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Thankful for crying

izzourclueizzourclue member
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I had a moment last night as I was rocking DD for the third time trying to get her to go to sleep.  I thought about the women on the bump who have lost their babies and their heartbreaking stories.  I thought, those women don't get to hear their babies cry anymore and some of them never got to hear them cry at all.  I thought to myself, even though I want to go to bed and my back aches from nursing all day and DD seems to be going through a new phase on not wanting to go down at night, I get to hear her cry.  Even though some of her screams made my ear drums crackle and I just want her to be able to calm down and rest.  Even though I felt so bad for her that she was upset and over-tired, I thought to myself, "I will never take this sound for granted.  It means she's with me and ok." 

I will admit that DD has been a pretty easy baby and I by no means wish to belittle the experience of moms with babies with colic and reflux where the crying never stops.  I just wanted to share my moment last night and say to the moms that have lost their dear LO's that I'm so sorry for your loss and my heart breaks for you.  And thank you for sharing your story so I can be thankful even for the tough moments with my baby.  

I give up trying to get a ticker.  I have a DD that is 2.5 years old and is awesome.  Maybe I'll add a quote to distinguish myself.  Hmmm.  How about...

"It is more fun to talk with someone who doesn't use long, difficult words but rather short, easy words like "What about lunch?" - A.A. Milne, Winnie-the-Pooh
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  • mbfirefly98mbfirefly98
    I agree! We had the same moment last night when we left the er after hours of testing they said well it must just be reflux... It is necessary to remember that all the hassle and lack of sleep coughing and crying means that she's still here with us!
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  • LKate5LKate5
    I had a similar moment yesterday, and couldn't agree more.
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  • mamaholmes2010mamaholmes2010
    Absolutely beautiful insight.  Thank you.
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  • st.augbridest.augbride member
    I have a very fussy baby with colic and reflux--who also was premature and rushed out due to severe IUGR. He was born at 3lb 3oz, and we were told we're lucky they got him out when they did. I am SO grateful for my little guy! No matter how tough it gets, and how much we wish he could be easier to feed and soothe, we know how special he is and how different it could have been. I love that I get to hold him and comfort him--even if sometimes it seems like it only comforts me ; ) We also went through a year of infertility treatments before we got him as an amazing surprise while waiting to start more invasive treatments. So no matter what we deal with, I know how blessed we are! Plus, we get TONS of smiles, coos and attempts at chuckles now. Makes it even more worth it : )
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  • mbfirefly98mbfirefly98

    imagest.augbride:
    I have a very fussy baby with colic and reflux--who also was premature and rushed out due to severe IUGR. He was born at 3lb 3oz, and we were told we're lucky they got him out when they did. I am SO grateful for my little guy! No matter how tough it gets, and how much we wish he could be easier to feed and soothe, we know how special he is and how different it could have been. I love that I get to hold him and comfort him--even if sometimes it seems like it only comforts me ; ) We also went through a year of infertility treatments before we got him as an amazing surprise while waiting to start more invasive treatments. So no matter what we deal with, I know how blessed we are! Plus, we get TONS of smiles, coos and attempts at chuckles now. Makes it even more worth it : )

    Just wait a few more weeks and he will chat your head off...so cool!!!

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  • mudmommymudmommy
    Okay, this made me cry.  I feel the same way.  Thankful is a wonderful word.
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  • MJHersheyMJHershey member

    Amen.

    100000-fold.

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  • kristen0393kristen0393
    This made me cry too.  When DS was first born he didn't breathe.  I don't remember much from being drugged up (C Section) but I remember asking the drs "why isn't my baby crying" & praying for the first time in years.  When he finally started crying it was the best feeling in the world.  My heart goes out to all of those families that have lost their LOs.
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  • angelicalopez29angelicalopez29
    Couldn't agree more
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  • 2mom742mom74
    I always think of this in the quiet moments and in the moments I want to pull my hair out. I thank God everyday for my children.
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  • jnaden2jnaden2
    Maybe its the pregnancy hormones, but you made me cry.  I was just thinking this as I was trying to rock Carson to sleep this morning & singing "you are my sunshine, my only sunshine, you make me happy when skies are gray, you'll never know dear how much I love you. Please don't take my sunshine away."  And every time I get to that last sentence I always choke up thinking I would be devastated if anything every happened to my children.  You are right, we are so lucky to have our LO's & we should never take them for granted.
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  • IncogNeatoIncogNeato member
    I hear ya. I have a friend who had a 25 week preemie who has been in the NICU for three months. Whenever LO wakes me up at night I think of how badly she would want to hear her LO crying in his crib.
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