MOH dress size concern

Mrs.Coach1011 · April 2011

So I am the MOH in my BIL's wedding on July 30th. I have yet to order my dress becuase I am not sure how big I will be by then (almost 29 weeks) and therefore what size to get.

Here is the dress: https://www.davidsbridal.com/Product_Satin-Gown-with-Side-Drape-Brooch-8567_Bridal-Party-Bridesmaids-All-Bridesmaid-Dresses

When I tried it on, it was right before I found out I was pg, about 2 weeks before! It's satin and I feel like it may be able to fit a belly if sized big enough due to the style.

another twist, the family doesn't know yet. We plan to tell our families for Easter (about 15 weeks along). Should I ask my future SIL if she wants me to wear a different dress then? She was told the dresses have to be ordered by May 1st.

I'm already the biggest in the wedding (everyone else is 5'4" or shorter and I'm 5'8" and have a 38DD chest) and I don't want to look ridiculous. Tongue Tied

have any of you been in a wedding PG and if so, do you think this dress would work? sorry but I'm new to this...

LovieBear · April 2011

Personally I think that looks like a really hard dress to wear at 30 weeks.

I have to wear this dress at 26 weeks ?but I would tell the bride to see if there is something else you can wear that would be cut more bump friendly. Just my Opinion otherwise you would have to order really big and have it taken in in areas.. good luck

www.jcrew.com/wedding/Wedding_Bridesmaid/dresses/silktaffeta/PRDOVR~11922/11922.jsp?

ddeane05 · April 2011

I would talk to the bride and whoever is going to be doing the alterations on the dress. They have a lot of experience with this sort of thing and will have a good idea of what to do.

Sugarsweets04 · April 2011

I got married in August and two of my girls were TTC when we were looking at bridesmaid dresses so I let them pick out dresses that would be comfortable for them. My MOH ended up being 20 weeks at the wedding and wore this dress:

https://www.davidsbridal.com/Product_Cotton-Sateen-Strapless-with-Ruching-and-Pockets-83312_Bridal-Party-Bridesmaids-All-Bridesmaid-Dresses

I know there is a difference between 20 wks and 29 wks but she looked adorable in it! At David's they are able to let a dress out by two sizes so my MOH was able to still order her pre-pregnacy dress size. If you're worried about it, order one size larger and they can work with your growing belly, no matter what dress you decide on.

Have you looked through their "maternity appropriate" section? Maybe approach your FSIL with a similar style. I've been to lots of weddings where the MOH is in a different dress than the rest of the girls. Hopefully she'll be completely understanding and not make a big deal out of it.

happylady07 · April 2011

I would talk to your FSIL about it, and also check with David's Bridal- maybe they have a fake belly you can strap on to make your decision easier?

dlast09 · April 2011

I will be about 26 weeks when I am in my friends wedding in June. I asked some ladies over on 2nd tri a while back, and they advised me to get a size or two bigger so there is something to work with, better to be bigger than smaller. That dress you linked, I don't think your belly will fit into it. At least not by the looks. I would be hesitant. Ask you SIL once everyone knows. I am sure something can be worked out! Good luck!

cantalopes24 · April 2011

Find an actual seamstress, show them a picture and they can advise you. I know the alterations department at my local DB is simply that, they give terrible sizing advice and some dresses look awful sized way down. I am in a wedding in August and am having panels put in. They are basically remaking the bottom half of the dress.

Ready2bMommy · April 2011

If it were me I would talk to whom ever would be altering the dress to see what they suggest re: alterations/sizing. When pregnant with my dd I was in a wedding at 32 weeks. Dresses were ordered before finding out I was pregnant, so I ordered the dress a few (I think two) sizes larger in hopes I'd be pregnant. Turns out the dress was too small, I had to buy a second dress and fabric from that was used to alter the original dress. Thankfully, I had a wonderful seamstress!

