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Just venting...pregnant and moving, too!
Hi ladies, I'm just venting and sharing to relieve some of my stress. I am 21 weeks along with my first baby. Amongst all the baby preparation, we also have to move just one month before due date [unfortunately we are unable to move earlier due to our financial situation]...and I am so, so stressed. DH has been very supportive and said for me not to worry, he will take care of everything [packing, moving, unpacking], but I am a type-A personality and want to contribute and do some of these things myself...ugh. I work and due to the company's maternity leave policy, I am only able to take the State [CA] mandated "FMLA" at 6 weeks off at 55% pay, plus my two weeks vacation paid at 100%...so that means I am likely going to be working up until the week prior to due date. Has anyone out there gone through a similar situation (or going to)? Any advice on how to keep it together? I am really going nuts here 
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Re: Just venting...pregnant and moving, too!
I'm 21 weeks as well, and I'm actually moving this weekend! Stressful, yes, but my advice would be to pack up what you can NOW so you won't have to worry about it when you're too big to do it! I went through earlier and packed up alllll the clothes I knew I wouldn't be wearing for the next few months (all winter clothes and most summer clothes, seeing as I'll be a totally different size this year!) Also, as I started going through things, I realized there was A LOT I could throw/give away, and that made it a TON easier for our actual "packing" week (this week!). Could you maybe have a yard sale this spring? Get rid of some of your stuff while making a few dollars? Just a few suggestions, because I know how I'd feel if I had to leave DH up to it all!!
As for the work situation, I can't help much there b/c I'm a teacher and therefore will have the summer off. However, I've known PLENTY of people who have worked right up to their due date, and a lot of them were relieved to have something to keep them busy and going!!
We are also going to be moving either right before or right after my due date. I'm stressed about it! I would really like to be in the new house with some time to unpack and paint and decorate, and make it more like home, before we have the added stress of bringing home a newborn. The part that's really stressful for me is not knowing. We are looking for a house right now, but if we can't find one we want to buy, we will extend our lease. I just hope we can find something and close with at least a month to spare! It makes me so anxious!
I don't have much advice. But I have been making lists like crazy, so maybe that will help you feel a little more in control. Lists of what we need to do, what we need to buy, timelines, etc.
trust me--it's a LOT less stressful to move with baby IN you...than out. We moved out of state with a 4-5 month old 2 years ago--and it was a nightmare.
With DD I moved into a new place about a month and a half before she was born. I actually (slowly) did a lot of organizing and packing. With the big stuff I just pointed and told DH what to do. If you can afford movers I'd suggest doing so. They were a life-saver this time around. We were moving from a second floor apartment to a second floor condo - both without elevators and with difficult to maneuver stairs. We scrimped and saved in order to be able to get the movers to do most of the work and it was exactly what we needed. When they got everything to the new place I just stood by the back door and told them where every box, piece of furniture, etc should go. I also worked up until a couple days before I was due with DD.
My mom did this with a toddler and being 8 months pregnant with me, in full on Summer heat. She said it sucks, but it's doable. Try to spread things out over the time you have. Pack what you don't need now and just gradually pack your house over time. Label your boxes well so you can unpack gradually. Try to break as much of this move into doable steps.
If you're moving in town, there are easier way to pack certain things. For example, you don't actually have to unpack your dresser. Just take out the drawers and put them into the backseat and/or trunk of your car. The dresser itself can go on a truck. That way, you just have to reassemble it when you get into a new place. Think outside the box on packing things as there are ways to save time and energy.
I agree with previous poster... it is easier to move while the baby is in you rather than out and needing nap times, bottles, changing, babysitting... so if that helps you feel a little better. We are just completing our move. I am 27 weeks and we have a 14 month old. Both my husband and I work so it was a long process with weekend and evenings being very busy. Plus we could not stay at the house to unpack because we had to put the little girl down for bed at 7pm.
Just start packing now and label as best you can. That way DH can unpack and will know what each box is... and will know which ones are the priority. You can do it!!
I feel you. We get the keys to our new place on Saturday and plan on giving the place a good scrubbing that day then we rented a Penske truck to get the boxes and smaller furniture pieces moved out on Sunday. Of course they are now callling for thunderstorms on Sunday
GREAT! Monday we have appointments to meet utilities and such at the new house, need to paint a few rooms before the new furniture arrives on that Thursday and then movers are coming for our big stuff on Friday. I still have stuff to pack and feel like doing nothing at all. I think it is because I feel so overwhelmed! I have already packed up about 80% of the house but it just seems as if it multiplies when I turn my back!! I'm just going to breathe and trust that it will all work out in the time it needs to......
Good luck with your move!
We're moving next month...pregnant AND with a toddler. Hello, stress!
I foresee many nights spent alone in my bathtub (before and after the move), while DH handles DS and the mountains of boxes. There's not much we can do about it, so we're just trying to go with the flow. We're moving in 5 weeks, and haven't yet sold our house, nor have we found a new place to live. Yikes.
Hang in there and try to take it one day at a time!
I'm a type A too and we are also moving close to the due date. My husband also said he'd take care of everything but being a control freak while in nesting mode I'm going to be unbearable for him I'm sure. I feel worse for him than I do for myself. We're going to pack up everything ourselves (we're starting on it now so that closer to time we'll have almost everything packed) and then having a moving company actually do the lifting and stuff. I'll probably help unpack as much as possible and we have friends that have volunteered to help us so hopefully it'll be okay and the nursery won't be full of boxes when it comes.
Is there any way you can ask friends or family to help you move? I know that if I had a couple of my female friends helping me unpack mine and the baby's things I would feel better because since they're girly like me they won't just throw everything just anywhere. My husband is a really good listener but I think when it comes to moving he'll be too busy supervising the movers and making sure none of the furniture gets messed up and nothing gets broken or stolen. Plus the first thing he's going to want to do is get the tv and stereo hooked up to cable. lol!!!