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TTC After a Loss
karma79
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Heartsick for my parents to be grandparents...
karma79
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DH's side of the family is busting at the seams with grandkids and I see how happy it makes DH's parents to be granparents to so many little ones. It makes me sad though b/c my side of the family isn't so lucky. I have one brother and they are going thru far worse than me as they have been TTC for almost 2 years and no BFP ever. I really feel for them. Then there is me who got pg quick and m/c and now on month 7 of TTC. So no grandkids. My dad is 66 and my mom is 61 and I feel like a failure that neither of us have given them grandkids. And I feel like time is ticking away and I want them to have as much time with grandkids as possible. So that doesn't help so much with all the stress I feel in the first place.
Luckily they have a neighbor with a little girl they babysit and parents they are close to that they adore and see all the time. I'm happy they have that... but I also kind of feel like that's a replacement for my brother and I not having kids of our own. I even told this to my mom b/c I got jealous with all the time she spent with the mom across the street. I told her it was stupid of me to feel this way but I did. She assured me I wasn't being replaced. I live an hour a way so I see my mom once a week or two and I hate that but not much can be done about it.
Moral of the story - TTC has made me insane. 
Thanks for reading.
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Re: Heartsick for my parents to be grandparents...
MH's family only has 1 grandchild, but my parent's don't have any.... I actually get more jealous of my cousins and my Aunt (dad's sister) that she's full time nana and my dad who is older doesn't get to be a grandpop.
When we had the m/c one of the first things I felt was that I let all out parents (step parents) down... I know how you feel. ((hugs))
BFP#1 11.2.10 | EDD 7.9.11 | HB 7w2d & 8w4d | missed M/C 11w2d | D&E 12.21.10
FSH at 14.5 - 4.21.11 | CCCT - (CD3 8.8,CD10 12.2)| dx w/ DOR @ 28 yrs old
IUI#1 + clomid 8.29.11 (our anniversary)
BFP#2 9.10.11 | EDD 5.21.12 | beta 1 @ 14dpi:232 | beta 2 @17dpi:703 | beta 3 @24dpi:7,174
Baby A HB of 142(7w), 161(8w), 164(9w) | Baby B no HB, Vanishing Twin
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I can not change. The courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.
I know how you feel. My In Laws want grandchildren so bad. Whenever my MIL sees a baby she salivates. They're real good about keeping off the pressure because they went through losses before having DH but I want them to have the joy of grandchildren. My parents already have two and I can see the yearning in MIL eyes when we're all together.
You are not insane. You just want your take home baby. Hugs to you.
BFP #1 9-22-10 Missed M/c 10-18-10 D&E 10-28-10
BFP #2 5-9-11 EDD 1-12-12 Audrey Rachel born 1-12-12
BFP #3 9-21-13 EDD 5-30-14
It breaks my heart daily that we can't get pregnant, but it's made worse by the fact that DH's parents want SO badly to be grandparents. I feel like a failure every month that I can't get pregnant, because I feel like we're letting them down. It's a horrible attitude to have, but I can't help it.
(((HUGS))) and more (((HUGS))) I hate this process so much
BFP#1 5.27.10 DS became an angel at 21 weeks on 9.22.10
BFP#2 4.16.11 Healthy baby girl born 12.14.11
BFP#3 9.3.12 A healthy, bouncing baby SISTER on the way! EDD 5.12.13
BFP#1 12/27/2009 MC at 7wks 01/03/2010
TTC since June 2010
BFP#2 2/21/2011 MC at 5wks
RE appt March 8th, 2011 ; early PCOS
hysterscopy 4/5/2011 - ute & tubes look good!
hematologist 4/13/2011- Factor II mutation heterozygous/thrombophillia
it brings my heart to read such bcoz i feel the same way. i am so sad that we could not give my parents a granchild, i see my mum n dad with other pipo's children n i wish tehy were holdon ours but i guess life has a way of screwing us over. i also feel so bad that whenever taht wil happen dh wont experience taht becoz unfortunately we lost mil a few mths b4 our wedding fil passed away when he was still young. so i guess u can say we hav had quite a rough ride. i mean who doesnt want to see their parents' look of joy on their face when they first see their granchild. i think my mum even knitted some stuff for our darlin baby but he never got to wear or even see any of that stuff. i will always miss him. but lets jus keep encouraging eachother and we'll be ok one day. n we will get that beautiful baby we all have been hopin and waiting for, i always tell myself that it will be worth the wait whenever that happens.
lets stay strong and try to be postive. i kno some days re good some are bad and others can be the worst but we r still here.
bfp: 8.11.09
our little beautiful baby boy died a few hrs later after derlivery via c-sec 12/7/10