2nd time mamas--- I had a mommy meltdown today..... have you?

smiling76 · April 2011

So today started out awesome---DS actually slept until after 6--normally he's up around 5:20ish....it sucks. We were at the park by 8:45 this morning--great weather--- had plans to go back home and play outside some more, snacks, play and lunch and then his nap--and then some errands (like getting stuff for dinners for the week since I have to make them all ahead of time) and then working on some craft stuff for his easter party at daycare and stuff like that.

RIGHT. All went well until after lunch---then NO nap. Refused to go to his room--refused to snuggle with me (where I know he'll fall asleep). Stuff like that. Then started acting out a bit--not horrible, but I was already aggravated by no nap and was super tired myself--so that made it worse.

My DH is working nights and has been for the last week and will all this week---- so he's sleeping during this time. I'm trying to keep DS as quiet as possible--but he starts really crying horribly. Finally a couple hours later my DH gets up and I have a MELTDOWN..... nothing was done today---I didn't even get to make him anything for dinner because we never made it to the store. It was horrible.

So during this meltdown I start almost panicking to myself about having another LO--- knowing DS will still have his 'no nap days'--and then I might also be left with a colicky baby (DS was insanely colicky, reflux and allergic). I seriously wanted to run away.

The night got worse after DH left--but I handled it as best I could. Basically totally ignoring his tantrums. It's weird b/c I've been lucky--he really never gets tantrums. Ugh.......how the heck am I going to handle two???????? Especially when DH is working nights like this--and not just nights--- 12 hr shifts. So I have absolutely no help. And no family/friends to help me either. I work part-time so I'm home with DS 5 out of 7 days of the week. It's a lot.

So what has your latest meltdown been about??

3plus1more · April 2011

Latest was about NONE of my clothes fitting!! But mom related I, just like you, freaked out about DD1&2 not minding & fighting & this all out war that started in my house!! I think they are anxious bc they know the baby is coming soon & I think the change of it all is what is causing them to act this way. My 5yr old had a melt down about going to school & I didnt have time for it so I just put her shoes in my purse picked her up drove to her dads & dropped her off I didnt know what I was going to do I never felt so angry & helpless or like I was going to explode on my kid b4!! By the end of the street I was in tears but by the time I got to work I really felt so much better & since she has been home she has been an angel.

I really didnt think about all the madness I was bringing a baby into with the girls around here. Poor little guy

luvbeingmom · April 2011

meltdowns occur frequently around here

ds is 5, dd1 is 22mos, and dd2 will be here in june.

some days go great, and some days, you can't even get simple things done. sometimes the little things just add up. like when dd is screaming when i'm trying to put her in her car seat, ds son isn't following directions and not getting in the car like i asked him to, and then i break a nail, and then i spill everything out of my diaper bag because i forgot to zipper it up, and then i don't know where i set my keys, oh that's right they're on the backseat when i was fighting to get dd in her seat... *SIGH*... i start to feel the frustration bubble up, so in this case i would literally just sit in the drivers seat, take a deep breath and wait a few minutes before i even start the car.

really anytime, i feel like that, no matter where i am, i just stop, gain some composure and i feel much better after that. even though you're mom, you're allowed to just walk away for a few mins, and don't forget that!

Bree4011 · April 2011

My husband travels for work and is out of town Mon-Thur. and still goes in for a regular work day on Fri. so we only get 2 days with him. He spent most of yesterday playing video games (I had a baby shower) and so I thought today he'd spend the day with us but he claimed he had a lot of work to do. He ended up playing video games again (he got a new game) I was upset all day, and then he did cook dinner but right after he ate headed back to his computer room and I told him he should stay and hang out with us and he threw a little tantrum about fine he'd just sit there while we ate and then he'd have to stay up until 2am to finish his work. As if it was my fault he was behind on work. Hello video games!

I got so mad and also my daughter wasn't listening, she dropped her hot dog on the floor twice (dog got it both times) and I just broke down into a big blubbering mess and I've been crying on and off since then and every time it gives me braxton hicks. Ugh!

I understand my hubby works really hard and traveling is a huge pain in the ass and he needs some time for himself as well, but still he needs to spend some time with his family, especially before the baby comes.

PinkBackPack · April 2011

Everyone has those days Smiling! I hope tomorrow goes better for you.

I didn't have a meltdown, but DD was exceptionally difficult today. DH was here to help, so I think that is what prevent the meltdown. DD threw several major tantrums. I get so frustrated because I don't know how to handle it. DH is going to start working major overtime hours, so I forsee several meltdowns in the future.

skidunks · April 2011

I just about lost it today in the grocery store when DS ran away from me while I was checking out. I was so pissed and then he wouldn't get in his carseat and I can't get in the backseat of my car very easily anymore. I wanted to cry. I hear ya!!

