MH's apparently against homebirth

sourapplemartini · April 2011

I'm toying with the idea of going medfree with our next baby. We have a hot tub, and I joked with MH that when I get close to being due we should empty the tub of chemicals so I can use it as a laboring tub. He got a little pale and said, "Why would we do that??!" and I said, so I can labor at home for awhile before I go to the hospital. He was like, "No f'ing way. When you go into labor we go to the hospital." I said, "So you don't want me to give birth at home then?" and he glared at me and said, "Don't even joke about that." LOL.

andrew's wifey · April 2011

So is DH. He's one of those 'always be prepared for the worst case scenario' guys. The thought of not having a doctor present makes him a little woozy.

akalutts · April 2011

My husband is the opposite. It doesn't help that someone in our building had a home birth last year. He thinks it's a great idea - "We're only 5 minutes from the hospital if we have to head in, let's just try to do it here and see."

I'm very granola, but it's just not me. I'm pretty darn sure I'm gonna want an epi at some point. I also don't want to be responsible for the cleanup.

sourapplemartini · April 2011

Oh I'm completely against it too. I'm looking forward to a few days in the hospital with people waiting on me, and the maternity ward at our hospital has people who come around and give the new moms massages. It's freaking awesome.

ohashlet · April 2011

akalutts:
My husband is the opposite. It doesn't help that someone in our building had a home birth last year. He thinks it's a great idea - "We're only 5 minutes from the hospital if we have to head in, let's just try to do it here and see."

I'm very granola, but it's just not me. I'm pretty darn sure I'm gonna want an epi at some point. I also don't want to be responsible for the cleanup.

A good midwife would never make you responsible for your own cleanup. You're busy bonding with your new baby!

akalutts · April 2011

ohashlet:
akalutts:

My husband is the opposite. It doesn't help that someone in our building had a home birth last year. He thinks it's a great idea - "We're only 5 minutes from the hospital if we have to head in, let's just try to do it here and see."

I'm very granola, but it's just not me. I'm pretty darn sure I'm gonna want an epi at some point. I also don't want to be responsible for the cleanup.

A good midwife would never make you responsible for your own cleanup. You're busy bonding with your new baby!

Oh, I know. DH was talking no midwife. He's 95% joking. He was reading Where there is no Doctor at the time and said "I could totally do this."

Another part of the consideration is that we really can't afford it. I know that it's relatively inexpensive, but when compared to what my health care covers it's 20 times what we will pay for prenatal care and delivery.

I am amazed and in awe of women who are strong enough to have homebirths - I wish that healthcare would come around to see the benefits of that process and fund it. It's just not for me.

ohashlet · April 2011

akalutts:
Oh, I know. DH was talking no midwife. He's 95% joking. He was reading Where there is no Doctor at the time and said "I could totally do this."

Another part of the consideration is that we really can't afford it. I know that it's relatively inexpensive, but when compared to what my health care covers it's 20 times what we will pay for prenatal care and delivery.

I am amazed and in awe of women who are strong enough to have homebirths - I wish that healthcare would come around to see the benefits of that process and fund it. It's just not for me.

Oh. Well, I'd never have considered a home birth if there wasn't a super experienced midwife involved. Freebirthing is insane IMO.

Have you looked into whether your insurance would cover it? With mine, midwives are covered the same as an OB which is wonderful.

WaitingOnTwoPinkLines · April 2011

ohashlet:
akalutts:
Oh, I know. DH was talking no midwife. He's 95% joking. He was reading Where there is no Doctor at the time and said "I could totally do this."
Another part of the consideration is that we really can't afford it. I know that it's relatively inexpensive, but when compared to what my health care covers it's 20 times what we will pay for prenatal care and delivery.
I am amazed and in awe of women who are strong enough to have homebirths - I wish that healthcare would come around to see the benefits of that process and fund it. It's just not for me.
Oh. Well, I'd never have considered a home birth if there wasn't a super experienced midwife involved. Freebirthing is insane IMO.
Have you looked into whether your insurance would cover it? With mine, midwives are covered the same as an OB which is wonderful.

