contemplating a move

luckymrs718 · April 2011

DH and I have been tossing around the idea of moving all weekend. We both feel "stuck" where we're at. He's been passed over for promotions time and time again and his company has an open position in SC. To move or not to move is the question of the moment. The pros and cons are about even right now. Maybe moving will give us a sense that something good can come of the pain in the last year. Or maybe this is just another step in my grieving? Wanting to leave everything behind and start over? I don't know. I guess we will see what happens. If he gets the position I guess it was meant to be, and if not then I guess we'll make another go of it here. But, I can't shake the feeling that I REALLY want this. I've even been looking at houses, and with all the remodeling we've done to ours I know we could sell it for way more than what he bought it for 7 years ago. Anyone else ever just want to drop everything and move away? Am I being impulsive? DH and I have never been ones to do anything impulsively. We are the responsible ones in our families, but what have we to show for it? We've got a house, 2 paid off vehicles and each other, sure. Ok, I'm rambling now... thanks for putting up with my thought processes.

jen629 · April 2011

I think if there is an opportunity and it would give you a change I say why not try it out? GL!

williams4me · April 2011

My DH and I tossed around the idea of moving out of state. My entire family is here in CA though, and most of DH's too. I am pretty close with my family so that would be hard for me. We could by 3x the house in other states though for what we pay to live out here Surprise which is another benefit..

I get what you are saying though and that urge to to just pack and run!! Sometimes the thought of starting over somewhere new is so refreshing!

MarxieVonTrapp · April 2011

If you feel stuck, then go for it! It sounds like you've been in your present location for quite a while and a new place is a great idea. If you have the opportunity, go for it!

1220winterbride · April 2011

It sounds like a great opportunity for you and DH!

jkfranklin · April 2011

I had the impulse to move when I was TTC for over a year without success. I didn't really like my job and I was sick of being around family asking "when are you going to have a baby?" all the time. I wanted to give up and I thought that if I couldn't have a baby, I wanted to at least do something that I wanted to do. I was going to move to California and go to school to become a marine mammal trainer, but then I decided I wanted to have kids more than be happy professionally so I chose to invest that school money in anything I would need to get pregnant. Luckily, it wasn't as costly as I thought it would be.

Now that I've rambled for a while, I think we all might have that instinct when we feel stuck. We want to keep moving forward in life and we can't so we try to force it. It's not a bad thing as long as it's throught through.

MrsRiceARoni · April 2011

I think it sounds like a great opportunity. It sounds like you've thought it through so I wouldn't call it impulsive. GL in whatever you decide to do.

luckymrs718 · April 2011

williams4me:

My DH and I tossed around the idea of moving out of state. My entire family is here in CA though, and most of DH's too. I am pretty close with my family so that would be hard for me. We could by 3x the house in other states though for what we pay to live out here which is another benefit..

I get what you are saying though and that urge to to just pack and run!! Sometimes the thought of starting over somewhere new is so refreshing!

My family and DH's mom and siblings all live within 15 minutes of where we live now. His dad's family is about 1 1/2 hours away. So it would be a HUGE change for us as far as not having family down the road. But, that could also be a good thing. We've been in the town we live in for quite a while. I think a change of scenery would be good for us. But he made a good point last night... we are both way too responsible to do anything impulsive and even though this may not happen, it's fun to dream and think about what could be Smile we have decided though, that regardless of whether this happens now or not, we WILL one day move out to the coast even if it's 50 years from now! LOL! I'm really pulling for now though!

Ashlbee · April 2011

We did this! It will be two years ago in June, we moved from Michigan to Reno Nevada. In about February we planned a trip to visit Lake Tahoe in May. In about March we thought maybe we would look at apartments and things and think about moving sometime. In April, maybe a month before the trip, we decided to move. No matter what. So we went on the trip in May, found an apartment on the last day, flew back to Michigan, got a U haul the next day, packed it up, and were on the road the next day!

We are generally not impulsive at all, in fact, I plan everything to the last detail. But we felt it was what we needed to do, and have not regretted it for a second. Since we have been here, our lives have gotten much better! Obviously this isn't right for everyone, but for us, it was the best thing we ever did!

biddy53178 · April 2011

I'm all for moving- moving to CT from California four years ago was an impulse move- I decided one day I needed a change. Two mos later I was driving cross country with only what I could fit into my car. I moved here and didn't know a soul- it was the best decision I ever made- good luck

Eris-Alexis · April 2011

I have to agree with Sweet Turnip. It doesn't sound like you are being impulsive at all, and I think it is perfectly natural to want a fresh start after everything that has happened. And moves can definitely be a good thing.

I hope that everything works out for the best for you.

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