonder "what if" we had gotten together during one of those near miss phases.
Wow. Are you still friends with the girl? I would REALLY hate her!
We are FB friends and have a lot of mutual friends. We dated my senior year of high school and then lived next door to each other in college...we broke up during a summer because he was traveling and we both started dating other people. We played this game of on and off (just hooking up, hanging out as friends) when we were both single for almost 3 years...but things never worked out timing wise.
In all honesty I still have a huge mushy spot for this boy in my heart and he checks in once in awhile to tell me congrats on weddings and babies. He's also been in a very long term relationship with an awesome girl for awhile and I'm completely happy for him.
And he looks like Jax from Sons of Anarchy!
I try not to think about the first guy I REALLY loved. It started out as a great relationship and we had a lot of fun, but that didn't last long. We were on-again-off-again for awhile, and it was not good for me. I was totally crazy and unstable.
However, now his MOM is a little obsessed with me. She comes to my work, talks to me on FB, she even told me she was going to cut her hair just like mine and that she couldn't wait to meet DS. That family has issues...
There have been so many minor "loves" that I really dont care about or think of anymore, they were just high school boyfriends. I have one ex-girlfriend who I am still good friends with, and DH and I dated in school and then I had a bf for four years before we hooked up again, so its kind of hard to qualify either of them as the first. That BF and I are facebook friends.
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I always think about my first love. We dated when we 15-16. We always remained friends and tried to be there for each other. I honestly don't have a bad word to say about him. Unfortunately, he passed away a few years ago when he was 24. There are times where I still talk to him out loud like he is there, though. Just to say and sometimes ask for his help and guidance.
I was told by a psychic that he watches over DS at night. I have no idea whether or not that is true. She told me he stands by his crib and just watches to make sure he is ok, though. I know if he were still here, he'd be all about hanging out with DS. So, maybe it is true. Who knows.
This made me smile
. I am sorry about him passing, but I'm glad you were on good terms.