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1st Tri uncertainty. . .

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How did/do you all deal with the uncertainly of the 1st trimester?  I try to be positive, that this WILL work for us, but I can't help but worry. 

Life would get so much more complicated if we miscarry.  DH is deploying in the spring, part of me wants him to leave a sample behind so that, heaven forbid something happen (I'm thinking with this pregnancy, not his deployment), at least I can cycle while he's gone.  But, that is getting way ahead of myself. . .

I'm trying to live one day at a time, eat right, drink lots of water, sleep and take it easy. . . but each twinge and cramp makes me wonder and let's not even discuss the Endometrin "leaking".

Anyway, how did/do you handle these feelings? 

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  • SpocklesSpockles member
    If you figure it out, please let me know. I'm right there with ya. I'm trying to be positive and in the mind set that "today, I am pregnant" but I do have my worries. Next week we have an u/s and I'm really hoping that we'll see a heartbeat. If we do, I think it might be a smidge easier to not worry so much.
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  • alison43alison43

    I don't think the worry will ever go away.

    I hate to be blunt, but once you finally think you're settling in, there may be something else that throws you for a loop.  I was floating on air after hearing the twins' hbs today but the bleeding this afternoon was unreal and evil.

    It really is all about one day at a time. 

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  • lnlelnle
    It must be so hard not to worry after all you've been through! Just take it one day at a time, and look forward to cheesecake on Sunday. Big Smile
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  • scallyscally

    It is really tough!  I still check the TP everytime I go to the bathroom and get freaked out by anything that might not seem normal.  I didn't let myself get excited or buy anything and I kinda missed out on that early "fun" because I was so wrapped up in something going wrong.  So my advice is enjoy each day and just have the faith that everything will be alright!  Because in the end there really isn't anything we can do.

     Good luck and hopefully this worried time passes quickly!

     

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  • kittylovekittylove member

    I delt with it by taking it a day at a time. I had a mantra that today I was pg, the baby is healthy and growing. I also cried a lot when things got stressful and tried to find projects to keep my mind off the pg. Also I went in for a lot of 'extra' Dr appt. After I graduated from the RE I had one every 10 days with my OB. If she didn't want to see me I made up a reason to go in and get an u/s. Yes I was THAT girl, but I didn't care. My insurance may have not paid for our fertility treatments but they pay 100% of prenatal care! I took advantage of that. That siad I was still a wreck and bugged the crap out of DH and friends who knew with my worries and fears.

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  • mrsolsenk12mrsolsenk12
    I agree, I just take it one day at a time. After 3 issues of spotting, I check the TP and almost scrutinize it every time I go to the bathroom. I don't think I will stop worrying until the day I hold the baby in my arms.
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  • FaithRocksFaithRocks member
    I still worry and I'm almost 18 weeks.... the worry will wane, I promise, but I think IF makes it stick around.
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  • LucyPevensieLucyPevensie member
    Aw sweetie - all you can do is grit your teeth and get through it.  It's hard, it's scary, and impossible not to feel anxious.  Just keep breathing!  We've all been there. 
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  • slizsliz

    I know exactly how you feel. Everytime I think I will give myself permission to be happy and celebrate, I feel that something will go wrong or I will jinx it.

    I found out Wednesday that we were having twins....we were so happy and my husband teared up when he heard the strong healthy heartbeats. I thought to myself - this weekend I am going to celebrate the pg  and I'm going to buy the bella band (pants a little tight already). The RE had the afterthought to check my progesterone and to my horror it came back low - only 8.2 and that is low even for a singleton pregnancy. They put me on supps the same day and I have a repeat u/s next week....and now I'm scared again - I know that most pg ladies don't even have their progesterone checked, even less so after hearing a heartbeat....but now that I know that I can't bring myself to want to get pregnancy things because I fear going in next week to find out I'm not anymore.....

     I don't think it will ever get easier but the only thing I can do to calm myself is to tell myself that today I am pg, that worrying isn't going to help and that no matter what happens that I will get through it....
     

     

     

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  • desabeandesabean member

    I feel the same way.  I get worried when I don't feel anything and then I get worried when I do feel something (like the cramps I've had for the past hour).  It's so hard to enjoy it-- but I know I have to try...my girlfriend just sent me 9 books from her pregnancies (yes, she rocks!) so I am hoping some of them will have some reassurance in there for me-- otehrwise I have to try to distract myself when I can and obsess on this board the rest of the time ; )

     

    I'm pulling for us both-- June 30th and July 1 babies!!

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