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haleyw458
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When it rains, it pours
haleyw458
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I've been having a really tough time lately and this is exactly why:
1. My mom told me I was a bad parent and that I do nothing for DS. That's funny because I've raised DS on my own both physically and financially since he was 3 months old. Plus, ever since the fire, I've been buying my parents and little sister groceries, paying some of their bills, and giving them cash when they needed it. This has all came out to be over $1000 in 2 months. Plus, I worked for them for 2 months before the fire, and they never paid me, and I told them not to worry about it. Talk about unappreciative.
2. I quit my job a couple of weeks ago. It was definitely a good decision but I only have 1 pay check coming in on the 15th, then won't have another one after that. If it weren't for my savings, I would be terrified. But DS is getting WAY too attached to me and he won't let me leave his side. I am going crazy with all of his neediness and whining constantly. He is also going through a phase where he throws anything and everything, not because he's mad, but just because he can.
3. I always tell people on here to get custody/visitation on legal documents, but with X being so close to my parents, and practically still living with them, I didn't see a need to. Well, I've been telling X for a couple of months now that we need to get weekends set up because DS needs consistancy. His response: no. I told him I'm going to go to the court house and file for custody/visitation if he wasn't willing to do it on our own. Well, he then says, "I might try and get custody." I'm not worried about it at all but how stupid is he to not want to take him on the weekends, yet he's going to try and get custody? And last night, I found out he has actually been talking to an attorney about it, and telling him that I'm keeping him from him. It's a good thing I still have these texts asking if he wants to take him and his response. So it now looks like I need to start looking of an attorney of my own just in case he does try.
I'm just so stressed out right now with all of this and my classes. I would be going insane if it weren't for my friends and the guy I have been hanging out with. Sorry ladies, I really just had to vent.
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Re: When it rains, it pours
I'm so sorry, I know you're doing the best you can.
I have to side eye your parents for being so close to your ex. It is strange, IMO.
I agree but they consider him like a son. His dad died when he was in high school and his mom abandoned him and his brothers and sisters so he moved in with my parents since it was his senior year and he had nowhere else to go. Of course if this hadn't happened, I highly doubt we would have dated as long as we did. Ugh.
Oh honey I'm so sorry!
Is your ex at least paying child support? You were absolutely smart to keep those texts. It makes NO SENSE for him to not want DS on the weekend but is threatening to take full custody of him. Absolutely ridiculous and I'm glad that isn't something you are worried about.
But like you said, I think it would be smart to talk with an attorney just to ask them what your ex could possibly do, and to set up a game plan to be prepared for it.
I'm glad that you have close friends to support you during this time.
And I absolutely am in awe that you have done all this by yourself...including taking classes!
You're an amazing mother and don't let anyone else tell you otherwise.
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Beta #1: 4/1 - 51.5 Beta #2: 4/3 - 189 Beta #3: 4/6 - 778.9
AMH: 1.06 FSH: 10.7
DS: 11/2010 Clomid + HCG Trigger + IUI + Progesterone
Thank you so much!
They actually just got everything together for child support so no, he hasn't made a payment yet.
The funny thing is, I got a random message on facebook a couple of weeks ago from a girl he used to talk to (well, I thought it was over) asking why I kept DS from his dad, and all this other stuff. Come to find out, she offered to do it for him to try and get proof of me keeping DS from him so he can use it against me. Obviously she didn't get the proof they were looking for. I told her, "Actually, I'm not keeping DS from him, he is the one that is choosing not to see him."
My mother tried to pull that crap on me last year - said that I wasn't doing enough with my DD. My response? Sorry mom, some of us actually have to work for a living (she collects disability even though she is perfectly capable of working).
Definitely go to court and get everything in a court order - things can change in a day and you have to protect yourself.
This. Sorry Haley!
I have to wonder if the HCG diet is contributing to some of your overwhelming feelings. 500 calorie diet + extra hormones (Hellooo, who ISN"T a hot mess when they are pregnant and full of HCG?) = a bad way to diet in my opinion, especially under so much stress right now.
Good luck with everything.
My degree is in health and nutrition counseling but I don't have a lot of experience with this diet. However, I have been over on the Health and Fitness board on The Nest and those ladies have nothing good to say about this diet. They all seem to have a very healthy opinion regarding diet and exercise.
You could always post a question over there asking about the diet, they would give you honest responses.