lonely after mc.. anyone else?

jennayn · April 2011

its just over a month and i dont ever want to leave the house, go out with friends, or let my husband leave my side when hes home/around... i have this new found loneilness... maybe because of the loss.. im not quite sure but i never was like this before... anyone else like this and if so how did u break it if u did?

hope u ladies had a good week

emeraudecephiro · April 2011

I had this as well, I hope you feel better soon. Sometimes it is best to absorb yourself in a project to try to help.

jen629 · April 2011

I am still sad and lonely and that is why I hang out here

glitterfish 213 · April 2011

You are not alone in how you feel, this is a difficult time. I hope you find the comfort and support you need.

jennayn · April 2011

im starting to hang out here more too.. i cant bump at work or school so as soon as i get home im on... maybe some scrapbooking or something while i wait to see f i got into the NYC marathon... i know training for another one will take my mind off of things.. i need the summer weather so i can get outside! its rainy and cold here =( soooo ready for summer!!

emJ0605 · April 2011

I don't want to push religion but after my m/c I now know that I have a very tiny special someone looking down on me through out every chapter of my life. That brings me comfort to know that. I also found that listening to many songs and googling the lyrics has helped me cope with my loss. Maybe some things to think about....

somnybooks · April 2011

I was the same way for a couple weeks. I hated going to bed without DH and being alone at home. I felt alone even with DH around. Eventually, it faded away. ((Hugs))

KJsbabe · April 2011

I can relate. I felt this way for a good two months after my last loss, and still have lonely days. The number one thing that has help me though this is my DH. He has been so understanding and loving. Other than him, it's just been time. Each passing week I've felt a little better. Some days are good, and I want to go out and do things. Some days are not so good, and all I want to do is sit on the couch and watch a sad movie.

I hope you find some peace and comfort ((hugs))

EricaK28 · April 2011

I am sad and lonely to. huge hugs

jennayn · April 2011

you guys are just so wonderful... thank you for all your input... it certainly is nice to know that ur not "the crazy one" i feel like thats how everyone looks at me but you girls are right its getting better week by week... its just those certain moments.. it seems weekends for some reason.. i guess not work? more time on my hands... and DH is a high school V-ball coach so its his busy time... of course perfect timing right? always is!

im happy to be apart of this wonderful supportive group... i did not care to be on GP on thenest.. it seemed alot of caddyness... but you girls are so sweet and caring.. i wish i knew all u in person!

MrsRiceARoni · April 2011

My DH works from home, so I'm with him pretty much all the time. The other day we went to the dentist and when I was sitting in the room after my xrays waiting for the dentist to come and see me I got very uncomfotable. I felt like I was going to have a mini panic attack or something, I was not ok with being by myself.

fightingravity · April 2011

Loneliness is a normal part of the grieving process, and so is wanting to feel closer to someone you trust (i.e. your husband). And it is totally normal to not want to do anything, but the more you withdraw, the harder it gets to feel any better.

Try to be gentle with yourself, and to ease yourself out of the house and into activities as much as you can, even if you don't feel like it. Start with something small that sounds like it might be fun and low pressure--have a close friend over for tea, go get a pedicure, go for a walk, whatever--and work your way up to the harder stuff.

Good luck, and I hope you start feeling better very soon.

yeliza h · April 2011

I am so sorry that you are feeling like this. I wish I could tell you that I am out of it, but I am not. It really does get easier with time....

dayjessica · April 2011

I did feel the same way. It faded with time. I felt like a completly different person, and was afraid that would stick. It didnt and I feel like myself again. Just give yourself time. Dont feel bad for how you feel right now.

somnybooks · April 2011

jennayn:
you guys are just so wonderful... thank you for all your input... it certainly is nice to know that ur not "the crazy one" i feel like thats how everyone looks at me but you girls are right its getting better week by week... its just those certain moments.. it seems weekends for some reason.. i guess not work? more time on my hands... and DH is a high school V-ball coach so its his busy time... of course perfect timing right? always is!
im happy to be apart of this wonderful supportive group... i did not care to be on GP on thenest.. it seemed alot of caddyness... but you girls are so sweet and caring.. i wish i knew all u in person!

It is definitely worse for me on weekends if I am not busy. Lately, I have been finishing up my projects for graduation, so I haven't noticed it as much. I hope it gets better for you soon!

ohbabyoh · April 2011

jen629:
I am still sad and lonely and that is why I hang out here

This exactly.

It really stinks that no one, NO ONE, understands us unless they've been in these shoes. As common as losses are, it is incredibly difficult to connect with women who understand IRL. This is why I love this board. I hate that we are all here, but I am so grateful that there is a place such as this where we don't feel alone.

I feel very, very alone... almost all of the time. I only know "of" two women IRL that I am close to that have experienced losses - my coworker, who is currently PG w/ EDD 1 week ahead of mine, and my MIL who had 6 losses and 2 live/healthy births.

Although I don't always have time to post a lot on this board, even just lurking and knowing I'm not alone helps me get through some really crappy days.

(((hugs)))

luckylady55 · April 2011

I am sorry you are having a rough time. I understand how lonely this can be I forced my self to get back into a regualr routine again. I went back to work two days after my D & C. Making an effort to go to the gym, go and get dinner with friends and do the things that I needed to do at home ewally helped me and I agree that having a project was a great outlet. I painted our basement rec room, and it did help to have something to keep me busy. GL we are here if you need us.

JT325 · April 2011

I'm not liking the thought of DH going to stay at his parents or stay overnight at a friends. I don't know why-- he usually did this once or twice a month. Now, the thought of it just makes me sad.

I know how you're feeling.

(((hugs)))

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