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Most likely just me...

colrosecolrose
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I am pretty sure this post will serve as a vent and just an outlet for my feelings.  However, I felt the need to get it out. 

I have always dreamed of being a mother.  I also could not wait to get pregnant.  My husband and I have been trying for over a year, so seeing the positive was a shock (among a ton of other feelings).

Right now however I am scared and am really doubting myself as a mother.  I am terrified that once the novelty of a newborn wears off and we are back to our new "normal" I am going to hate it.  I have a feeling this all may be my emotions but they are certainly getting the better of me. 

I am downright scared for November to come...

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Re: Most likely just me...

  • QmommyQmommy member
    It is perfectly okay to be nervous about being a mom.  There are days it's hard but every day is rewarding.  Just make sure to use your resources (your DH, parents, inlaws, friends, etc) when ever possible and you will be a fantastic mother!  
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  • HPickle23HPickle23 member
    My husband and I always talked about having kids and that I really wanted to be a mom. We weren't even going to try until we had moved to our permanent residence this summer, but surprise! Our little plus sign decided to show up a little earlier. I have the same worries and fear about going from 2 to 3 in a shorter time it took us to plan our own wedding. Doubting yourself and your ability to be a mom, I find, to be completely normal. It's a huge change and big changes are scary. Sometime's children bring out a better us, and you'll most likely find that being a mom is fun and enjoyable. Right now, enjoy your pregnancy and I hope it's a happy and healthy one!
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  • rubyjem00rubyjem00 member
    I am going to be a first time mom as well and I go through those same emotions. I just plan on using all the great women around me for advice, love and guidance!
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  • Catkel1202Catkel1202 member

    Definitely not just you!  We knew we wanted kids, and although this one surprised us a little earlier than planned, we were thrilled.  The past few days, however, I get anxiety every time I look at a baby or little kid, wondering "Can I really be responsible for one of those?"  Financially, especially, I get very worried.

    I just tell myself I that these feelings will pass, I know I'm going to be a great mom, and everything will work out in the end.  I'm sure you'll be fine!

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  • greengirl0909greengirl0909 member
    Being a mom has been my dream since I was little. I couldn't wait. It took me a long time to find Mr. Right and my doctor was afarid we'd have trouble conceiving. We actually got very lucky. However about 3 months before I was due I had a major freak out.  I was worried about all the ways my life was going to change and things I was missing. I envisioned myself moving around the house with the baby as an inconvenience and not something that I wanted/desired.  I even imagined just leaving after the baby was born and forgetting I had a baby.  This passed quickly for me and once I had the baby, I could never imagine being without him.  I'd say your feelings are normal, or we're both some kind of crazy!
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  • swtness316swtness316
    It is totally normal to be freaked out and doubt yourself, no matter how much you want to be pregnant. Everything will be fine, it will be different, but you will figure it all out and it will be wonderful. In the meantime, don't worry about being scared. I am feeling that this time around as well!
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