why dose it hurt so much

Re: why dose it hurt so much

• Temp552270562505132

  March 2011

  cut him out of your life.

  i would refuse to talk to him unless it was text message only and only about your child.

   

  and see a therapist.  he is toxic, he will never change, be thankful he is someone else's problem now.  you need to be as strong and level headed about this as possible for the sake of your child.

   

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• alamo10

  March 2011

  I agree, cut him out of your life.

  My situtation is very similar. BD left me for somebody else when I was pregnant and would not speak to me. He was with that girl for a long time and she had a 4 year old daughter and he would post pics of him and her daughter on facebook and write things about how happy the three of them are together, etc. It was stupid. He was there for her and her DD but not ours. I cut him out of my life completely and he doesn't ask to see our daughter or anything.

  Just know that your LO deserves better.

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• gns1988

  March 2011

  i have for the most part cut him out. i only talk to him throu email and only after i go to the docs but i don't want to not tell him whats going on with the baby because he has told me before if he finds out im with any one he will take me to court and try and take the baby so i email him and keep any thing that is sead between up tell my LO is born so when i go for CS and everything els there is prof of everything he has sead to me and about the baby also if he ever trys to take the baby so he would not be able to i just want my LO to know how much she means to me and that everything i have done is for her to be happy and healthy just wish some times he care about our LO like i do
  

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• Karla76058

  March 2011

  gns1988:

  so found out a little while a go my ex is with a new girl. we were together for almost 2 years and in now 30 weeks along. he wants nothing to do with our baby, but she has a like 12 year old and he is willing to be there for her kid but not his own. it makes me so made and it hurts he was saying mean stuff to me that i was probably with someone new, now he is not ever 2 months later. i hate that its hurting me so much. i thou i was over him for the most part, i guess im not even close to being over everything i really just want him to be in his child life sorry i just needed to vent.

  and sorry about the spelling and stuff i have really bad dyslexia 
  

  I know how you feel.  My ex moved on very quickly even though he denies it and I think they are both careful not to announce it or post anything on fb.  It hurts very badly that someone could do this to their pregnant gf but it proves who they really are.  He still texts every other day to ask about DS but thats all I have kept it.  I tried to delete old texts that made me very happy back when we were together.  You know the I miss you, I love being with you, I'm blowing smoke up your ass texts with babe as every other word.  I could stomach reading and deleting 2 of them before I started to break down thinking that things would never be like that again and I am no longer the girl hes writing these things too.  But oddly enough the more distance and mystery I have put between us the more I have noticed him asking about me more and less about DS.  I'm much happier knowing I am not sitting and waiting for things to work themself out because if they were going to it should have already happened.  They are missing out not us!!

   

  

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• dieckhoner

  March 2011

  Just read your blog.Dad has a 11 year old daughter with the woman and it was proven thru dna.He lied to you about him being the father of his first daughter.I would just move on.You  deserve better.I would get therapy.You said you have 4 kids by other fathers.What role do they have in your life and each of their kids?I would wait to get to know a man for several years before getting pregnant.Like red flags of his fakeness or truth. So basic the man letting you know that he has a moral and obligation to the other woman.Did he cheat on her and you.Do u know her?Maybe he is telling lies to her about you and lies to you about her?He is a liar,cheater,abuser to say the least.No good piece of c***.He gives face but is so fake.You say he would beat and deprive her for over 17 years and cheat on her twice.This man is in need of some help before he hurts someone real bad.You also say he was jailed when his daughter was three months old for domestic violence.While she was holding the baby they have in common and tryed to choke her with a bag on her head wrap around it whike stangle her while she was holding their baby in common..He is danger,You should be happy that this man is away from you.He is a real abuser and major.Thank your lucky stars that he isn't around you and the baby.He might harm the both of you like he has harmed the 11 year old beating his child and his live in.DANGER>>>Be happy you rid yourself of him.He is a con man and a good one at that.God be with you.File for support on him and court order him away from you and the baby.You deserve better.You are in my thoughts.Please be ok.

   

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• gns1988

  March 2011

  umm i don't know if you responding to me but he is not the 11 year old father he is dating hr mother this is not my 5th child this is my first child he also has never been to jail or anything like that and never layed a hand on me her sead some pretty mean things but that's it so i don't know is you thou you were responding to something els but nothing you sead in this has anything to do with me sorry
  

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• dieckhoner

  April 2011

  Oh,

  I was responding to another person..Not you sorry this man is in his late 40's

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