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FH finally got a job, he doesnt have his schedule yet, but he is suppose to start this week. BM told him today, that he may have to ask for every other weekend off, because he is not going to let him have his kids, so i can watch them while he works. Confusion, wouldnt it be better and basically the same as a baby sitter who will watch them whenever she gets a job? Shouldnt she be happy he has a job to pay her? because when he hasnt had a job she has always threw up in his face get a job, pay me. and she only wants the money soo bad after she takes a trip out of town, or she is pissed off. ugh. Will this ever end??
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Is there a CO? If so she cannot deny him his visitatin, no matter his schedule.
BM tried to pull this in court last year when she was trying to get full custody. She argued that she had become a stay at home mom (which lasted 3 months) and that since H worked she shouldn't be handing her child over so his 'step mother' could watch him. Our judge basically told her your point here - that it's the same as a babysitter, and that these days people work. She was going to have to get over it. He told her to get over the chip on her shoulder and he wasn't going to award her full custody based on that.(not his exact words, it was put much nicer, that's just basically what he was saying though lol)
If there is a CO, and he ends up working EOW sometimes, I would prepare to file contempt. If there is not a CO, well, I'm going to be the broken record of the board and say it. GET A CO!!! NOW!!! :-)
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This. Also, even though your CO is vague, BM should be working with DH to come up with a visitation schedule that works. A judge is not going to be very happy with her if she just starts withholding visits when there is a history of EOW. Our CO states that each parent is responsible for their own child care during their scheduled time. If we had thought about it at the time, we also would have asked for first right of refusal for periods of more than 24 hours, so if BM went out of town, we could have the option of having SS.
you need to go back and get a CO. If it is in a CO that he gets EOW visits, she cannot dictate what he does while your SC is in your care.
ETA: I did not notice the point where the BM gets mad about not getting her money, she should be mad. Sorry.