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Miscarriage/Pregnancy Loss
****Morning Confession****
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Re: ****Morning Confession****
It's also pretty uncomfortable for me because of my newly found stand on abortion. "When adoption's an option, abortion isn't. Adoption is [almost] always an option." And the baby she aborted is my fiance's sibling, same father and everything..... I don't know; it's dumb but I'm emotional about that now too.
♥BFP #1 "Spawn"- 02/23/11 | EDD: 11/01/11 | natural m/c 03/20/11 @7w5d♥
♥BFP #2 "Offspring"- 11/10/12 | EDD: 07/25/13 | incomplete m/c 12/14/12 @8w1d | D&C 12/21/12♥
♥BFP #3 "Progeny" - 02/16/15 | It's a BOY!! | EDD: 10/17/15 | BD: 10/23/15♥
All AL Always Welcome
A couple of RE's first: Penelope, I started grief counseling this week and found it almost immediately helpful. I would definitely recommend that if you are struggling (and why shouldn't you be with what you've been through as of late), that you find someone to talk to even if it is just going to a support group (I know therapy is not an option for some, cost wise). But, our approach has been "anything to try and make this situation easier" and our family supports that even if it means some financial support... and therapy is definitely helping.
mommymoore: I am so sorry to hear about your fiance's mother and the extra grief she is causing you. I cannot imagine either my mother or MIL becoming less interested in their grandchild just because she died and the extra pain that would cause me. My hope is that you can find some way (and I don't think there is any hurry) to overcome this division between you because anger is nothing you want to invite into your family life. I have a really hard time with FIL and his wife and I find that I've internalized it so much, that I can't just get over their self absorption level and try and enjoy them the way my DH has. It makes things difficult at times, and were they closer (in location) to us, I know would put some pretty serious stress on our marriage.
Anywho, I've had a much better week than I expected, today being 1 month since our little Carter passed away in my arms. Its still hard (I had a complete breakdown trying to do a workout video with DH this morning: our "gym room" was supposed to become her room) but I feel like there has been progress and as I said, a lot more than I expected this week. There are so many of us here and my heart breaks with each introduction (is it just me or were there like 6 newbies from when I logged out last night to loggin in this morning???). But I do believe that each of us will overcome in our own way and I am so thankful for this board in helping to do that.
Whoops that got a little long...
I am feeling really good today. I made plans with a friend for lunch and with "our couple"(we have 1 coupled set of friends that are.. not pg or have children. I like them very much) for dinner.
I am, however, feeling as if I don't know where to go after this board. We are not going to be TTC in the near future. I actually had the Mirena placed in yesterday. I feel like I am still coping with the loss but am not ready to go back to the nest board because it still hurts and all of them are, of course, pregnant. I want to feel safe and understood. I don't feel like I can't get that from anywhere as well as I can here.
There should be a pg loss/moving on board.
THIS.
I feel as if, yeah, it's called the BUMP but I feel cheated that I'm not able to participate anymore because 1) I'm not pregnant anymore and 2) I don't plan on being pregnant again in the near future. But I found so much support here. I don't know.