SO, DH, etc. Clicky Poll (S/O UO Thread)

BriannaHH · April 2011

After reading the UO thread, I am curious about everyone's relationship status.

So.....

[Poll]

cantalopes24 · April 2011

You forgot wife.

UGADawg8 · April 2011

I think another option could be wife.

ETA- Cantaloupes beat me too it!

BriannaHH · April 2011

You are absolutely, right!

I was thinking that would fall under SO because for the most part this country is so backwards when it comes to gay marriage that unfortunately most gay and lesbian couples cannot get married. I live in Florida and forget that this is not the case in all 50 states.

cantalopes24 · April 2011

BriannaHH:

You are absolutely, right!

I was thinking that would fall under SO because for the most part this country is so backwards when it comes to gay marriage that unfortunately most gay and lesbian couples cannot get married. I live in Florida and forget that this is not the case in all 50 states.

I agree. I will never understand the argument that allowing people of the same sex to marry and be protected under the same legal rights as everyone else is going to somehow take away from what marriage means to someone more than people who have the legal right to marry and divorce and do so multiple times. But that's ok because they are straight so they should be allowed to. And to imply that same sex couples marry to scam insurance companies and things of that nature is awful.

sherbieface · April 2011

My SIL and her girlfriend are in a commited, loving relationship. They are more respectful of each other than most of the straight couples that I know, and are two of my favorite people. They talk about having kids, and yay for Illinois for at least recognizing civil unions (law goes into effect in July). SIL is currently looking for a new job, and she is only looking at places that have insurance that also covers domestic partnerships. It's crazy how so few do. I found out that my H's current (horrible, evil) company does not.

I know this doesn't sit well with some people, but this is one of the many reason's I think my H is so fantastic--His sister will be the one to carry the baby, and brought up the idea of her girlfriend's eggs and my H's sperm, so that she can also be biologically linked to their child. Some people have given my H major side eye for saying of course he would do that for his sister, but I think it's a beautiful, selfless gift, and it will also save them money in the long run.

jeannkerricotober09 · April 2011

Thanks for having my back, Lopes! I have to tell you, it takes a while to become comfortable using the term 'wife'. Even for me and I am legally married to a woman! It's such a new concept in our society.. it will catch on, but I get some strange looks when I use it. Before we got married, neither of us had ever been to a gay wedding - we had no idea what to expect. We thought maybe we should keep it small so as not to make our families uncomfortable. We ended up having a gigantic wedding (over 200 guests) and both wore traditional wedding dresses. After the ceremony I made K run up to a hotel room with me so I could see what we looked like, I had never seen 2 brides together before!

October 09, 2009.

cantalopes24 · April 2011

sherbieface:

My SIL and her girlfriend are in a commited, loving relationship. They are more respectful of each other than most of the straight couples that I know, and are two of my favorite people. They talk about having kids, and yay for Illinois for at least recognizing civil unions (law goes into effect in July). SIL is currently looking for a new job, and she is only looking at places that have insurance that also covers domestic partnerships. It's crazy how so few do. I found out that my H's current (horrible, evil) company does not.

I know this doesn't sit well with some people, but this is one of the many reason's I think my H is so fantastic--His sister will be the one to carry the baby, and brought up the idea of her girlfriend's eggs and my H's sperm, so that she can also be biologically linked to their child. Some people have given my H major side eye for saying of course he would do that for his sister, but I think it's a beautiful, selfless gift, and it will also save them money in the long run.

We had friends of the family do this. The father is listed as the father on the birth certificate so that if something happens to either parent both sides of the family will be biologically and legally connected to the child, and so when the child grows up and has questions about their father she will know him. Also the baby gets to look like both sides of the family which is a nice bonus. It so far seems to be working out perfectly.

Junebug060609 · April 2011

cantalopes24:
BriannaHH:

You are absolutely, right!

I was thinking that would fall under SO because for the most part this country is so backwards when it comes to gay marriage that unfortunately most gay and lesbian couples cannot get married. I live in Florida and forget that this is not the case in all 50 states.

I agree. I will never understand the argument that allowing people of the same sex to marry and be protected under the same legal rights as everyone else is going to somehow take away from what marriage means to someone more than people who have the legal right to marry and divorce and do so multiple times. But that's ok because they are straight so they should be allowed to. And to imply that same sex couples marry to scam insurance companies and things of that nature is awful.

