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I hate to do this, but...

dana316dana316 member
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I really don't think I'm going to let anyone pick Caroline up from school anymore, unless it is something that can't be avoided.

My Mom has picked her up twice now, and both of those days, she hasn't gotten a nap.  My child HAS to nap.  It isn't optional for her.  She just cannot deal with life without a nice, long afternoon nap...and that just isn't possible when she gets to my Mom's house at 1:30, and is too excited about being at Grammy's to settle down and nap.

She was a complete beast when I picked her up yesterday.  She screamed the whole way home, and then pretty much nonstop until I finally got her to sleep.  I had to rock her (and I have only rocked her to sleep maybe 3 times in the last 9 months), and sing to her for over an hour to get her to stop crying.  It was so sad.  She was absolutely beside herself.

She goes to school three days a week...and I think those days are just going to have to be days where she doesn't see her grandparents.  There are 4 other days in the week (well, she won't see them on Sundays, either, because of church), but still, that leaves 3 days for her to see them.  That will just have to be enough.

Is that super harsh??   I wouldn't care that she didn't nap if it didn't make her so miserable...but I can't put her through that again.  It broke my heart...

 

 

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  • mrsolsenk12mrsolsenk12
    It doesn't sound harsh. She needs to sleep.
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    I don't think its harsh.  You have to do whats best for LO.   

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  • charmcitygirlcharmcitygirl member
    I would love for my parents to have the chance to see Jacob 3 days a week.  I think they can go without seeing her on those days so she can get a nap.  Or they just need to make a bigger effort to get her to nap at their house.
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  • oct11bride03oct11bride03

    Not harsh. She needs her rest.

    I had to do something similar with my mom. She'd invite us over and say K could just nap at her house, but of course K was too excited to go down and it would be a battle that ended with both of us in tears. Finally I said the only way we could come over to visit on the weekends is if it was in the morning and we'd leave before naptime or after she woke from her nap. You've gotta do what you've gotta do.

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  • EastCoastBrideEastCoastBride member
    I think 3 days a week w/ the grandparents is a ton of time!  Her need for sleep takes priority. 
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  • RadlerRadler member

    I don't think it's harsh!! I couldn't deal with that either. 

    Maybe when you mention this to your mom, she might try harder to get C down for the nap? I know my mom is always so excited to play with my DS that he never winds down. It's just one high-energy activity after another. (Easy for grandparents to keep that up for just a few hours!) But if my mom makes an effort to sit quietly for a while and read him books and lower the lights or whatever, he definitely settles down and naps.

    Just a thought. I hope it all works out!

     

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  • sailor71506sailor71506
    It doesn't sound too harsh to me! Naps are important things. In my house you do not mess with the nap. Now naptime can be a somewhat flexible in our house which is nice. Fia will tolerate moving it an hour or so in either direction and still take the same length of nap, still be the same happy baby after nap, and still go to bed at the same time. That flexibility is really nice, but still she gets a nap everyday. If something was getting in the way of that (especially something on a regular basis) I would be doing the same thing as you. Good luck!
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  • PhillySuePhillySue
    Nope not harsh at all.  I would do the same exact thing. 
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  • chocolatechip06chocolatechip06 member

    Not harsh at all.  We are supposed to go to my IL's tomorrow for the night but I think we are going to stay home and just go Sunday for the party that they have planned since DS is just starting to STTN (we are on night 4 of STTN at 10 months).

    The IL's are watching DS next weekend when we are OOT so it's for their benefit also although they will be disappointed if we don't come.

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