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"How To Get Your Husband To Volunteer For A Vascetomy" by redshoegirl
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Tell him you're 99% sure that the birth control you're using (Mirena) is responsible for your total and utter lack of libido.
The next words out of his mouth were, "Oh. I see. [pause to think] Well, I guess I'd better make an appointment with my doctor to discuss vasectomy then."
I couldn't help laughing - he's been SO gun shy about even discussing it, but apparently getting a scalpel near his manbits isn't nearly as frightening as looking down the barrel of another 4 years or more with virtually no sex. 
I did tell him that I'm more than happy to get Essure, but interestingly, he finds it frightening for me to do something that permanent. I'm all for it (I absolutely do not want more children) but I think he feels more comfortable with a vasectomy because it could be reversed, whereas Essure needs to be regarded as irreversible.
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Re: "How To Get Your Husband To Volunteer For A Vascetomy" by redshoegirl
LOL That's awesome!
I haven't looked into other options besides the pill b/c, well, frankly, it's just one more pill in the lot that I take every day anyway! I feel like my grandmother!
It doesn't seem like he needs to feel anymore comfortable with it, but just fyi...I have several friends who knew they were done with kids & the guys stepped up for getting it done. They had no complications or troubles (or more babies!)
haha that is great!
though honestly if you are certain you don't want more kids (which i know you don't) then i'd still do back up birth control (whatever that may be).... you hear too many stories of ppl getting PG even after their DH's get a vasectomy!
Jaime & Brent
Oahu, Hawaii | Sept. 9, 2005
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Yeah, I'm considering something like the mini pill since it's a lower dose of hormones (I'm not anti-BC or anything obviously, but it would be nice to be off it or at least on as mild a form as possible, you know?).
Ben and I were discussing last night how certain I was, and as I finally explained to him: as horrible and awful as it sounds, if I got pregnant again, I would be devastated. I'm not exaggerating. I would not want that child. And I would much rather get a permanent fix now and risk the .0000001% chance that I'll change my mind in the future vs ending up pregnant under those circumstances.
I'm sure this is probably abhorrent to some people, but I feel like it's the far more responsible thing to do if I'm being truly honest about my feelings on the subject.
This post made me LOL...so much so that J asked, "what's so funny?" and I read him the title of your post. Then, he says without batting an eye, "Oh, I'd get a vascetomy when we're done having kids..." Wow. We've never discussed it before...
Both my brother and BFF's hubby have them and have talked about it, in detail, with J. So, I am glad he's open to it.
But, like you Lisa, I think after the next baby, I'll be done too and will look into my options for a permanent solution so I don't have to do hormones, etc. Then again, we've toyed with the idea of having three kids...ugh. I am not really open to that...but J is...and has said more than once if the next baby is a girl he'd like us to try for a boy (i.e. kiddo #3). I told him to run that by his brother, who has FOUR girls (because they kept trying for a boy).
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