Tempted to be dishonest...WWYD?

lilwildthing · April 2011

I finally got to talk to my Dr's office about the spotting I had Monday. They faxed all my prenatal tests to the hospital and I will go have them done when DS wakes up. They told me if I had anymore spotting they would check my betas again on Friday. Obviously I don't want to have anymore spotting, but I do want those second betas!

I have had 3 losses in the past and I just kind of feel like I'm waiting for the ax to fall. I'm having a hard time being hopeful. It is making me so anxious. I'm a teacher and I am worried that I'll start bleeding while teaching...then what? I know nothing can be done if it isn't a viable pregnancy, but I'd kind of like to know. I also know things can change in an instant.

Anyways, I'm tempted to lie and say I've had more spotting just to get my second betas. I'm not a dishonest person, and I'm worried about inviting bad karma. Man, I sound like a nutcase. This is making me a nutcase! I'm second guessing every twinge, symptom, and lack there of. (I was actually worrying earlier because I wasn't constipated today.)

WWYD?

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madiegirl83 · April 2011

I say just be completely honest. Let them know you are nervous and scared and would like the reassurance of getting your levels drawn again. They probably won't have a problem with that. It's not like it hurts them any, or costs them to draw your labs... you and/or your insurance is going to pay for it. Just be honest... no reason to invite bad karma. Or if heaven forbid something bad did happen... you wouldn't be blaming yourself or second guessing yourself. GL! H&H 9!!!

amyjoy18 · April 2011

Maybe you could be honest with your doc. Tell him that you haven't had any more spotting, but for your peace of mind you would like to have the second betas.

OtterPop1 · April 2011

I'm so sorry for your losses.

I wouldn't lie, but I would call and ask them if they could run the 2nd beta anyway. Perhaps if you tell them how anxious you are feeling because of your previous losses, they might be willing to do another to ease your fears. ((Hugs)) and wishing you the best!

lilwildthing · April 2011

Thanks ladies. I know I shouldn't be dishonest. It goes against everything I believe. I asked her today and she said they only redo betas because of spotting. I guess I could try asking again. I even tried to explain about my anxiety while teaching, and they know about my losses. I know I just need to relax, it is so hard though. I've never had spotting and a viable pregnancy at the same time, but I know it is not uncommon. I need to keep telling myself that I am pregnant today, and try to find peace in that.

Bride2b2004 · April 2011

I know there is a 'go with the program' feel/attitude from nurses and sometimes doctors... but you can be assertive and get what you want/need. I have also had losses and I would not be satisfied if I didn't see betas that doubled every 48 hours. Tell them you want it, they will likely say okay without an issue. If they give you a hard time, push back and if worst comes to worse, see a new doctor. B/w is standard when you have had a previous loss.

ETA:

lilwildthing:
I asked her today and she said they only redo betas because of spotting. I guess I could try asking again. I even tried to explain about my anxiety while teaching, and they know about my losses.

Well, that bothers me. I don't think I would explain your anxiety. Just tell that you have anxiety, which is reasonable given your history, which they are aware of and tell them you do not feel comfortable with only on blood test since that doesn't really tell you ANYTHING without something to compare it to. The first draw means nothing unless you take another to see it doubled. They should know that =/

MNCP · April 2011

I wouldn't lie about it, the karma thing worries me too much.

Maybe you can ask them to do the second beta just to placate the crazy pregnant lady?

I'll include you & your family in my 'happy thoughts'

Best of luck! H&H 9 mo to us all.

Battlebaby09 · April 2011

I would say that you have to decide what is best for you. I am honestly surprised they aren't doing a second beta panel... I had to have it every two days for like two weeks for my miscarriage. But on the flip side some pregnancies do have brief times of spotting early on. I wish I knew the answer. Trust God will watch over you.

amyjoy18 · April 2011

They may not do another blood test without spotting for insurance reason...ie...it wouldn't be medically necessary. You might be able to get one if you pay for it out of pocket.

o_so_in_love · April 2011

I am not a dishonest person either. I don't think you should lie. The fact that you have had three losses already makes it seem as if they should be doing more for you anyway. My friend had three miscarriages and she is now pregnant again. Our doctor (we have the same one) scheduled her for biweekly ultrasounds and different prescriptions to help her from miscarrying and now she is further along than she's ever been. Your doctor should be doing everything they can to prevent this pregnancy from failing. Tell him that you haven't had anymore spotting but you want the tests anyway. Let him know if he's not going to support your emotional well being as well as your physical that you want to see another doctor.

Bride2b2004 · April 2011

amyjoy18:
They may not do another blood test without spotting for insurance reason...ie...it wouldn't be medically necessary. You might be able to get one if you pay for it out of pocket.

Unlikely insurance reasons if you have a history of loss. The insurance code is basically suspected loss (you don't want to know the real term), which is reasonable when there is a history of loss. Most likely it is just the policy of that particular OB.

jessica102706 · April 2011

I agree with all the pp that you shouldnt lie. Try to talk to them and let them know with the previous losses and the fact that you already had spotting, that you would like more test if possible. Doesnt hurt to ask. I had a little freak out and once I talked to the nurse she reassured me everything was normal. I told her that due to my previous loss I was a little on edge so she said I could come in for an ultrasound (got me in about 30 min later actually) just for my own reassurance. I know all doctors are different so others may not be so flexible but they said that they understood my nerves and wanted me to be able to relax.

lilwildthing · April 2011

Yes, I asked today and it seems to be policy that they only retest for spotting. I am going to try asking again though, it can't hurt.

Amanda Harvey · April 2011

Please do not lie just ask for what you need emotionally.

michaela080 · April 2011

Just wanted to wish you luck.

Ready4life · April 2011

I'm sorry you have to go through this. I'd just tell them you want a 2nd beta done and that's that. If they won't do that for you then you can always find another Dr who will. Chances are they will do it if you request it. Lying probably isn't the best idea.

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