I completely agree.

cantalopes24 · April 2011

jeannkerricotober09:

Thanks for having my back, Lopes! I have to tell you, it takes a while to become comfortable using the term 'wife'. Even for me and I am legally married to a woman! It's such a new concept in our society.. it will catch on, but I get some strange looks when I use it. Before we got married, neither of us had ever been to a gay wedding - we had no idea what to expect. We thought maybe we should keep it small so as not to make our families uncomfortable. We ended up having a gigantic wedding (over 200 guests) and both wore traditional wedding dresses. After the ceremony I made K run up to a hotel room with me so I could see what we looked like, I had never seen 2 brides together before!

October 09, 2009.

I am a PW today,but whatever I just have a lot to say lol.

That is so awesome your family and friends could be so supportive and then you were able to have the wedding you really wanted. If it were me I would have wanted us both to wear dresses too Smile I love it!

jeannkerricotober09 · April 2011

sherbieface:

I know this doesn't sit well with some people, but this is one of the many reason's I think my H is so fantastic--His sister will be the one to carry the baby, and brought up the idea of her girlfriend's eggs and my H's sperm, so that she can also be biologically linked to their child. Some people have given my H major side eye for saying of course he would do that for his sister, but I think it's a beautiful, selfless gift, and it will also save them money in the long run.

I love this! My wife is the youngest of 9 (5 older brothers). We used a sperm bank but it took $50,000 out of pocket to get this baby I am carrying. It was to the point where we had to stop, financially (my sister actually bought the vial that got me pregnant.. which is a little weird but her brothers all offered to donate to me. The gesture was amazing. Unfortunately, the situation wasn't right for us because we want biological siblings and my wife is going to start TTC in the fall, so we opted to keep on with the sperm bank so the kids could have the same donor. How absolutely wonderful for you and your husband to be able to help them.

saffie2011 · April 2011

jeannkerricotober09:

Thanks for having my back, Lopes! I have to tell you, it takes a while to become comfortable using the term 'wife'. Even for me and I am legally married to a woman! It's such a new concept in our society.. it will catch on, but I get some strange looks when I use it. Before we got married, neither of us had ever been to a gay wedding - we had no idea what to expect. We thought maybe we should keep it small so as not to make our families uncomfortable. We ended up having a gigantic wedding (over 200 guests) and both wore traditional wedding dresses. After the ceremony I made K run up to a hotel room with me so I could see what we looked like, I had never seen 2 brides together before!

October 09, 2009.

Yah Massachusetts!! I love the picture... you guys look beautiful. Did you get married in Boston... I know you've mentioned before that you live here (Southie?).

ProcrastinatingBride · April 2011

jeannkerricotober09:
Thanks for having my back, Lopes! I have to tell you, it takes a while to become comfortable using the term 'wife'. Even for me and I am legally married to a woman! It's such a new concept in our society.. it will catch on, but I get some strange looks when I use it. Before we got married, neither of us had ever been to a gay wedding - we had no idea what to expect. We thought maybe we should keep it small so as not to make our families uncomfortable. We ended up having a gigantic wedding (over 200 guests) and both wore traditional wedding dresses. After the ceremony I made K run up to a hotel room with me so I could see what we looked like, I had never seen 2 brides together before!
October 09, 2009.

Gorgeous! When someone said that not everyone gets to marry, I thought, "But I think jeannkerri did!" Great pic.

LadieBumbles · April 2011

BriannaHH:
You are absolutely, right!
I was thinking that would fall under SO because for the most part this country is so backwards when it comes to gay marriage that unfortunately most gay and lesbian couples cannot get married. I live in Florida and forget that this is not the case in all 50 states.

I'm a Floridian too, and so ticked our Gay Marriage amendment didn't pass.

That being said, I have a husband, we're coming up on our 5 year anniversary in May!

jeannkerricotober09 · April 2011

Thank you! I love it too! We are very fortunate for our families to support us. Even my 92 y.o. grandmother was excited for the wedding! Like I said, we figured we would have something small but word got out and the level of excitement everyone had was insane! And it was all the way in Ptown (ha! gay.) So the fact that everyone had to drive at least 2.5 hours to get to it and stay over! I watch the video and get chills.. we are really lucky.

(I used to live in Davis Square but we just bought a house towards the South Shore, down 24.)

