coworkers driving me crazy Vent

cakes27 · April 2011

Everyone I work with knows I'm pregnant and my boss even said to me he wants this time to be as easy as possible for me and if I'm getting too stressed I should let him know because he's seen what can happen to an overly stressed pregnant lady.

That being said, now I feel like I'm being overloaded with work and everything needs to be done yesterday! I know that's pretty typical but right now I feel like I'm going to scream or cry. Maybe it's hormones but I feel like they're coming down on me extra hard. I don't want to say anything because I don't want to seem like I can't handle my job.

Anyone else feeling extra pressure at work after announcing your pregnancy?

katxattack · April 2011

Oh yes...

I work in a veterinary hospital as one of two registered veterinary technicians. We do ALL the work (xrays, anesthesia, lifting, struggling, fighting with bad animals...you name it.) Which means -restrictions. My Ob's brother is a veterinarian, so, I got a sweet deal. Less restrictions than most of the women I have known who have been in this senario before. I just do not do x-rays, I wear a special respirator while dealing with anesthesia, and I never lift by myself. Happy as can be.

Until.

The OTHER RVT finds out she is pregnant, about 3 weeks after I do. (shes single,older, had a donor and IVF-so good for her) Guess what- her doctors doesnt let her so S***. Ok, I get it. I understand...however... that never meant she couldnt pick up an effin mop at the end of our 10 hour day. She still expected me to do it!!! ALL of it... and I did. Until I decided enough was enough.

I finally got so fed up with her lack of helping with anything, and refused to work until I had proper help. I even produced my own 'doctors note' that stated I could not work over 8 hours a day, and needed to be accomidated when it comes to rest. Still, she sits up in the reception area and wonders why I am "so tired'. She isnt 'so tired'. She doesnt have a headache... she this. She that.

I am finally accomidated with an extra set on non-pregnant hands (thank god) and she finally got the point when I told her to back off from me. We arent friends and never were...so guess what. NO, we arent going to share a babysitter like you thought was a great plans when you were 6 weeks pregnant.

Needless to say, she drives me nuts.

cakes27 · April 2011

Well now I don't feel so bad about what I'm going through at work, it's nothing compared to what you went through. That would be miserable.

katxattack · April 2011

i think we all get our share of work related stress during pregnancy... it really isnt fair. its almost worth getting a doctors note to show to the rest of the staff at your work that says ' stop being jerks and causing stress'

gremxul · April 2011

Are you sure your boss isn't totally sexist? Once the nausea is done, pregnancy is not a mental handicap, so why did he think you would need things to be easier (unless you have a physcial job)?

And what does he mean he's "seen what can happen to an overly stressed pregnant lady." I'm sorry- what? Like, what can happen to a stressed pregnant lady that wouldn't happen to a stressed any lady? Or man? What did he see?

I would just be cautious about accepting sympathy from your boss. If the work is really more than you have been given before and more than others are getting, I would go ahead say something -- but steer clear of brining up the pregnancy, because honestly, that has nothing to do with anything.

marriedtoeric · April 2011

Yep, you're not alone. I got a promotion at the end of December, and it started the day we found out I was pregnant--I went from running one program to running a department with a staff and a budget that was quadruple what I was used to. It's been a complete whirlwind--since I told work I was pregnant, everyone is really excited for me, but the workload definitely has not slowed down a bit. In fact it's picked up significantly. Thankfully, I've been able to start scheduling fall/winter events around maternity leave and nobody is questioning them b/c of the pregnancy. I also just had my performance review, and my boss thinks I'm doing a great job so far.