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Another Birthday Party WWYD? (long)

Brynnie2010Brynnie2010
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We're going to California for Livy's birthday.  We're going to Disneyland for about 4 days and then we'll be heading up to Central/Northern California where my family is from.  My plan was to have her party in Monterey.  That is where DH and I lived before we moved to WA.  My sisters and friends are there and it would be easy for them to go to the party.  But most of my family (parents, aunts, uncles, cousins and grandparents) are in the Central Valley which is about a 2 hour drive from Monterey.  Now my mom is saying she doesn't think many people will be able to go to a party in Monterey because it's so far.

I'm flip flopping back and forth between being mad and being sad.  I understand that gas is expensive and that they all have kids to think about with a 2 hour drive, but I feel like the fact that we are making this trip to California is being overlooked.  It's like we're supposed to have her party where it's convenient for everyone else, but forget the fact that the Birthday Girl has already flown from WA to Orange County, then driven 5 hours north.  I would rather spend the last couple days before DH has to fly home (he's only getting a week leave) in Monterey than in the middle of nowhere (where my parents live.  I love it there, don't get me wrong there is just not much to do).

So what would you do? 

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Re: Another Birthday Party WWYD? (long)

  • WatchPotWatchPot

    Can you have 2 parties?  Wouldn't you want to make the trip out to the valley anyway to see your parents since you'll be so close to them?  You could do the big party in Monteray and then a small gathering later in the week.  Make it a week long celebration!

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  • Nancy_DrewNancy_Drew
    I like watchpot's idea of 2 parties, but that is a pain. If you had it by your family, would your sister and friends go up to the party if it was elsewhere? With you being in town, ND having a birthday party, I would think your aunts, uncles, grandparents etc, would want to come see you guys since you don't see them very often I imagine. Have they met Livy yet? Where would you have the party in Monterey? Where are you guys staying?
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  • MelodyFergMelodyFerg

    I understand your frustration.  My in-law's didn't come to Caden's party last year and we are only about 2 1/2 hours away and they are retired and it just didn't make sense.  I was a little upset about it, but just decided that the day was about Caden and he would have a great day!  (and don't get me wrong I actually REALLY like my in-laws)  They have since apologized and said they won't miss it again :)

    The day is about Livy and hopefully they will come around!

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  • Brynnie2010Brynnie2010

    I considered doing two parties, but it kind of felt like more work than it was worth.  Baking twice, transporting twice, decorating twice.  =P  But I think that may be the way we end up going.

    I'm not sure if my friends would make the trip to the valley or not.  Most of my family has met Livy, we went to California last October.  I would have thought that they would want to come to the party no matter where it was since they never get to see her, but I guess that's not the case.  In Monterey we would be staying with my sister and having the party at the picnic area of El Estero Park.  In the valley we would stay at my parents house and I'm not sure where we would have the party.

    I'm sure I'm just being a brat about this, but the plan all along was Disney for 4 days, then to Monterey, have the party, DH leaves from San Jose the next day, we spend a few more days in Monterey then head to my parents house until Livy and I fly home.  We decided together that we're keeping the party in Monterey like we planned, and whoever wants to come will come.  If we switch the party now, it will even throw off the travel plans to get DH to the airport.

     Thanks for your advice ladies!  I'll let you all know how it turns out! 

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  • Seattle_JiLLnSeattle_JiLLn
    If you're going to visit your parents too, then just do two parties.  Do the one you were planning in Monterey, and then at your parents just order pizza and have a cake and call it good.   You don't have to have a big orchestrated first birthday party.  Just gather with friends and eat cake.  That's all you need.
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