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March 2011 Moms
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Can I just vent?!
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I just need to get this out, I'm sure it will be long...
I wrote a post yesterday about DS eating like crazy so I think I'm a little on edge from that and the exhaustion of having him constantly latched onto me. It doesn't help though that MIL is in town visiting. I've heard nothing but how she couldn't wait to get here and help us out with everything...I have yet to see this "help". If anything she is just making more work and stress for me, surprise surprise. She only wants to hold DS when he doesn't need anything and isn't fussy and has convinced DH, who was beyond helpful w/ the baby before she got here, that I'm the only one who can take care of and soothe DS (fun for me right?) example, last night DS started to fuss around 8, this is when I've been trying to start his bedtime routine so I said "I think it's time for his bath" and took him and got his bath ready. Neither one of them budged from the couch and I ended up giving him a bath by myself and then nursed him AGAIN and put him to bed by myself which took almost 2 hours because he was still fussy. On top of caring for DS apparently I've also become a maid. I've cooked dinner the past 2 nights and have also done ALL of the dishes both nights. I didn't even really get a chance to eat dinner last night but neither one of them had a problem leaving their dirty dinner plates in the sink for me to take care of! Also, apparently trash cans are overrated and just leaving soda cans, wrappers, etc around is a much better idea (or maybe it is like an early easter egg hunt for me). UGH!!!
I think the kicker that set me off happened this morning though. MIL had requested that I make bbq pulled pork while she is here and I told her I was okay with making that for dinner tonight. I needed to go to the grocery store to get stuff to make it though and I make it in the crockpot so it takes awhile to cook. Well DS has been up since 6 and fussy all morning, I've been the only one up with him (MIL slept in until 9 and DH till 10, must be nice). Needless to say I haven't really had time to go to the store or cook. DH and her just left to go run some errands but before they did she mentioned something about dinner and I told her we were going to have to figure something else out because I didn't have time to make pulled pork and it was too late to start it. Now she is mad at me 
as if I did it on purpose. As she left she snidely remarked "I guess we'll just have to order a pizza or something"
I think the only thing that is helping me to bite my tongue with her is that I can get on here and vent! I know the stuff w/ DH is my own fault because I'm letting him get away with it but for some reason when she is here I just bottle everything up and don't ask for help or tell him what is bothering me. Oh well thanks for letting me vent if you made it this far.
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Re: Can I just vent?!
I would take your LO and check into a hotel, order room service, put the tv on and snuggle in bed with your baby. Let you husband and his mom figure out what they are going to do.
I hope they realise what they should be doing. I probably would tell them off but that's my style.
Hang in there!
You are probably feeling crazed from all the feeding but I would be having a fit too if I were in your shoes. My DH would be getting an earful from me! She should be making dinner/ordering pizza. I would enjoy this time that they are out and call your H and tell him to pick up something for dinner, you have too much on your plate. I would tell your H he has to clean up too that's ridiculous. When is she leaving?
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I am definitely enjoying the quiet, DH knows I'm bothered about something but can't figure it out...it definitely takes a rocket scientist to see what could possibly be bothering me 
This exactly! I would definitely say something to DH... and just stop doing stuff around the house. You shouldn't have to play host to your MIL when you have a newborn! The whole point was that she was supposed to be coming to help you. I hope she gets the hint!