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Explain what being a mother feels like
One of my closest friends found out she is unable to conceive. We were talking about all of the different ways she could try to build the family she's always wanted. (in vitro, insemination, serrogate mother, adoption.)
Then out of no where she asked me, "what does it feel like to be a mother?"
I didn't know what to say besides
"She puts the light in my life. I will always have someone who needs me and that is the greatest feeling I've ever experienced."
How would you explain what being a mom feels like?
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Re: Explain what being a mother feels like
That is a hard one....
I guess I would describe it as not only what you said, but also helping to raise a better generation in hope of creating a better world.
Remy is EVERYTHING to me. I would give up anything a hundred times over to see him laugh and smile.
It gives me a purpose beyond myself.
I'm struggling with my transition back to work. The more I think about it I have realized it's because my motivation and drive are focused elsewhere. Before I was married work was my sole purpose, then as DH and I got closer and then married more of my purpose was to be his companion, but having DD is like nothing else matters, my world and purpose is based on providing her what she needs.
FWIW I whole heartedly believe that whether biological or not, a woman who is in the role of 'mother' no matter how they get there, would feel this same way!
It feels like that thing that was missing. I feel complete now.
And a little bit cheesy.
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I think I'd describe it as the most terrifying joy I've ever felt.
It makes sense to me. lol.
That brought tears to my eyes. My sister is also struggling and she is the kindest person I know. She loves kids. One day she also asked me what it feels like to be a mom and to describe what she felt like inside of me. I started crying! I didn't know how to describe it except that you love them so much you can cry in an instant just looking at them by the overwhelming feeling of love and joy.
I know. I'm a sap sometimes.
It is embarking on a journey I know will grow me in a way nothing else ever could.
I couldn't give you a complete sentence to describe it. lol
It is a study in contrasts. Agony and bliss, laughs and cries, ease and tension. It is the most relaxing and yet stress full occupation. lol At times I'm frustrated beyond belief and others I find him easy.
It is very bittersweet. Every milestone is a step away from him being my baby and that hurts. No matter how happy I am to see him grow, change, and flourish i still ache because I'm loosing my baby.
I love him so much it hurts.
This is beautiful. And exactly how I feel
I have friends who have told me they are too selfish to have children (friends that I know would make great parents). My response is that being a mother makes you selfless. Being a mother is knowing that no matter what, that little person matters more than anything else in the world, including yourself. It's feeling needed and important and yet entirely inadequate. It's makes all the things you thought were important to you pale in comparison to a tiny baby. It's amazing and wonderful and terrifying and awesome.
I hope your friend finds a way to be a mama.