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March 2011 Moms
beeunit
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Oh MIL and your pathetic passive aggressiveness...
beeunit
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I don't like when people "hint" at things. Say what you mean and mean what you say. Today she called my phone and H answered it. They spoke for maybe 2 minutes and that was it. Then she sends me a text message that says "glad everyone is doing good". Grammatically incorrect, but whatever. I responded with "Thanks. Me too.". She then proceeded to say "My heart tells me to stop by every night but my head says no, lol". I find this to be nothing to "LOL" about. I responded with "DH says to follow your head". I'm not going to give you an open pass to come to my home whenever you feel like it, so stop hinting around. She then proceeded to ask if I wanted to buy salsa for SIL's school fundraiser. I told her I would. She wrote back with "Okay, I'll drop by sometime this week with the order form". Ahhh, sneaky! Then she asked me if we received one of the items we'd been waiting on for the nursery. I told her we had and she said, "Oh, I never got to see it in person". JUST STOP! I'm not going to invite you over because you're hinting around. If you want to come over, just ask. I will not however respond with "Well, you're more than welcome to come over whenever you want to"...because guess what, she's not.
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Re: Oh MIL and your pathetic passive aggressiveness...
I have to laugh because I could totally see my own mom saying those same things. It drives DH nuts and now that I notice it, it drive me nuts too. My MIL wouldn't do this so I guess I'm lucky (although she has her own brand of frustrating). I'm just waiting for my mom to speak through our LO. For example, ((in a baby voice pretending she's DS)) "Oh mommy, I think I need a hat on to go outside" = get a hat for your son. I dread that day!
I'm lucky my issue is with my mom because I can sort of tell her to knock it off. Can't say that to MIL. I'm impressed by your conviction!
Good Luck!!
Ahh, MIL did the "talking through LO" to me the other day. She came over and I had just got done changing his diaper and I had him wrapped up in a blanket. She came in and said "Oh mommy, I'm probably cold with no clothes on". He was sleeping. And he was fine. I wish it was my mom..then I'd have no problems telling her to buzz off!
My MIL would show up every day if she could, too. Last week she called me and asked if she could bring her sister (DH's aunt) over to meet the baby. Fine, DH's aunt hadn't met him yet, so I was okay with that. While they were over, MIL says, "so, FIL and I are going to bring dinner over tomorrow night." DH and I looked at eachother, like... did you know about this? But neither of us wanted to say anything in front of DH's aunt.
So the next day MIL and FIL showed up with dinner and stayed for like 3 hours!! It was nice of them to make dinner for us but I can't stand how MIL basically tells us that she's coming over instead of asking... She also randomly showed up one day, completely unannounced, while my family was over... SO awkward.
Seriously, you are my hero!!!
I'm glad I don't have to worry about MIL ... she could come over every single night and it would be fine with me. Seriously, every time she comes over, she has delicious food, starts cleaning, and gets DH and BIL to do something around the house. But I do have other people in my life that are less welcome and also passive aggressive.. and I don't handle it as well as you do. I am impressed!
NOT okay!!
Ahhh! Does she not have a home of her own? This makes no sense to me and I can't believe that they think you'd agree to that. Crazy.
See, if my MIL came over and behaved that way I'd be fine with it. My problem is she comes over and hands out advice that I didn't ask for, purposely wakes LO up when he's sleeping so she can "see his eyes", and then doesn't know when to leave. Congrats on having a nice MIL..and I'm sorry you have others that are passive aggressive..so obnoxious!