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so annoyed by other's opinions

stabil19stabil19 member
in October 2011 Moms

Every time I tell someone I am not finding out the sex of our baby, I get negative remarks.  It can vary from "You are making a HUGE mistake" to "You are going to drive ME crazy if you don't find out".  The last time I checked, the baby was in my belly, and my husband and I are going to be the parents. 

So what if I will miss out on all the "cute" shower gifts.  I would rather have what I NEED! 

This is my personal choice, and I wish people would state their opinion or response with more couth!

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  • PitaBreadPitaBread
    I got the opposite yesterday. I went to the chiropractor and always talk to the receptionist and she told me that we shouldn't find out because it's so much fun to find out at birth and how if we find out, there are no more surprises left in the pregnancy.  She doesn't even have kids, how would she know that?  Yea, we'll be finding out at our 20 week scan.  
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  • Nita2603Nita2603 member
    "Opinions are like a$$holes, everybody has one." - is my response to stuff like that. Don't let it get to you....
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  • ababymaybeababymaybe member
    People are silly. I would just disregard. Plus, there are plenty of cute gender neutral options-- aside from yellow and green, there's also aqua, orange, etc.
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  • MereBMereB member
    I didn't find out with my first, and we had such a great experience that this baby will be a surprise as well!  It is ridiculous how people make it seem like you are inconveniencing them by not finding out, although on birth day they are the ones that are most excited when you finally tell them (and then they promptly go out and buy baby tons of the gender specific clothes they've been dying to buy you for months).  It's true about getting the things you need- almost everybody bought gifts off of my registry, which was really nice.  I felt totally prepared for baby, and my husband LOVED being the one to tell me that we had a boy- it was a special moment.
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  • zurawsk5zurawsk5
    It's your baby and your decision! We aren't finding out either and my sister is mad about it. i told her when she has a baby that she can find out. 
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  • Soon2BMrsSikesSoon2BMrsSikes

    You're going to get that no matter what decisions you make unfortunately. We are finding out and I actually had someone I don't even know that well tell me they would be so mad it me if I found out. Although those tend to be the older people who didn't even have the option of finding out when they were pregnant, so they just think that's the way it should be.

    For DH and I, finding out is the right thing for us. But we have friends that didn't find out and they said not finding out was the best decision they made.

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  • fraglettefraglette
    We get a lot of the same comments. I think with anything pregnancy related you're in a "damned if ya do, damned if ya don't" position. Wait until they stay asking about OB v. Midwife, medicated v. unmedicated birth, breastfeeding, cloth v. disposable diapers...
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  • stabil19stabil19 member

    imagefraglette:
    We get a lot of the same comments. I think with anything pregnancy related you're in a "damned if ya do, damned if ya don't" position. Wait until they stay asking about OB v. Midwife, medicated v. unmedicated birth, breastfeeding, cloth v. disposable diapers...

    I know this is just the beginning.  I'm bracing myself for opinions about EVERYTHING, and I am sure most will be the opposite of mine.

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  • osuwkuosuwku member

    We are finding out the sex and everyone tells us we shouldn't and that it is more fun waiting! UGH, thats what I want to say too, "pretty sure this is my child not yours so we will make the decision"  We also aren't telling the name until the day he/she is born, no one likes that either. But oh well!

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  • spedispedi
    We were team green with #1 and it was WONDERFUL. With this one, we are on the fence. I have SO much blue/boy clothing socked away. If this one is a girl...I need to PURGE.  If not, I'm set for clothing for a lifetime!
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  • Jessie0706Jessie0706
    I can agree with you! Everyone gave us similar comments with DD1 and what was funny, is I gave in from not finding out to my husband's wanting to find out and the baby didn't cooperate and give us a clear shot, so we never knew, for sure, what the baby would be until she was born! So, who knows, your LO may just not cooperate anyway and even if you tried, you wouldn't find out! :)
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  • KristaK10KristaK10
    I have gotten a very similar response...people LOVE to tell me how hard this is for THEM! Thankfully, DH and I are both perfectly content waiting until our LO makes his/her debut. So, they will just have to wait =)
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  • colliebabecolliebabe member

    imagefraglette:
    We get a lot of the same comments. I think with anything pregnancy related you're in a "damned if ya do, damned if ya don't" position. Wait until they stay asking about OB v. Midwife, medicated v. unmedicated birth, breastfeeding, cloth v. disposable diapers...

    I agree! Definitely seems like either way (Team Green or Team Find Out) someone isn't going to like it!  It's super annoying, but luckily only you and your H have to to like it. :o)

    Now in my case I am Team Green and H doesn't like it - there's an issue I am not sure how to fix!

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  • Mommy2BellsMommy2Bells
    I wish I could wear a big sign on my forehead saying "Keep opinions to yourself" hahaha.
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  • stabil19stabil19 member
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    imagefraglette:
    We get a lot of the same comments. I think with anything pregnancy related you're in a "damned if ya do, damned if ya don't" position. Wait until they stay asking about OB v. Midwife, medicated v. unmedicated birth, breastfeeding, cloth v. disposable diapers...

    I agree! Definitely seems like either way (Team Green or Team Find Out) someone isn't going to like it!  It's super annoying, but luckily only you and your H have to to like it. :o)

    Now in my case I am Team Green and H doesn't like it - there's an issue I am not sure how to fix!

    I'm actually in this position, but I have put my foot down about this.  I told my DH if he must know, he can't tell ANYONE.  He has a son and found out then, so I told him I wanted to not find out with his second child.  All I know is at 20 week appt, I will tell them no to knowing the sex, and DH can decide for himself.  It's frustrating, but I am not backing down.  It means a lot to me to wait.

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