Mrs.Coach1011 · April 2011

Sugarsweets04:

I got married in August and two of my girls were TTC when we were looking at bridesmaid dresses so I let them pick out dresses that would be comfortable for them. My MOH ended up being 20 weeks at the wedding and wore this dress:

https://www.davidsbridal.com/Product_Cotton-Sateen-Strapless-with-Ruching-and-Pockets-83312_Bridal-Party-Bridesmaids-All-Bridesmaid-Dresses

I know there is a difference between 20 wks and 29 wks but she looked adorable in it! At David's they are able to let a dress out by two sizes so my MOH was able to still order her pre-pregnacy dress size. If you're worried about it, order one size larger and they can work with your growing belly, no matter what dress you decide on.

Have you looked through their "maternity appropriate" section? Maybe approach your FSIL with a similar style. I've been to lots of weddings where the MOH is in a different dress than the rest of the girls. Hopefully she'll be completely understanding and not make a big deal out of it.

that dress is ADORABLE! and I would love to wear it. there are 6 girls in the wedding (including myself) and I believe they have all already bought the dress, so unfortuantely it I end up in a different dress, it would have to be the same length and look. I am the matron of honor and then there is also a maid of honor, and she already bought the dress as well. I saw this one and thought it may be close enough if the original can't be worked out:

https://www.davidsbridal.com/Product_Strapless-Jersey-A-line-with-Ruched-Charmeuse-Bust-F13291_Bridal-Party-Features-Maternity-Appropriate

Hopefully when we tell everyone she will be excited and go with me to make sure the dress is as much to her liking as it is to mine. she is 5 years younger than me, but has been very reasonable with everything so far, so I hope she'll be understanding with this as well.

thank you for all the suggestions! I will definitely ask if they have a fake belly to try on with the dresses as someone mentioned above Wink

KariChadDora · April 2011

By 29 weeks your belly is going to be up to the bottom of your breasts and I don't think the "sash" part of that dress that runs across the middle of it will accommodate it. I would talk to your SIL and ask about getting another style dress in the same color that would fit your belly more, look for something with an empire waist.

lazfam1120 · April 2011

i have to wear this dress at 21 weeks

https://www.jcrew.com/wedding/Wedding_Bridesmaid/dresses/silktaffeta/PRDOVR~19961/19961.jsp

i am thinking of just ordering it a couple sizes too big and then have it altered. im hoping it will fit. i am 10 weeks now and not showing at all yet.

i have another wedding to be in August 13, so 29 weeks. that one i'm pretty sure i will need a different dress.

jaymew · April 2011

I could have written this post myself. We just went to order my dress for my sisters wedding yesterday. At David's bridal. I had tried on the dress when I wasn't pregnant and had just lost 40 lbs. I lost about 10 more after that and have gained 5 since I got PG. I tried them on yesterday although they didn't have my size in the dress. She told me to order 2 sizes bigger which I refused because that dress literally fell off of me. One size bigger was still too big. She said that they CAN"T let out a dress if it's too small they can only take dresses in. I'm not sure if this is true as she was a complete idiot.

I ended up ordering it one size bigger just to be on the safe side. But I know I'm going to have to alter it. Luckily this dress will be fine for a pregnant belly. I will be 25 weeks at the wedding. We are wearing this dress:

https://www.davidsbridal.com/Product_One-Shoulder-Long-Jersey-Dress-with-Cascade-Back-F13185_Bridal-Party-Bridesmaids-Long-Bridesmaid-Dresses

ETA: I personally wouldn't ask the bride to change the dress for me as she picked those because she liked them. I think that Davids Bridal will be able to work around your bump with that dress. Good luck!

cantalopes24 · April 2011

jaymew:
I could have written this post myself. We just went to order my dress for my sisters wedding yesterday. At David's bridal. I had tried on the dress when I wasn't pregnant and had just lost 40 lbs. I lost about 10 more after that and have gained 5 since I got PG. I tried them on yesterday although they didn't have my size in the dress. She told me to order 2 sizes bigger which I refused because that dress literally fell off of me. One size bigger was still too big. She said that they CAN"T let out a dress if it's too small they can only take dresses in. I'm not sure if this is true as she was a complete idiot.

