FIL wants to be surprised.

Miss Shasta · April 2011

DH informed me that even though us and the rest of our family will be finding out the sex of the baby, FIL wants to wait until delivery day. Uhhh what the crap? How exactly does he intend to NOT find out when everyone else knows? MIL is going to shout it from the roof top the second she finds out. Our whole family attends church together, so how realistically would this work? Up until this comment he hasn't even acknowledged I am pregnant, so I am not going out of my way to let him be surprised.

LadieBumbles · April 2011

Seems pretty impractical to me. Is he planning on moving to an island with no phone or internet or family interaction? Confused

lizzonyc · April 2011

My BIL said the same thing ??? So I told him, block me on FB, don't look at the babis room when you come over, don't look at the stuff his family buys for the baby (for the shower), etc...I refuse to go out of my way to hide it b/c HE doesn't want to know...

I honestly think it is really strange for someone else to not want to know the sex. Whether you find out at 20 weeks or 40 weeks, it is what it is???

PearlPink · April 2011

I think my response would be "well FIL, I won't tell you but it will be up to you to not find out from anyone else, and I'm not going to hide it either."

I have no understanding of people who act that way, its not his child.

justhat1girl · April 2011

SAME HERE!!!! We are in the EXACT same boat! Wow, so I'm not the only one... lol. He tried to do the same thing when his brother and his wife had a baby, but it didnt work, someone slipped... so how the heck does he think it will work with his son!?!? And my mother in law and sister in law are already anxious to go out shopping, i'm sure he'll end up seeing what they're getting!

I say whatever happens, happens. If he doesnt find out, great, but like you said, I'm not going out of my way! Good luck!!

CJB8 · April 2011

wow, I've never heard that before. I would say whatever happens happens, I wouldn't make an effort to hide it. won't he notice when he sees clothes that are pink or blue? when the nursery is decorated a certain way?

yarnymommy · April 2011

PearlPink:
I think my response would be "well FIL, I won't tell you but it will be up to you to not find out from anyone else, and I'm not going to hide it either."

THIS!!

I think this is a perfect response. I would tell anyone this and absolve myself from any responsibility of the person finding out some other way. If you don't tell him yourself, it isn't your problem. Dot stress yourself out over it, if your FIL or anyone else tries to exert some kind of control or dominance...

forensicmama · April 2011

Awww... that's actually really sweet IMO... he wants to be surprised because he wants that connection and newness, like when he was first a dad. Of course it's impractical... hopefully he can turn the other cheek for a while. It's sweet, though.

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