Sad about B-day planning

zazzu · April 2011

I asked dh last night what our b-day party budget should be, and I learned that he doesn't think we should have a party. He said all he needs is a cupcake and a balloon, that he's only 1 and won't know the difference anyway. I'm really sad about it. Regardless, we are having a party since our parents are coming, but I think I'll feel I need to keep things pretty plain. It was never going to be over the top. He didn't want to have our 80's party either when we got married, even though I was super excited about that too. I'm not asking him to do any of the work. I'm sad that he's not on board and it fizzles out my excitement about planning.

ttgcole · April 2011

Big hugs, my dh is like that too

Nancy_Drew · April 2011

My husband is the same way. He doesn't get parties and themes and all the work you put into the details. I LOVE it however! He didn't think we needed to have big 1st bday parties (or other age parties for that matter) since he never had birthday parties as a kid. I always had a big party on my birthday. So, I win and we do it, and you know, he loves it and enjoys it and now looks forward to it even though he will tell people it's over the top, blah, blah, blah, I think he just likes that he can blame it on me! Lol

Tell him, he is right, W will not know the difference. This party is for YOU!

BethS2006 · April 2011

OMG, my husband too... and then he gets all pissy that I go over the top. Well, these are our only children, and dammit, I am spoiling them and celebrating them! and I love doing it...

I admit though that the idea of inviting the entire preschool class (18 on the roster?) plus friends kids terrifies me that they will show up. I hate to not invite some of their friends, and I know they wont all show up, with my luck they will...

we are actually contemplating a family disney trip in place of a party this year..

gina000 · April 2011

My hubby was the same way. We had a small family party, with fun decorations and balloons. It was not expensive and my little guy loved looking at all the streamers and balloons.

McJen715 · April 2011

Awww, I'm sorry M!! I think it's a husband thing. TJ doesn't understand a lot of things that I want to do (maternity pictures, a party for M's 1st B-day, a pink and blue party - which we didn't do b/c he was a brat). I've decided that men are big ole party poopers!! I told TJ what I was thinking about doing for M's Birthday and he told me it was ridiculous, but I'm still throwing her a party and he can bite me.

StellaZ · April 2011

MY DH wasn't totally on board either - but I sold it that we always had an annual BBQ party - so we just combined it last year with his birthday.

With our small house we rarely have people over - yet our friends always have us over. This is our way to return the favor - and host everyone all at once. Thankfully we have a big yard and had a nice weather for late September.

You can do it super cheap. We ordered pizza, had veggie and fruit plates...set up all G's toys in the house and had his baby pool full of balls outside. Some balloons and cupcakes...really very simple and cheap...we had about 50 people over and it was awesome!

cwhip77 · April 2011

I'm sorry, that's a bummer that he's not more into it. Parties really don't have to be expensive, especially if you like to craft things. Maybe just pick one or two projects you want to do and keep the rest simple, like make a pretty banner for the front of the highchair for pics, or a cute birthday hat?

My husband doesn't dislike big parties but he's not all that into it either, so I usually talk over details and projects with my more crafty friends. He helps with big decisions or stuff I know he's into (like food!) and then pretty much shows up to see what I've done, ha! You can always post here to talk about party stuff, there are lots of us who love that topic!

And as a side note, I got the "but she won't even remember it!" line from people about M's past birthday parties too. But at her birthday last year I wore this purple shirt to her party, and EVERY single time I wear that shirt she says, "My birthday! Happy birthday!!" so I definitely think they hold on to some of those memories.

smilingjb · April 2011

DH brought this up the other week and LO isn't even here! I told him I agree, but the party would really be for us!

Zista · April 2011

Maybe look at it like this is a hobby/project for you, cuz it's fun. He wouldn't complain if you wanted to spend some time and a little money taking up sewing (as long as it wasn't over-the-top), would he? Don't let his perspective fizzle your excitement. I'm sure he has hobbies you are like "meh" about. This is about you, W. your friends and family all having a great time together!

Irishsapphire · April 2011

My husband is the same way. We are splitting the cost between the family. Our inlaws are paying for invites and party decorations. My parents have said that they will take care of the photographer (basically I asked instead of gifts can we just have a photographer, and they were fine with that). And then we still have to decide on a budget food and cake/cupcakes and who to invite. So hopefully I can pay for most of that-I want to invite our daycare infant room class, but I am still thinking about it.

MSTie24 · April 2011

Every party needs a pooper, that's why we invited E...

I'm sure A thinks a big themed party is dumb too but I've learned that a) it's easier to ask forgiveness than permission and b) some stuff's not worth discussing since he's going to be a spoilsport. So I just go ahead and do what I want anyways. I love your dino theme and everyone is going to enjoy it- really, to me the party is about celebrating the birthday kid even if they don't remember or really care. And tell him all W's friends are having cool parties and he doesn't want W to be the lame kid in class, does he? I think you and I should have a party planning session together either without the boys, or they can play video games or something while we brainstorm.

BTW does that mean your folks are coming after all? If so, yay!

sarahphoto · April 2011

Don't fret, you have lots of friends who will help you out. I am sure that once he gets there he will have fun too. (PS. and 80's party sounds awesome).

zazzu · April 2011

Thanks for understanding, ladies. It's not so much about the money, but that he thinks its sorta pointless. He doesn't care about celebrating his own b-day either. We aren't going to be on tlc's outrageous kids parties I guess!

kaskade · April 2011

zazzu:
We aren't going to be on tlc's outrageous kids parties I guess!

Ha!

I'm there too, although oddly enough DH is now hinting that maybe we should do something... He was totally against it but now said we'll just invite family, and some friends, and now these friends, and it keeps growing. So I have a month and a half to figure out what this no party at all - maybe a party - okay now yes party is going to look like!

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