Nervous about telling people

Julie822 · April 2011

Is anyone else nervous about telling people? We are done with first tri tomorrow, and since I am definitely showing already (stupid short torso), will probably be telling everyone by the end of next week. But, for some reason, I am nervous about everyone knowing. I think it is from thinking for so many weeks that I can't tell anyone in case something goes wrong that I can't move on from that frame of mind. The fact that I have been spotting for the past 9 weeks doesn't help either, even though the doctor said that shouldn't impact me telling people.

Anyone else?

jmott427 · April 2011

Yes! I just told work on Wednesday b/c I am starting to show (short torso too!) and was paranoid people would start talking and wondering if i didn't tell and I didn't want that. I still don't feel comfortable with the news being out b/c like you said, we waited so many weeks in case anything goes wrong it feels uncomfortable to be "out". Its such a personal wonderful thing that I'm just so protective. We haven't told all of our friends and extended fam yet b/c they live out of town but will be telling in the next 1-3 weeks. But at the same time I don't want to wait so long that i'm almost done with the pregnancy and they feel bad I haven't told them yet.

melimelg · April 2011

I am. With the two recent losses (especially the first one) I am still waiting for the shoe to drop on this one.

We have the NT scan on tuesday so once we are though that, I will tell work and everyone else.

alison2379 · April 2011

I understand. I feel the same way.

rkto · April 2011

we have the NT scan on Thursday and we are telling family on Easter weekend.

I am not nervous to tell - I am super excited.

but there is a small superstitious part of me that feels like if we tell, we will jinx ourselves. My SIL (I caved and told her already and she is the most superstitious person I know) said that she would never celebrate a birthday before it happened (see, superstitious) but she would definitely plan the party.

swankbride · April 2011

If you can believe it I am more nervous now that we have told work and family. It's just an added amount of pressure if something (god forbid) goes wrong.

I am just trying to focus on the fact that the chance of something going wrong goes down each day.

stars0515 · April 2011

I was a nervous wreck when we told both our parents! I was so sick to my stomach. I'm not sure why, but I was. We were married last May and had been together for 6 years when we did get married. I guess it was just stuck in my head that they may be mad at us, which is silly. And of course, they were all ecstatic!

cantalopes24 · April 2011

I'm not nervous as much as I have no clue how to bring it up. Im thinking if just responding "Pregnant" when people say "How are you"

triple_sevens · April 2011

I've been extremely anxious about telling. Every time I tell I new person, a little part of me goes, "Great. Now's when everything's going to go to hell."

What's helping me is to only tell a few people at a time. At first we just told immediate family. Then, at 12 weeks, we starting telling a few close friends, but I've been spacing it out a lot (I'm only telling people when I see them). I go a week at a time without telling anyone at all, and I need that for my sanity. We're waiting until 16 weeks for the real "going public" with work and extended family and friends. Our parents are definitely not happy that they're not allowed to tell the world. But they respect our wishes, thankfully.

It's hard and scary, especially if you've had a loss or struggled to get here. But it's getting a little easier with each person we tell.

alleypants · April 2011

I'm so happy someone else felt this way!! I've been married since August 2009 and turn 28 on the 17th (husband is 36. First baby/marriage for both). Nothing to worry about, right?! I don't know about you, but I think (know) I have this complex about feeling too young for everything. More accurately, worried about everyone else thinking I'm too young. I think it's because I am the youngest of two girls and my sister is seven years older than me, so I got really used to being told I couldn't do the things she did. Thus, when I do hit the various age landmarks, I always feel insecure about it. When I was a kid I milked the cute, silly baby sister role, so to this day it is ingrained in my personality to not take anything too seriously- and always be the comical, sarcastic relief. As a result, I've cultivated this assumption that no one takes me seriously. What I've come to realize is that this neurotic assumption is simply not true! It's okay to find humor in daily life, and that does not make me sophomoric or any less of a "grown-up." I am not my sister, nor do I have to prove to anyone that I'm entitled to the things she has. (For the record, we have a great relationship!)

I'm sure your situation has different causes, but it comforts me to know someone else shares the symptom. Thanks for humoring my rant- I've tried to google my "psychosis" and have come up short every time Sorry if I made you my de facto psychologist! I hope everything is going well with you!

alleypants · April 2011

Oops! Meant to send that to a specific person. Just change the pronouns, etc. accordingly, friends

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