Ungrateful little b!tch (a rant... obviously)

roselln2 · April 2011

My brother broke up with his fiancee, and so now he's going through the typical ups and downs of the break-up where he misses her dreadfully and then hates her. When he's in the angry phase, he will sometimes tell me some story of something she did during their relationship that pissed him off.

He's in an angry phase, so he was telling me about something she had said when I had set up a college fund for their son.

Backstory: When my nephew was first born, I had told them I was going to set up a 529 account to help out with his college. It was my gift to him because I was concerned if they'd do something for him because they aren't much for planning ahead, and I wanted to make sure Wyatt had something. Of course, I didn't say this to them. When I figured out how much we'd contribute, I factored in what college would cost by then and how much we could sustainably contribute to considering we would be starting our own family. I did not intend this would take care of Wyatt's entire college fund because a) he's not my kid, b) we have our own expenses so I didn't want to overcommit and c) we would hopefully have our own kids. We committed to a sizable initial gift followed by quarterly contributions for my nephew's life up to college. I did want to set their expectations, though, so I even told them that according to my conservative estimates, this gift would be worth $60,000 once he reached college age, which would hopefully take care of one year of college.

What would a reasonable person do in this situation if you were Wyatt's mom? I would hope you would be thankful for this gift. Period. Perhaps you may even decide to start your own account for him to make sure you could cover all or part of the remaining college years.

What did she do instead? My brother told me that she complained that it probably wouldn't cover his cost for books. The nerve!

bluebabka · April 2011

***. I'm guessing that break up will be well-received : )

SPerry0376 · April 2011

She sounds like a real peach

whispergrrl · April 2011

She sounds like a peach. *blink*

At least she didn't ask if she could cash it in early "for him"...

etoyama · April 2011

What a jerk!!

ginger67 · April 2011

Good riddance. She can't touch that money can she?

Sunshine05 · April 2011

Wow, that's awful. Hopefully your nephew will at least appreciate your very generous gift when he gets older. Glad your brother came to his senses and broke up with her!

roselln2 · April 2011

ginger67:
Good riddance. She can't touch that money can she?

No, I set it up in my and DH's name with our nephew as the beneficiary. I did it purposely because I feared that if I didn't, they'd try to tap into the fund if they got low on cash or something. I wanted to make sure it was protected and only left for my nephew. I also was secretly concerned that they wouldn't last, and I didn't want his fund to be something she could take for herself if they split up. Boy, am I glad I did that.

:::polishing finger nails on shirt::: I have to say, though, that I'm proud to say that the fund is performing very well. Yay!

ashonkwiler09 · April 2011

That is very sweet and generous of you and your husband. She sounds like a huge ***!

Temp616379875002458 · April 2011

This was an incredibly generous gift and you were so smart to set it up in the manner you did. She may go sit in the corner with my brother's ungrateful ex.

schoolsoutbride · April 2011

Whoa? I would be so blown over I wouldn't know what to say! Total ungrateful b!tch!

Temp356619000002780 · April 2011

You are very generous. We aren't even doing this for our kids. MH is a physician and started at community colleges and eventually moved up. We can't imagine paying 60,000 for 1st year of school. So I guess what I am saying is his ex is a total ungrateful selfish biatch! We will gift our nieces and nephew when they go to college. I refuse to commit to something like you did, my sister pops out kids like mad.

You should stop listening to your brother tho. Because if he decides to go back to her you will only hate her more and more with all the BS he is telling you. He needs to keep all that to himself.

MyShellyBelly · April 2011

Holy moly...I'd have to throat punch her. Ungrateful doesn't even begin to describe this "woman". I'm so sorry sweetie! Hopefully the break-up "takes" and he doesn't get back together with her...I could see any future get-togethers being VERY uncomfortable. (((hugs)))

roselln2 · April 2011

mari2003:
You are very generous. We aren't even doing this for our kids. MH is a physician and started at community colleges and eventually moved up. We can't imagine paying 60,000 for 1st year of school. So I guess what I am saying is his ex is a total ungrateful selfish biatch! We will gift our nieces and nephew when they go to college. I refuse to commit to something like you did, my sister pops out kids like mad.
You should stop listening to your brother tho. Because if he decides to go back to her you will only hate her more and more with all the BS he is telling you. He needs to keep all that to himself.

I get what you're saying, but my brother really doesn't have anyone to talk to right now. I am very careful, though, to not say anything back to him about how I feel about her or about their relationship because I wouldn't want it to get back to her something I said so that if they get back together, things would be awkward. My job as his sister is just to listen to both the ups and the downs and to not judge him and be there to support. That's why I came here to b!tch about her... Had to let it out somehow. Ha ha.

Temp356619000002780 · April 2011

roselln2:
mari2003:
You are very generous. We aren't even doing this for our kids. MH is a physician and started at community colleges and eventually moved up. We can't imagine paying 60,000 for 1st year of school. So I guess what I am saying is his ex is a total ungrateful selfish biatch! We will gift our nieces and nephew when they go to college. I refuse to commit to something like you did, my sister pops out kids like mad.
You should stop listening to your brother tho. Because if he decides to go back to her you will only hate her more and more with all the BS he is telling you. He needs to keep all that to himself.
I get what you're saying, but my brother really doesn't have anyone to talk to right now. I am very careful, though, to not say anything back to him about how I feel about her or about their relationship because I wouldn't want it to get back to her something I said so that if they get back together, things would be awkward. My job as his sister is just to listen to both the ups and the downs and to not judge him and be there to support. That's why I came here to b!tch about her... Had to let it out somehow. Ha ha.

I don't blame you for coming here. I feel for you and hope his drama doesn't last too long!

DeputiesWife · April 2011

whispergrrl:

She sounds like a peach. *blink*

At least she didn't ask if she could cash it in early "for him"...

i was thinking the same thing.

and what an amazing gift you have started for him.

BathingInBitter · April 2011

Wow! Indifferent

I think what you did for Wyatt was a great investment. I'm just sad that his Mom is so ungrateful. She sounds pretty douche-tastic to me.

jiffy-pop · April 2011

Wow. $60,000 would have paid for my whole 4yrs of college (which was only 3yrs ago). It only cost about $5,000-$6,000 per semester at the university I attended. Of course it will be much more 18yrs from now.

babylove0511 · April 2011

wow, what a gem! you are such a thoughtful aunt!

patchen30 · April 2011

That's outrageous. That was so nice of you!

Echloe · April 2011

That is totally b!tchy. How much does she expect you to give???? And I bet she gives nothing to your child.

roselln2 · April 2011

Echloe:
That is totally b!tchy. How much does she expect you to give???? And I bet she gives nothing to your child.

I'm betting you're right! She hasn't even managed to congratulate me about the pregnancy even though she knew full well what we were going through to get pregnant.

What's more is my brother apparently told her about our complications back when we thought it was vasa previa, and she hasn't asked him anything about how we're doing. He's even pointed it out to her that she never asks about how me and the baby are doing, and she changed the topic and went back to biitching about whatever she was upset about. She truly is a peach.

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