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I guess I should join this board too
So I am 9 weeks pregnant, I found out when I was 6 weeks. I'm 20 years old and going to school for interior design.
Basically, my boyfriend freaked out when I told him I was pregnant. He is being super stupid and said that he wants to get a DNA test done (we were together for 7 months and I never cheated on him or anything). He hasn't talked to me since.
Do you think he will come around? Maybe he is just freaked out right now? I don't know, but I am heart broken. He wanted me to get rid of the baby but there is no way I will do that. I just couldn't.
Have any of you gone through anything similar?
Thanks.
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Re: I guess I should join this board too
I'm sorry
But I respect you and your decision to keep the baby. I know it's hard to see now, but once the baby is born, you'll come to see that the baby is all you need. You can't force someone to come around...especially when they don't want too. And that's not the type of person you want in your life anyway.
((hugs))
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Beta #1: 4/1 - 51.5 Beta #2: 4/3 - 189 Beta #3: 4/6 - 778.9
AMH: 1.06 FSH: 10.7
DS: 11/2010 Clomid + HCG Trigger + IUI + Progesterone
Thanks. I really don't want him to be involved if he doesn't want to be, but it really hurts. I know it's my fault for getting KU but I had no idea he would be gone so fast. He has just totally changed since we found out I was pregnant.
I figured I'd be doing it all on my own, and mostly I'm just scared. I'm also scared I'll be alone for the next 18 years at least. One because I don't think anyone is going to want to date someone with a baby, and two because I am going to be super selective about who I let into their life. It just worries me.
Thanks for the advice though. I'm really glad there is a single parents board.
Whoa whoa whoa....don't you EVER think that. Last time I checked, it takes two to get pregnant. He is JUST as responsible as you. Period.
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Beta #1: 4/1 - 51.5 Beta #2: 4/3 - 189 Beta #3: 4/6 - 778.9
AMH: 1.06 FSH: 10.7
DS: 11/2010 Clomid + HCG Trigger + IUI + Progesterone
It's good to be selective and to remain focused on your baby, but there are good guys out there who will date someone who already has a child. I was single for almost a year and am now dating someone who is great.
I agree. Yes, there will be guys who are uncomfortable with dating a girl with a child, but that just weeds out the ones that aren't worth it. There are plenty of guys out there that will treat your LO like their own, and be an even better dad to them than their actual dad is.
I am 20 too and I have a beautiful DD..all by myself. At first her father said he was going to be apart of it..he was around for about 6 months..then showed up for delivery. Now, he sees her IF something else isnt more important that week. Hes 23 so he is old enough to know what he is doing.
He is making the choice to not be apart of his babys life and he will regret it in the end. This is what I have told myself. You have to do whats best for your baby and yourself. I really hope he comes around for you and your babys sake, but dont give up if he doesnt. Your baby needs you to be extra strong
GL girly. hope all turns out well. If you ever need to talk the girls here are great and you can always PM me. 
Thank you all so much for the encouraging words. I know it's not going to be easy alone, but it's nice knowing that I have other people I can come to talk to my problems about. I'm not looking forward to going to court and everything at all. I just wish he would be there in her life. That's all I want.
I don't even know when I should go start doing all this stuff. What if he decides after she's born that he wants custody of her? Is that even possible?