LadieBumbles · April 2011

jeannkerricotober09:
Thanks for having my back, Lopes! I have to tell you, it takes a while to become comfortable using the term 'wife'. Even for me and I am legally married to a woman! It's such a new concept in our society.. it will catch on, but I get some strange looks when I use it. Before we got married, neither of us had ever been to a gay wedding - we had no idea what to expect. We thought maybe we should keep it small so as not to make our families uncomfortable. We ended up having a gigantic wedding (over 200 guests) and both wore traditional wedding dresses. After the ceremony I made K run up to a hotel room with me so I could see what we looked like, I had never seen 2 brides together before!
October 09, 2009.

Love it! That is so cute!

sewpinkgal · April 2011

jeannkerricotober09:

I love this! My wife is the youngest of 9 (5 older brothers). We used a sperm bank but it took $50,000 out of pocket to get this baby I am carrying. It was to the point where we had to stop, financially (my sister actually bought the vial that got me pregnant.. which is a little weird but her brothers all offered to donate to me. The gesture was amazing. Unfortunately, the situation wasn't right for us because we want biological siblings and my wife is going to start TTC in the fall, so we opted to keep on with the sperm bank so the kids could have the same donor. How absolutely wonderful for you and your husband to be able to help them.

My CW's wife was pregnant and we treated CW to lunch and baby gifts for the new little guy. Little did we know that CW was actually pregnant while we were celebrating baby #1. I think the logistics have been hard at time for them (they are both working medical professionals), but those two kids are so damn cute! It worked out really well for them and I hope that you gals have the same experience.

Fianschneid · April 2011

jeannkerricotober09:

Thanks for having my back, Lopes! I have to tell you, it takes a while to become comfortable using the term 'wife'. Even for me and I am legally married to a woman! It's such a new concept in our society.. it will catch on, but I get some strange looks when I use it. Before we got married, neither of us had ever been to a gay wedding - we had no idea what to expect. We thought maybe we should keep it small so as not to make our families uncomfortable. We ended up having a gigantic wedding (over 200 guests) and both wore traditional wedding dresses. After the ceremony I made K run up to a hotel room with me so I could see what we looked like, I had never seen 2 brides together before!

October 09, 2009.

This breaks my heart. One of my best friends is getting ready to propose to her girlfriend and said the same thing. She wasn't sure people would want to celebrate with them. I'm so happy that you did what was right for you and your wife and that your family supported you. I don't understand how people can turn their nose up at two people who are in a loving and committed relationship.

colliebabe · April 2011

saffie2011:
jeannkerricotober09:

Thanks for having my back, Lopes! I have to tell you, it takes a while to become comfortable using the term 'wife'. Even for me and I am legally married to a woman! It's such a new concept in our society.. it will catch on, but I get some strange looks when I use it. Before we got married, neither of us had ever been to a gay wedding - we had no idea what to expect. We thought maybe we should keep it small so as not to make our families uncomfortable. We ended up having a gigantic wedding (over 200 guests) and both wore traditional wedding dresses. After the ceremony I made K run up to a hotel room with me so I could see what we looked like, I had never seen 2 brides together before!

October 09, 2009.

Yah Massachusetts!! I love the picture... you guys look beautiful. Did you get married in Boston... I know you've mentioned before that you live here (Southie?).

I love that I live in a state where same-sex couples can get married. (I actually do live in Southie.) We went to a wedding for two of our close male friends in October - they had a big, traditional wedding too - it was in CT though. It was an awesome wedding.

What a great picture in the dresses by the way!

vernab · April 2011

sherbieface:

My SIL and her girlfriend are in a commited, loving relationship. They are more respectful of each other than most of the straight couples that I know, and are two of my favorite people. They talk about having kids, and yay for Illinois for at least recognizing civil unions (law goes into effect in July). SIL is currently looking for a new job, and she is only looking at places that have insurance that also covers domestic partnerships. It's crazy how so few do. I found out that my H's current (horrible, evil) company does not.

I know this doesn't sit well with some people, but this is one of the many reason's I think my H is so fantastic--His sister will be the one to carry the baby, and brought up the idea of her girlfriend's eggs and my H's sperm, so that she can also be biologically linked to their child. Some people have given my H major side eye for saying of course he would do that for his sister, but I think it's a beautiful, selfless gift, and it will also save them money in the long run.

Aww! What a nice thing for your H to do, for his sister!! So sweet!

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