sjkammer · April 2011

My hubby is in Iraq and besides a 2 week break a few months back has been gone for 6 months straight. We have a DS who is 3 and up until 2 months ago has been an angel child. I had heard about the threes and how they can be worse than the twos but I figured he would breeze right through it like he has done with every stage in his little life. Well not now, he quit sleeping through the night, he wakes me up at least 2 times a night and the other night it was 6, yes 6 times in one night. He has also gone on a food strike and he contradicts everything I say. If I tell him yes, he says no, if i tell him no he says yes. I am 34 weeks along and am getting to that really crabby, uncomfortable stage with my pregnancy so needless to say the patience level has gone down. It is so frustrating dealing with his behavior right now 24/7 without my hubbys help. Luckily he will be home next weekend and he is primed to take over with daddy duty. Tonight after DS bath, which he told me he wasn't going to take even though he got in without a fuss and which he also threw bath foam all over the bathroom after being told not to, he tells me he is hungry and would like a hot dog and baked beans. So I heat him up a plate and he only takes a couple bites and tells me he is done, well after a long day of butting heads with him, I tell him he is not done and he says "I not hungry" so I am just fumming and my hubby gets on skype and I tell him I am at my wits end. Lucky for me, I have a great guy who reassures me and tells me that it will be ok and to just put a cover over DS plate and save for later. He tells me he wishes he was here to take over and help but that he will be soon. I have had plenty of meltdowns lately and over the smallest things like his rejected dinner. I often worry about how I will handle it with a new baby too. It is harder than I thought it would be to be pregnant and be mom to a 3 year old. I am just so thankful DH will be home soon and can take over. Parenting is definately easier when you have a good support system and help.

Mrs.McLovin · April 2011

My last breakdown was last week. I've been having difficulty with walking and pain for months. Well after working 10 hours and going to physical therapy for 2 hours, I was exhausted when I got home. When I got up from my desk chair for some water, I was so stiff I could barely move. I just started crying there. Sobbing about how much longer I have to do this while working. Felt like anass because DS was in the room. DH got me water and let me cry.

cherokeemomma87 · April 2011

Yeah, my DS is the same with no napping sometimes. Getting him to sleep on his own is going well, but the staying asleep is the BIG problem. I get woken up in the middle of the night and most of the time stay up till really early trying to get him back to sleep while letting DH get as much sleep as possible. It is at this time that I have my meltdowns. I am so tired and being pregnant doesnt help, then I think about the fact that when our daughter comes I am going to be up every 2 hours with feedings and I am going to have to juggle two awake and crying kids. Then I wonder when I am going to get to sleep, and it becomes to much and I loose it and start bawling.

Eiskonigin · April 2011

DS threw a HUGE temper tantrum last week while they had hubby out at the field. I'm used to not having DH home for most of the day. He leaves at a little before 6 in the morning for PT, and then doesn't get back home until after 6 pm. It comes with the territory. I can kind of even deal with the constant field training. They usually take them out on Mondays, and then they don't return home until Thursday or Friday. This is all leading up to his second deployment in less than two years...

What I CAN'T handle is how my little Angel has suddenly turned into a monster. He used to be such a quiet baby. He rarely fussed, did what he was told, and was super easy to get to take naps. Now, he is throwing his food at me, spitting it at me, smacking me, and will not nap for anything (unless I want him to scream bloody murder for a good hour). My family is all over a thousand miles away, I have no friends up here, and it's just all around stressful at times.

After that one big temper tantrum he threw, I started to freak. What if this baby isn't like he was? What if the new baby only maks these tantrums worse? How am I going to take care of a boy who isn't even two yet, and then a new born baby on my own? What am I going to do while hubby is deployed? I was freaking out, and I couldn't even deal with my son for a while. I just ended up putting him in his bed and letting him scream. I'm supposed to be on bed rest, but haven't been able to really do that. When hubby gets home, he doesn't feel like cleaning or anything, so if I want it done, I have to do it. Needless to say, I've been told to stay on bed rest since I was 2 months into this pregnancy and haven't been able to get that order off because I just CAN'T. It makes it hard...and there are days that I just can't get all the things done that were supposed to be done. I've had those moments where everything just hits me all at once and I start crying like a baby.

Everyone has those meltdown once in a while, and I think being pregnant, we are granted a few extra now and then. Just go ahead and have it, and let yourself feel a whole heck of a lot better.

mesr · April 2011

i feel like i'm having meltdowns every day! other than 30 minutes in the morning, i have no time to myself. yesterday, dd was awake from 7am to 9pm... dh was off working. and i was trying to re-caulk the bathtub all morning. i managed to slice my finger open with the de-caulking tool (cue dd repetitively saying "want bandage?"). and i was so uncomfortable trying to bend over and scrape out the old caulk. just gasping for air against the surge of acid reflux. dd was very curious about what i was doing and kept getting in the way and knocking over the trashcan...

ericaelaine2 · April 2011

I'm sorry! No nap days would set me right over the edge. DS hasn't pulled that stunt yet and I think I would freak out!! Hang in there....

justme04 · April 2011

Most of my meltdowns lately have been about food (and not wanting to have to be the only one to cook).

But I've had a meltdown or two over DS not taking a nap and being super cranky and tired. Which is always fun as a SAHM because you have to figure out how to resolve it completly on your own.

There have been several occasions lately where things have happend and I start wondering how I will ever manage two.

WhatJustHappened · April 2011

Oh I had a melt down on Sunday. Feeling overwhelmed...no progress on any house things that need to get done before this babe arrives in 11 short weeks. DS (who will be 4 in May) is typically an angel and give me no problems. He talked non-stop and asked questions all morning long. I would tell him not to do something and two seconds later he was doing it again. I felt like all I did was yell at him all morning. My mom called (my husband was down at our boat, becuase you know tis the season and the boat trumps everything) and as soon as she said "how are you" I lost it. Sobbing. Felt like the biggest idiot. She said "bring him over and you are not getting him back until tomorrow night". Thank goondess for her. I got so much stuff done around the house....had my friend come over and paint one of the bedrooms, put stuff away....got organized. Came up with a game plan! I felt like I had gotten everything together in my head until I called to say good morning and he bursts into tears and says "I just want to see my mommy! I miss you so much!"

Yeah....he ripped my heart out and tap danced on it.

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