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Oh brother!

roselln2roselln2
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My brother is very excited that I'm pregnant and has been very supportive. In the past he has said things about how he plans on hopping in the car as soon as he finds out I'm in labor (back before we knew about the placenta issues). I live about six hours away from all my family, and while I'd love for people to visit me in the hospital, I am not at all interested in playing hostess and having people stay with us so soon after little L's arrival. As such, I have been very clear with everyone that we want a week before guests. I have been particularly firm with my brother because... well... he's not good at following directions.

The other day we were chatting on the phone when he asked the date of our c-section. I told him, and he immediately followed by asking for the name of the hospital. I told him while crossing my fingers he won't remember since he doesn't live here. He then asked where it was. There are three hospitals that are part of that family, so I decided to vaguely answer, "I dunno... Maybe 30 minutes or so." At that point I reminded him about our one week rule.

Please, please, please don't show up uninvited, dear brother! I really don't think I could have been any more firm and clear to him in my wishes.
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  • MyShellyBellyMyShellyBelly
    It's neat that he's so excited about the arrival of your LO, but hopefully he'll respect your wishes and wait a week. Good luck!!
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  • CarrieB.CarrieB. member
    The next time he calls can you give him some information on nearby hotels? Maybe that would help him get the hint. 
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  • DrVWifeDrVWife member
    It is cute that he is so excited.  Hopefully he will respect your wishes!
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  • QE2QE2 member
    Hopefully he's just looking to send flowers otherwise turn off the lights and draw the blinds!!
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    It is cute that he is so excited.  Hopefully he will respect your wishes!

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  • Temp616379875002458Temp616379875002458 member

    I had to have the same conversation with my in-laws, my DH and my SIL.  DH thought everyone could just stay here!

    I don't have a solid relationship with his family, but I am working on it.  His sister is fine, but I don't want any houseguests when I come home from the hospital with baby - that will be enough of a learning curve.  I don't want to have to worry about the extra dishes in the sink or whether someone is leaving wet towels hanging on the antique bedposts.

    DH's aunt offered a place (her house) for DH's parents to stay when the baby comes, and I couldn't have been more thrilled....but since that time, she has bought a condo elsewhere and is putting her house on the market. :(  Luckily, I've already had the conversation with my MIL, who seemed to be very understanding, that it would be very hard to deal with houseguests.

    I want to be able to take a nap and not tell people to turn down the TV.  It is always easier to be sharp/honest with my own relatives than those of DH.

    So, I say, be honest with your brother - you can be more gentle, but candid, about how a houseguest would be a burden at that time!!!!

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    I had to have the same conversation with my in-laws, my DH and my SIL.  DH thought everyone could just stay here!

    I don't have a solid relationship with his family, but I am working on it.  His sister is fine, but I don't want any houseguests when I come home from the hospital with baby - that will be enough of a learning curve.  I don't want to have to worry about the extra dishes in the sink or whether someone is leaving wet towels hanging on the antique bedposts.

    DH's aunt offered a place (her house) for DH's parents to stay when the baby comes, and I couldn't have been more thrilled....but since that time, she has bought a condo elsewhere and is putting her house on the market. :(  Luckily, I've already had the conversation with my MIL, who seemed to be very understanding, that it would be very hard to deal with houseguests.

    I want to be able to take a nap and not tell people to turn down the TV.  It is always easier to be sharp/honest with my own relatives than those of DH.

    So, I say, be honest with your brother - you can be more gentle, but candid, about how a houseguest would be a burden at that time!!!!

    Oh, I have been very candid with him. I've told him firmly, but kindly, that I've never had a baby much less had to recover from a c-section so we don't know what to expect and that we will not be ready for guests for at least a week. Did you know my brother in HS? He's a good person but can be exasperating. I think what I should do is talk to my dad. Perhaps if he's also hearing it from him, he'll think, "Hmmm... Maybe she really means it." Ha ha. I generally love surprises, but I don't think I'd love a surprise houseguest in this case.
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