No Longer on the TTC train..(long)

VikingQueen · April 2011

Due to some personal reasons DH and I have decided to take a long break from TTC.. after 2+ years it is having some negative impacts on our relationship and we would rather focus on us right now. We had a big talk this morning about it and we both feel that it is in our best interest for our future.

I am actually the one who brought it up.. I am just tired of this constant feeling of anxiety and depression.. ever BFN takes a lot out of me and my marathon cycle right now is making me stuggle..

I know I want babies, but I only want them with DH.. I fear that if I continue on the road I am right now I will end up pushing him away and then what will I do? I don't know how long this break is going to last. I hope you ladies will still accept me as a active part of this community.. I don't know how I would have made it through the past 8 months without you ladies and I have made some wonderful friends on here. I don't think I could bear to part with you all who have become my family.

((big hugs)) I love you all Smile

luckymrs718 · April 2011

BIG ((((HUGS)))) to you! You have to do what's best for you guys. And you're still welcome here!

gina&dave07 · April 2011

((hugs)) to you!

I am sure it was a difficult position to step back, but if it is what is best for you and DH than you absolutely made the right decision.

I know I am still a newbie....but of course you are still welcome here! I love reading your posts and you have such a positive impact on the boards.

Best of luck to you and your DH!

MegMeg0913 · April 2011

~huge hugs~ I am so sorry that TTC has taken a toll on you and your DH. I hope that your break brings you closer together and things start looking up for you soon.

busterbeagle · April 2011

You are absolutely still welcome on the board! I'm glad you and your DH are doing what is best for you right now. I hope you enjoy the time spent nurturing your relationship during your break!

sbphotos · April 2011

To me, it sounds like the perfect decision. The most important thing is your relationship with your husband. This TTC stuff is extraordinarily stressful. Take a breather and just enjoy yourselves.

Me and my husband are TTA till AF comes. Probably not till May or June. Yesterday was our first really fun day in what seems like forever. I'm just taking this break as a chance to make me and my husband be first priority. Trying to have fun while we can ;-)

I can't imagine anyone turning you away for taking a break!

Eris-Alexis · April 2011

I think it is a great idea to focus on your relationship. TTCAL is so hard, on us and on our relationships. I wish you the best of luck, and I look forward to continue seeing you here. ((Big HUGS))

1220winterbride · April 2011

of course, you are part of this circle! hugs and bravo for making a mature and self less decision for your marriage. hugs.

rosenb2b · April 2011

First of all: {HUGE HUGS}. I know how hard that decision had to be! But, I'm very happy that you and DH have made the decision that is best for your marriage! I hope that the break from the stress of TTC helps you relax and enjoy life to the fullest ... and of course enjoy it together! Big Smile

VikingQueen · April 2011

aww you ladies made me tear up Crying

(good tears).. You are all so amazing. Thank you so much for still accepting me here

jr63_2020 · April 2011

*******Siggy warning*****

I love you buddy! Good luck, I know this is a difficult decision!!

Rawr08 · April 2011

You will always have a home here!!! You and DH made a difficult decision and you have to do what is best for you. I hope you will stick around, and when you are ready to TTC again, we will be here to offer you all the support you need! *hugs*

glitterfish 213 · April 2011

Wishing you and your DH all the best during this time! Kudos for taking a step back and focusing your energy towards your relationship.

ECHC829 · April 2011

Big (((hugs)))! I think it's really respectable for you guys to make such a decision. It's so easy to forget about yourselves when you want something more, sometimes the two of you is just enough. I hope you guys find peace and maybe a surprise BFP in the break too Wink

Tapatio · April 2011

PetraStonegirl:
Do what's best for you and your DH. Big, squishy (((HUGS))) to you!

This! ((hugs))

buckeyebaby814 · April 2011

What a hard decision, but I am happy you and your DH are on the same page about it all. Keeping your marraige strong is what is most important- I know I don't need to tell you that as you said that basically. T&Ps that you and your husband have wonderful "us" time!

myaddiwaddi06 · April 2011

Sounds like you and your hubby are looking out for each other. That's good. I am sorry your journey has come to this but it sounds like it's a decision you are at peace with. ((((big hugs))))

amidkiff · April 2011

luckymrs718:
BIG ((((HUGS)))) to you! You have to do what's best for you guys. And you're still welcome here!

