When are yall going to have a baby??? (Ugh leave me alone....venting)

AuntLoLo · April 2011

I am so sick of all of our family and friends asking me and my DH when were going to have a baby!!!!! In the last week we have had 4 people ask us that question. I want to just say to them.....We have been trying and in case you didn't know we have lost 4 babies already!! I know people are sometimes just trying to be nice but really it just makes me more upset thinking about it. Sorry I just had to get this off my chest. Do any of you experience this?

yeliza h · April 2011

Maybe you should tell them that so they can STFU.

psychmajormom · April 2011

Yes!! All the time!! Its even worse when ppl that didn't know you mc and ask "when did you have the baby??" and that sucks!! ((((hugs))))

AuntLoLo · April 2011

Thanks Girls, maybe I will tell them that next time! By the way yeliza h....I love your dog, I have one that looks just like it.

lavril · April 2011

I'm sorry - that is so frustrating. I just want to say sometimes I have one in heaven now. Back off.

yeliza h · April 2011

AuntLoLo:
Thanks Girls, maybe I will tell them that next time! By the way yeliza h....I love your dog, I have one that looks just like it.

awww thanks! Is your dog a mix too?

AuntLoLo · April 2011

No he is a Yorkie....is yours a mixed because he looks like a yorkie?

mork · April 2011

lavril:
I'm sorry - that is so frustrating. I just want to say sometimes I have one in heaven now. Back off.

This. It's SOOOO tempting, but I don't because then they'd know we're trying and they'd be even more up in our business. I love our families, and I know they would be really supportive if we told them about our loss, but they'd also want TTC updates every day. Not going to happen.

mandy6418 · April 2011

I hate that question. I've started to become more and more snarky with my answers like "When my uterus decides to stop rejecting all the ones we make."

buckeyebaby814 · April 2011

Someone on either this board or TTGP shared that she always says, "9 months after I get pregnant," and people usually laugh and let it be. I'm totally stealing it Big Smile

yeliza h · April 2011

AuntLoLo:
No he is a Yorkie....is yours a mixed because he looks like a yorkie?

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yeliza h · April 2011

AuntLoLo:
No he is a Yorkie....is yours a mixed because he looks like a yorkie?

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yeliza h · April 2011

AuntLoLo:
No he is a Yorkie....is yours a mixed because he looks like a yorkie?

Hi is mixed with a Yorkie and Shitzu. Most people say he looks like he a huge yorkie (he is 17lbs)

jldubb0626 · April 2011

buckeyebaby814:
Someone on either this board or TTGP shared that she always says, "9 months after I get pregnant," and people usually laugh and let it be. I'm totally stealing it

I'm going to steal it from you. I hate brushing it off with some off hand comment and I don't want to let everyone know about my miscarriage, because then that's more questions. It really is a lose lose question..

LilMaggs · April 2011

PetraStonegirl:
I get this from some of our friends. Most are wonderful, but there is that obnoxious few. I've decided to answer the next time with, "Not until y'all start staying out of my uterus."
Big sympathetic (((HUGS)))

I love this response!

jkfranklin · April 2011

Ugh, I really hate how people think that because they are talking about the contents (or lack there of) of a ladies uterus, they can be rude to you. So many people don't understand.

MsCoyote · April 2011

My favorite reply, after all these years, is, "Why do you ask?" Throw it back on them and wait for the asinine answer (it ALWAYS happens!) , then reply, "Really" or "Uh-huh". Then uncomfortable silence. It's so much fun to see them realize how rude, etc. they're being and then stumble all over themselves.

::::::::::evil laugh:::::::::::::::

Enjoy!

Coyote

Angie14 · April 2011

I was actaully pretty open about our loss. It stoped the questioning, and was quite theraputic for me. I know not everyone can talk openly about it. I just think that before this happened to me, I wish I had known someone to talk to about it. And once I started talking about it, the questions stopped and a lot of girls opened up to me about having a loss as well. People never understand until it happens to them. I know I for one will never be asking someone again when they plan on having kids. Hugs!

mrst-tobe · April 2011

I'm so sorry! Yes, this happens to us all.the.time. It annoyed me before our loss, now it just makes me angry!

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