I ended up ordering it one size bigger just to be on the safe side. But I know I'm going to have to alter it. Luckily this dress will be fine for a pregnant belly. I will be 25 weeks at the wedding. We are wearing this dress:

https://www.davidsbridal.com/Product_One-Shoulder-Long-Jersey-Dress-with-Cascade-Back-F13185_Bridal-Party-Bridesmaids-Long-Bridesmaid-Dresses

I hate DB alterations. They told me the same thing and my seamstress said absolutely not to go 2 sizes up because the top will look.awful, I got an extra yard of fabric and it will be fine.

Junebug060609 · April 2011

That's a really similar style to what my wedding dress was. The style could easily have covered things up where they are at now for the pregnancy...at 30 weeks...notsomuch. It had some room under the pleat for a belly, but not much give once the belly got as far us as where the pleat is. At that point an empire waist would work so much better.

Could you possibly tell your FSIL sooner than Easter? I get wanting to tell people all together and all, but you'll only have a week for a back up dress to be found, tried on, and ordered. Just seems like that last minute stress could be avoided, KWIM?

jaymew · April 2011

cantalopes24:
jaymew:
I could have written this post myself. We just went to order my dress for my sisters wedding yesterday. At David's bridal. I had tried on the dress when I wasn't pregnant and had just lost 40 lbs. I lost about 10 more after that and have gained 5 since I got PG. I tried them on yesterday although they didn't have my size in the dress. She told me to order 2 sizes bigger which I refused because that dress literally fell off of me. One size bigger was still too big. She said that they CAN"T let out a dress if it's too small they can only take dresses in. I'm not sure if this is true as she was a complete idiot.

I ended up ordering it one size bigger just to be on the safe side. But I know I'm going to have to alter it. Luckily this dress will be fine for a pregnant belly. I will be 25 weeks at the wedding. We are wearing this dress:

https://www.davidsbridal.com/Product_One-Shoulder-Long-Jersey-Dress-with-Cascade-Back-F13185_Bridal-Party-Bridesmaids-Long-Bridesmaid-Dresses
I hate DB alterations. They told me the same thing and my seamstress said absolutely not to go 2 sizes up because the top will look.awful, I got an extra yard of fabric and it will be fine.

I do too, and I'm probably just going to take it to my alterations lady, because, I used them once and vowed to never do it again.

Sugarsweets04 · April 2011

jaymew:

She said that they CAN"T let out a dress if it's too small they can only take dresses in. I'm not sure if this is true as she was a complete idiot.

Wow, that is a horrible David's Bridal not to be able to let a dress out. I went in a week before my wedding and was in tears because my boobs had gotten too big for my dress! They charged me extra because it was a rush job but they were still able to let it out.

One of the first questions we asked when the girls were trying on dresses was about how much they are able to alter a dress. My consultant told me two whole dress sizes, in or out.

Some people have good experiences with DB and others have horror stories. If they tell you they can't let a dress out, ask another trusted seamstress somewhere else like other people have suggested.

mellymel12 · April 2011

I am MOH in my BFF's wedding 2 weeks before my due date. The rest of the girls are going to find something that looks good and fits on them (bride is going with same color but diff style dresses) and then I will find something for myself elsewhere (the places she's looking dont carry plus size or maternity dresses). She doesnt mind this and neither do I...we'll just get a swatch of fabric once the other dresses are ordered and make sure mine matches as much as it can!!

newmomma72 · April 2011

DB does have the belly pillows to try on with dresses, or at least some of them do. Also I think that sine you are Matron the bride would be ok with having you wear something different. IMO I would much rather have my BMs look good and be comfortable than have them totally match

amethyst13 · April 2011

That must be a popular dress because I'm a bridesmaid in a wedding wearing that same dress and I'll be 15 weeks along. I bought one size bigger than I am and wish I bought 2 sizes bigger. I'm too scared to try it on but I have a feeling it's going to be really snug. I'm on baby #3 though so showing a lot sooner. I'd say with the size of your bust you'll have to order a much bigger size anyway. I'd say a bigger dress in this style could easily be taken in. Sometimes those salons have pg bellies you can try on with the dress so you can see how it would fit. Good luck!

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