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khouser09
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Friends?...
khouser09
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So Im 19 and 6 months and 2 days pregnant. My boyfriend and I lived in Bloomington together for about 9 months before I got pregnant. When I found out I was pregnant we moved back to my hometown of Aurora, IN (about 20 mins from downtown Cinci). I dont know if its just the hormones or what but Im feeling ridiculously lonely and somewhat depressed. Ive been trying to fight off the "depression" because we both are very excited about baby Layla coming in July, but not being around basically ANY friends and constantly being at my apartment and/or working is taking some getting used to... Im used to being around a ton of friends and always having people to hang out with or something to do. Now the only people we hang out with each other when we arent at work. The few friends I do have around here are on totally different pages than me now. My boyfriend and I are completely ready to grow up and support our little girl and put the partying in the backseat but just having some company and hanging out with friends would be nice once in a while. This whole situation is making me not be able to enjoy my pregnancy as much as I wanted to. I feel like being pregnant is making me not be able to do anything and its horrible. Any suggestions?
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Re: Friends?...
Hi, dear. Welcome to the board. I want to say something really profound, because I don't like that you are feeling sad, especially right now. However, my brain isn't firing on all cylinders, this week; and I keep coming up short in the inspirational department.
If nothing more, know that you are welcome here. Please ask any questions that you might have. Hopefully, we can help you along the way and provide some support.
Hi, welcome
I cant kind of relate to your situation. When I first moved to Cincinnati, I had a ton of friends because I came here for college and it's basically impossible not to make friends when you live in the dorms, etc. I had a great group of girlfriends, but when we graduated in 2007, everyone moved away. Only one of my friends stayed in Cincinnati, and she's in medical school, so very very busy. Obviously, being a new mom, I'm very busy as well. I was determined to make new friends, so here's how I did it..
1. My husband and I joined a small group at our church. We did this right after we got married, so about a year ago, and we met 4 other young couples. The small group was only 6 weeks long, but we still meet together with the group at least once a month. We are the only ones with a baby, but we had them over a couple of weeks ago and the rest of them are ALL trying to get pregnant now, too! So, even if you meet some couples without children, chances are that could change pretty quickly.
2. While planning my wedding, I was on theknot.com a lot. Similar to this board and the nest. We had a get together with about 10 girls. A few of us got along really well and I have 3 AWESOME friends from that group. One of them already had kids, one of them just had a baby in September, and another is due in May. I met these girls 3 years ago. Maybe this could happen for you if you go to some get togethers on this board? Or the nest.
3. While I was pregnant, I joined a prenatal water aerobics class. The group met 1-2 times per week and it was all pregnant women, going through exactly what I was going through. Most of them first time moms. We started a facebook group and have get togethers once in a while, and we also get our babies together now, too. Maybe you could do a local search for something similar? The water aerobics class that I took was at Mercy Healthplex in Anderson.
Hopefully some of these things are helpful. I have found that the more you put yourself out there, the more people are willing to do the same. Try not to be discouraged! Motherhood is amazing and I bet you will meet some new moms soon, even if it's just at the park once your baby comes.
That must be very frustrating. As the previous posters said, it is important to put yourself out there. Even if it means joining a local playgroup once the baby is born, or coming to one of the get-togethers, having other friends who are moms can really help. I've also found that it's easier to meet moms now that I have a baby....moms sort of gravitate toward each other because we're all going through the same thing.
I wish you lots of luck! Post anytime!
Hi! Welcome to the board! I felt a lot like you did right after I had DD. None of my close friends had children yet, so it was very difficult to relate to them. I found I had to try a lot harder with my "old" friends. I think a lot of them thought I wouldn't want to just hang out anymore since I was a mom, but really I needed to spend time with the people who knew me as me and not just me as a mom, KWIM? I tried to limit talking about DD and being a parent in general and just keep my mouth shut when they said they were tired...
I also agree that you should put yourself out there to make some Mommy friends too. It's good to have other moms to talk to and who can relate in that way. Although I still don't feel like I have a "best" mommy friend. Maybe someday...
Thank you so much everyone! Im still pretty new to The Bump so thats why it took me so long to even see if anyone had responded to my post. But I really appreciate all of the position support. Things are getting better as my boyfriend recently started a new job and made a couple friends that way, they dont have kids but they arent college students like most of our other friends we moved away from, so I think they are a little more mature. Also Im attending cosmetology school in September and hoping to make some new friends that way and maybe even some with children
I honestly didnt think being 19 and pregnant would be too difficult. I'll be 20 when Layla is born. I mean yes, I am young, I realize that.But I graduated high school, attend some college, have my own car,place,job,amazing boyfriend( hopefully soon to be fiance
) but I really have had to miss out on a lot of things most girls my age are still doing. AKA living up the college life. I dont mean to really get into the whole "teen mom" thing but I could NOT imagine being any younger than I am and missing out on my teenage years.