This

CashewsMommy · April 2011

((((hugs)))) I'm glad you and your DH came to this conclusion together. You do what you need to do for you guys.

Muffinhb · April 2011

Im so very sorry its taken a toll on you & your hubby!! I hope the break helps you both closer together! Im always here if you need me hun! (((Bug Hugs)))

MrsMitty08 · April 2011

Hugs to you...this is such a difficult and trying process. I think you are making an amazingly responsible decision to focus on your relationship when you recognize it is struggling. Best of luck to you and we'll always be here for ya!!

Laurakat81 · April 2011

I'm glad you posted this. I think the strain this process puts on our marriages isn't talked about too much. DH and I went to marriage counseling after our second loss and it truly helped. But now that we are back at it I'm noticing some of the same issues arising again. It's partly why I was undecided about whether or not to try this cycle. I sometimes wish we hadn't started ttc so soon after we were married. I really feel like we missed out on the "honeymoon" phase. It just sucks.

I think you are doing the right thing by working on your relationship first. And of course we will still have you! I hope this break does you a world of good!

mundayem · April 2011

Oh hun I'm so sorry you guys are having a tough time. I completely understand the need to take a step back and get some couple time. I hope you guys get what you need out of this break. Of course you can't leave the board...that would be so sad! Good luck figuring out what's best for you. (((((HUGE HUGS)))))

obxjs09 · April 2011

BIG [{HUGS}]. Keep in touch! GL!

lauralew · April 2011

Very, very smart decision. It is easy to allow TTC to consume you. It didn't really consume me before my loss, but it has since. I imagine a year or so from now, if we haven't had any luck, we'll be having the same discussion.

I wish you the best of luck as you enjoy yourselves. You deserve happiness, and I think you will find a lot of it in each other.

And, yes, I hope to see you around here still!!!!

jerryliljess · April 2011

((HUGS)) I completely understand the need to take a break from something that you want so much. ((ANOTHER BIG HUG))

xnbride · April 2011

Oh sweetie, I commend you for knowing when to take the power back and to put the focus on your marriage. It is so hard to find a good balance and you are doing what you need to do to restore your relationship. You are a wonderful example to all of us.

Big hugs. And you better stick around girl! Things would get pretty dull.

tiffany119 · April 2011

HUGS honey! I hope you two find your break to be a time of reconnection and no stress.

I would personally be very upset with you if you left this board (except for PgAL of course). Please keep us posted when you're back on the train!

Jamers615 · April 2011

I think by being adult, and focusing on your relationship, you still ARE TTC. Maybe not actively doing the horizontal mambo with a point, but you're making decisions to strengthen your bond with DH, and get back to a good place for your future take home baby.

So, OF COURSE you'd better stay. We all love you, we'd be sad if you left us!

Pweeease don't leave?

jertie · April 2011

That's a huge decision to make - I know that it's not an easy one - but I'm glad that your both are on the same page. ((BIG HUGS))

kmount · April 2011

((hugs)) your relationship comes first

Carolee · April 2011

(((HUGS))) to you. Wishing you all the best - do what you need to do for you and your DH. We're here for you.

karma79 · April 2011

You have to do what is good for your relationship - we will always be here for you so don't worry about that. Take time for the two of you. GL and big hug!!!

mandy6418 · April 2011

Many :::HUGS:::. I know that making that decision had to be so hard. We are always here for you.

kate626 · April 2011

I am glad you made the right decision that works for you and your DH.

I am also glad you are going to stay on the board... My first thought was... no she cant leave unless its for PGAL... You can COme to TTA with me for a while! Smile

roxygirl1281 · April 2011

::BIG HUGS:: Thinking of you!!!! Wishing you and DH all the best!

jldubb0626 · April 2011

((Big huge hugs))

lavril · April 2011

Huge (((HUGS))) I'm sure that was an incredibly hard decision to make, and I applaud you for taking a hard look at yourself and your relationship and doing what's best for you two. You are definitely welcome here anytime!!!

luckylady55 · April 2011

I admire you for taking a step back and looking at what you need. We're always here if you need us. GL

LilMaggs · April 2011

*huge hugs* TTC or TTA, you're always welcome here. PM me anytime you need anything

MrsMeMo · April 2011

I'm so sorry to hear this, but glad to hear that you and your DH are making sure your relationship is on solid ground before going forward.

You're a solid fixture around here, and you always give great support and sound advice, so I hope you stick around if you're able.

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