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OctGirl80 · March 2011

What's the best & worst of having two under 2? DH & I are considering TTC when DD is about 6 months and I'm wondering what we're getting ourselves into.

kate081206 · March 2011

Worst: NO time for yourself...I mean...ZERO

Best: Seeing them interact. Having two "babies". DS doesn't know life without his sister in it : )

kcisthebombdotcom · March 2011

Best: pregnancy with an infant is much easier than pregnancy with a toddler. You can nap when they nap! Oldest one is too young to understand so there's less jealousy/adjustment. Getting the sleepless nights/diapers/teething/terrible 2 stages out of the way instead of getting spoiled and starting all over again.

Worst: Having to carry 2 kids out to the car. Running errands is tougher (although I'm sure that's the case with 2 kids no matter their ages). I dread when they're both in the midst of tantrums/terrible 2s around the same time. There's been tough phases at night, like when DD was getting up twice a night to eat and DS was up every hour cutting his molars.

I don't think it's difficult really-I can balance it all pretty well and find time for myself in between. I think it's because both of my kids have easy temperaments-my DS was an easy baby and isnt a challenging toddler (yet!) and my DD is a dream baby. If I had 2 tough kids, I'd probably think differently. Since you can't predict personalities, I'd go for whatever works best for your family and take your chances. Waiting might not necessarily make it easier.

GL!

roundtheworldgirl · March 2011

Worst: the days when you get no break. There are a lot of them, but I would say that I do also get an hour of nap overlap a couple times a week. Today, however, really sucked (it is late afternoon here right now). I am sick - no fever or vomiting - but achy and tired enough to just want to be in bed all day. But with one baby awake all the time, that hasn't been an option. Luckily DH will be able to come home a bit early so he can take over. I'm counting the minutes.

Best: So many things. I love watching them interact. They're 5.5 months and 18 months right now, and they have started interacting already. It just gets more and more fun to watch every day. I love that they are going to have built-in playmates for life. I think there is really a special bond between siblings so close in age that can't be matched when they are farther apart. I am the oldest of five, and my sibs are 3, 9, 11 and 14 years younger than me. We are all close, but the two who are two years apart are especially tight. I'm excited to give that to my kids.

I will say that we DID not plan to have kids so close in age. And I was really scared and upset when I first found out I was pregnant again. But now I really would not have it any other way. I'm starting to warm up to the idea of a third, and I'm pretty sure now that I don't want him/her to be more than two years younger than DD2.

LDQAM516 · March 2011

I have plenty of time for myself. Especially in the evenings when DD goes to bed and DH takes DS to check cattle and our farms. It is hard in the beginning because you have a newborn...but it got easy around 6 months...Mine are 21 months apart and think that is a perfect age gap. I SAHM so that might make a difference as to why I think it is easy. Like right now, they are both playing nice and quietly in their corner...I love it. We do have our hard moments but they are rare...the biggest pain right now is getting our DS to be gentle while playing with DD. he wants to rough around but she is still a little little for it! In the end...it is awesome and we are on to #3!

mel72 · March 2011

Best - they are really starting to interact/play/talk w/ each other and it's so cute!

Worst - when the whole family is sick (especially w/ the stomach bug) it is EXHAUSTING!

Scout1218 · March 2011

Best: Seeing them interact. DS started crawling last month and I love watching him chase his sister. She loves to play with him and I love that they'll never know life without one another. I hope they grow to be best of friends.

Worst: NO breaks. My DH is in the military and is gone so often...he's missed almost all of DS's life, and over half of DD's. Now that they have no synchronized naps, I have zero me time until they go to bed. DS goes down for his morning nap, wakes up, we all eat lunch, then DD naps, then she wakes up and DS naps. It's manageable most days, but can be exhausting...

kelleighxnicole · March 2011

I agree with Mel.

Though my newest, DS, is only a week old - I love watching DD who is 17 months try snuggling him and kissing him, and offering all of her stuff to him. I look forward to watching him react to her and interacting with her as he reaches all of his milestones.

& Already this first week home my daughter's had an ear infection, I've had excessive fluid retention in my leg, and hubby had a back problem ; so sitting in the ER waiting room with a breastfed 6 day old was no picnic!

wenb · April 2011

I have not yet had my DS #2, but my DS#1 was 5 mo when I got pregnant. I also work full time, so I can say the worst thing is the lack of sleep which leads to lack of patience for me. I was/am exhausted all the time. There is nothing like the sleep you got when your are pregnant with the first one! That said, hauling my 29lb. son around while sporting a huge belly is no picnic. But, I can't wait until my two little guys can play together!!

I am sure there will be more challenges to come, but isn't there no matter the situation?

mechanicsgirl · April 2011

Seeing them together is the best. Period. It's amazing every single minute.

The worst is never sleeping, I guess. But it's totally worth it to me.

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