Who do you have your insurance through, Ashlet?

I would love to homebirth, but I have to admit, I'm a little scared to. We are 30 minutes from the nearest (competent) hospital, so I'm not sure I'd feel totally comfortable. But a lady I know (who is also a doula) had at least one, I think two, homebirth(s) & she lives farther out than we do. I think if I had a midwife I trusted & could convince DH, I'd be good to go. It also helps that DH is now in law enforcement & could procure a police escort if needed But of course, cost would be a factor. We have pretty good insurance, but I've never checked into whether they cover midwives or not.

Scout05 · April 2011

My husband is the son of an OB/GYN; he also gets pale at the very suggestion of a home birth. It was never on the table for me, personally - I want drugs, and I want them early - but I think if I even suggested the idea, he would probably faint.

BobbiJanay07 · April 2011

Mine is against it too. Mostly I think because his sister is an l and d nurse, she has filled him with horror stories.

akalutts · April 2011

ohashlet:
akalutts:

Oh, I know. DH was talking no midwife. He's 95% joking. He was reading Where there is no Doctor at the time and said "I could totally do this."

Another part of the consideration is that we really can't afford it. I know that it's relatively inexpensive, but when compared to what my health care covers it's 20 times what we will pay for prenatal care and delivery.

I am amazed and in awe of women who are strong enough to have homebirths - I wish that healthcare would come around to see the benefits of that process and fund it. It's just not for me.

Oh. Well, I'd never have considered a home birth if there wasn't a super experienced midwife involved. Freebirthing is insane IMO.
Have you looked into whether your insurance would cover it? With mine, midwives are covered the same as an OB which is wonderful.

ITA.

They don't cover anything off site - they staff a lot of CNMs who do a lot of the prenatal care (though you can see an OB if you prefer) and the CNMs also do a lot of the deliveries unless there are complications. They are office visit/hospital birth only. For the most part, I've found most of them do not have the same mind set as the Midwives who do homebirths (my aunt does homebirths - got her RN then did her midwife schooling, but is in another state.) I like the one I have right now (so far) but who delivers you is completely up to rotation, not who you see for prenatal care.

GBCK · April 2011

Since we're 45 min from a hospital, we had a lot of things 'just in case'--we didn't plan to homebirth but thought that making sure we had a pile o' stuff wasn't a bad idea 'just in case' . But the Mr. made it clear that using said pile would make him VERY unhappy

Of course, then I had to be induced so it was moot :P

ohashlet · April 2011

WaitingOnTwoPinkLines:
ohashlet:
akalutts:
Oh, I know. DH was talking no midwife. He's 95% joking. He was reading Where there is no Doctor at the time and said "I could totally do this."
Another part of the consideration is that we really can't afford it. I know that it's relatively inexpensive, but when compared to what my health care covers it's 20 times what we will pay for prenatal care and delivery.
I am amazed and in awe of women who are strong enough to have homebirths - I wish that healthcare would come around to see the benefits of that process and fund it. It's just not for me.
I have dual coverage with Premera and United.
Oh. Well, I'd never have considered a home birth if there wasn't a super experienced midwife involved. Freebirthing is insane IMO.
Have you looked into whether your insurance would cover it? With mine, midwives are covered the same as an OB which is wonderful.

Who do you have your insurance through, Ashlet?
I would love to homebirth, but I have to admit, I'm a little scared to. We are 30 minutes from the nearest (competent) hospital, so I'm not sure I'd feel totally comfortable. But a lady I know (who is also a doula) had at least one, I think two, homebirth(s) & she lives farther out than we do. I think if I had a midwife I trusted & could convince DH, I'd be good to go. It also helps that DH is now in law enforcement & could procure a police escort if needed But of course, cost would be a factor. We have pretty good insurance, but I've never checked into whether they cover midwives or not.

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