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2nd Trimester
ktb31
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Vent: The comments are getting out of hand
ktb31
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So I'm not usually bothered when people exclaim how enormous I look. I know. I look big because I am big. It's my second baby and have packed on the lbs. I laughed when my husband said I was bigger than the pregnant woman at his office who is actually pregnant with twins and due during the same time. I laughed when my brother called me "Jon and Kate plus 8". But now, at 26 weeks, 563 comments later, I'm over it.
Random chick at school exclaimed "you're huge", followed by "You aren't due til July?!! Do you know what that means? How can you possibly get any bigger?", followed by "Have you seen a doctor? Is something wrong with the baby?", followed by "My friend who is pregnant with twins and due before you is way smaller than you!". I walked away without saying a word. She got the picture.
I had to ask my husband to stop announcing to the world how enormous I am because his grandmother is now convinced I'm having twins even though she hasn't seen me in months.
I've been called muffin top, barney, and had to convince what seems like hundreds of people I'm not having twins.
Yes, it's true, I'm huge, we can all see that. And I'm sure each random person is unaware that just minutes earlier some other random person made a similar comment. But really people. Can't you just leave the pregnant lady alone?!
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Re: Vent: The comments are getting out of hand
When people say I got huge (hasn't happened yet, but man, did it last time) I just say OMG, so have you!
Usually they get the hint.
You know what? The way I see it, is if people feel SOO free to make such remarks, I'll take that same freedom to put them in their place w/o the slightest guilt on my conscious. Yeah, they may not know how many times you've heard it before, but you'd be doing them a favor by putting them in their place. And hopefully, they get the hint to not make a remark like that to the next pregnant lady they see. It just takes a few smart ass, witty remarks right back for them to see it is not cool. : )
Personally, it's my favorite part about pregnancy. : )
I think the time has come to be very calm and frank in your responses. Something along the lines of, "How am I supposed to respond to a comment like that?" or "Thank you so much for pointing out how fat I am- it really makes me feel special." People are SO insensitive when it comes to pregnancy, and I don't think it's fair that we're expected to take all of the comments graciously.
Or even: "I'm well aware that I am larger this pregnancy, and your comments on how huge I look are not helpful." They may feel awkward afterward, but guess what- THEY are the ones that made the insensitive comments, not you!
I think this is great. Everyone always says to tell them they're huge back, but a.) I just can't bring myself to do that, and b.) it seems so, "I know you are now what am I". I think the best way to handle the rude comments is with class and maturity... something the person making the comment obviously lacks.
but i don't mind the comments. people are stupid, i already know that, so I usually let everything roll off my back. no point in getting offended.
I find that a vast majority of people who make these comment are MEN. They have NO CLUE what "normal" looks like for each gestation period. I especially like it when men with beer bellies comment on pregnant women'd bumps...LOL. At least one of us has a reason for the bump!
Hang in there!!!!