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awinningawinning member
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A year ago today was my ectopic surgery. I seriously can't believe it's been that long. Sometimes it seems like just yesterday and other times it seems like a lifetime ago.

We are waiting to TTC again for a while. Some days it makes me super sad, especially today. In my head I know we are doing the right thing. I am focusing on being healthier, which is super important for future pregnancies. I'm also going back to grad school in the fall and know that realistically, it's a terrible idea to TTC/be pregnant/have a baby while in school. Sometimes though my heart hurts tremendously because I'm not where I'd thought I'd be by now. I thought I'd have a baby. While I realize it's probably for the best, it doesn't make it hurt any less on those days that my heart just aches.

Thanks for reading and sorry for being such a debbie downer.

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  • hannah&benhannah&ben
    (((hugs))) I'm sorry.
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  • KYMelissa06KYMelissa06

    I'm so sorry.  While I can't entirely relate to where you are I can relate to wanting a baby and knowing that I couldn't have one because I needed to finish school.  DH and I got married less than 2 months before I started x-ray school.  I REALLY wanted a baby and so did he, but I knew that school was literally going to be a full time job plus I was still working and he was working 60 hours a week so that I didn't have to work so much while I was in school.  There was no time for a baby although my heart kept aching because I wanted one.  We waited until the beginning of my last semester of school and suffered 1 chemical pregnancy and 1 miscarriage before we were successfully pregnant with Carter 11 months later.  

    The moment he was born I knew we had made the right decision in waiting.   

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  • Ttimes3Ttimes3

    1. I wish I could personally mend every hearting heart.

    2. I'm excited for you about grad school! I keep thinking that I want to go back, but reality tells me that it will be a few more years. In the meantime, can you just send me updates, each semester, so I can live vicariously through you? Wink

    3. You are NOT a Debbie Downer. You are allowed to share your heartache and grief any time you want. 

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  • bellevuebride07bellevuebride07
    I'm sorry you're feeling down right now.  Try to get outside and enjoy the beautiful weather!
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  • stillwaiting12stillwaiting12

    I'm sorry that today is one of the days that your feeling down. I know how much 'milestone' days really stink and I just want to give you a giant hug! Hopefully starting back to school will keep you busy and make the time fly by. You are making the right decission.

    Sit outside with a nice drink, it's beautiful!

    6/28/10: Lost our sweet baby Addyston at 18wk 1day to pPROM 7/24/11: Michael William born at 24wk 2d due to IC after an emergent cerclage at 18wks, 4wk home BR and 2 weeks hospital BR. Grow strong our little Miracle! 9/17/11: Michael joined his sister in heaven after 8 amazing weeks with us on earth. He fought a very hard fight but NEC was too much for him in the end. Lilypie Angel and Memorial tickers Lilypie Angel and Memorial tickers Lilypie Pregnancy tickers
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  • tpo1118tpo1118
    Hugs friend. Whiny posts are always welcome! 
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  • doodlebug914doodlebug914 member
    Huge hugs to you!  Wishing you all the success in grad school (whatcha going to do?) and it will feel so good to have that huge accomplishment behind you before starting a family :) 
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  • awinningawinning member

    Thanks girls.

    I am going back from women's health nurse practitioner. This area isn't so hot in the job market so it may mean a move is in store for us but we'll cross that bridge when the time comes.

    TTT- I'll be more than willing to allow you to live vicariously through me. However, I'm afraid my updates may scare you away from ever going to grad school. I know my friends that are in grad school now certainly make me dread going back to school, but I know that eventually I need to do it and now seems like the best time.

     

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