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Starting to think about #2 and feeling wary...anyone else?

DMD1029DMD1029 member
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Next week is a big week...I turn 40 and DS turns 6 months.  It has me thinking that I need to get serious about at least thinking about #2.  I realize that this would involve (at a minimum) DH and I being awake together for longer than 10 minutes, but hoping we get there soon! 

In all seriousness, I'm nervous about even starting to think about it for several reasons: 1) what if it's as tough to get pregnant as it was the last time? (I'm generally a rational person...I can't imagine that my DOR has gotten better with age!Wink 2) what if I get as caught up in it as I did last time?  I was pretty much consumed by the journey for 2 1/2 years.  It felt like everything was about when the next trip to the RE was, what test did we need to do, or counting the minutes until the beta, or the call about the beta results, or...  I have a wonderful, sweet, happy little boy and I don't want to miss one minute of him.  How do I balance the crazy rollercoaster of IF with being a mom?

Sorry if I'm not being very articulate.  As you can tell, my thoughts about this are all over the place!  I would love to hear from others who have thought about this though and get some encouragement!

TTC #1,
IUI #1: December 2008 - BFN
IVF #1: Microdose Lupron - July 2009; only got 1 egg; BFN
IVF #2: Natural IVF - Sept 2009; BFP!; D&C Nov. 2009
IVF #3: Natural IVF - ER: Feb 4, 2010 - 1 "M2" egg retrieved; ET: Feb 9; Beta#1 (19dpo): 2567; Beta #2: 6933; BFP w/ singleton w/strong hrtbt! DS born October 2010
TTC#2
IVF #4: Natural IVF - ER: Nov. 20, 2011; ET: Nov. 25, 2011; BFP! Beta#1 (19dpo): 1918; Saw hrtbt on 12/28/11!
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Re: Starting to think about #2 and feeling wary...anyone else?

  • queenbonequeenbone member

    Hopefully since you know what worked for you the first time, your journey won't be as long for #2. Right, if you have a diagnosis already, that part of the process is behind you.

    I'm probably not a good person to comment on being wary.  I'm already planning out #3.  Crazy, but I will be 36 when I want to go back for treatments, so I'd be 37 potentially when I had the baby.  Every tick of my biological clock is ringing loudly in my ears.  I just want to get it all done and behind me.

    FWIW, the stress/frustration of #2 wasn't as bad since I had DS to enjoy and keep me happy. GL!

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  • cheekyalicheekyali
    I was/am in the exact same position. DS is 11 months, and I will be 40 this summer. We started (or I did at least) thinking about this stuff a few months ago. I have all the same reservations and fears you mentioned, but we decided to go for it and are doing IVF again in May. I am going to try to have a totally different attitude and not obsess and let it take over our lives for our son's sake. Easier said than done I know.
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