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Insensitive/horrible ER resident

AlexiaMayAlexiaMay
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Yesterday morning we had yet another trip to the ER because of flash pulmonary edema which is scary enough when you're struggling to breathe and you know ever breath you can't take is more oxygen that your baby isn't getting! But to make it worse the first doctor we see when we get in is the one we saw on our last ER visit a couple weeks ago. The very doctor who told me that it was best to terminate the pregnancy then trying to continue at the time my mfm was standing there and she quickly butt in and corrected him.  First things out of his mouth this time is "you should of terminated because this is only going to get worse and kill you both."  I wanted to punch him and would of if I had been able to move, my husband didn't hear him I don't think or picked to ignore it.

I don't know if I should file some sort of report or just pretend it didn't happen and hope the next time we have to go in that he's not working a shift? I'm strong in my faith that carrying my daughter is what I'm supposed to do but what if he tells this to someone else? Someone who doesn't know that his word isn't final and take him up on it as the only thing to do? 

 Thankfully for now we're proving him wrong and with O2 and a tweek of medication both my stats and LO's stats have improved and if they continue like this through out tomorrow we can go home on Monday.  I just hope to get to keep proving this ***hole wrong.

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  • claarclaar member
    Yes, you do need to file a complaint (perhaps, with the chief of residents). This newbie needs to learn that regardless of what he thinks about your choices, this is NOT a way to communicate with patients.  His "verbal diarrhea" needs to stop, and maybe a censure by his superiors would do the trick.  I'm sure you are not the first person he/she has treated so insensitively.
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  • dalperndalpern
    That's awful. You should complain - definitely call the ombudsman at the hospital. Also can ask to speak with the residency coordinator...good luck and don't let him spook you! 
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  • dragon_chicadragon_chica member
    Apparently someone skipped the class on bedside manners!  What an asss!  What you choose to do is your business!
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  • SpruceGrouseSpruceGrouse member

    imageclaar:
    Yes, you do need to file a complaint (perhaps, with the chief of residents). This newbie needs to learn that regardless of what he thinks about your choices, this is NOT a way to communicate with patients.  His "verbal diarrhea" needs to stop, and maybe a censure by his superiors would do the trick.  I'm sure you are not the first person he/she has treated so insensitively.

    This.  This guy shouldn't be a doctor.

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  • calm_angel_2003calm_angel_2003 member

    you need to file a complaint with 3 people: the hospital administrator, the resident cordinator and the ER nurse manager. This complaint really needs to be addressed especially since hes done it twice now.

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  • mama3115mama3115 member
    You absolutely need to file a complaint with the hospital and with the Board of Medicine as well. No one especially an MD who knows nothing about you has the right to talk to you like that. Good luck to you and little one....continue to prove him wrong!!
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  • kikijbunnykikijbunny member
    Ditto everyone else.  Report him, it's totally unprofessional for him to treat you that way.  So sorry you had to deal with his crap.

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  • AlexiaMayAlexiaMay
    Thank you everyone who suggested filing a report. My husband and I did just that this morning.  Hopefully they actually deal with him now, the nurse I talked to to get me information was pretty horrified and very helpful. 
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  • OctoberCAPAOctoberCAPA member

    imageAlexiaMay:
    Thank you everyone who suggested filing a report. My husband and I did just that this morning.  Hopefully they actually deal with him now, the nurse I talked to to get me information was pretty horrified and very helpful. 

    Glad you took that step.  Are you going to be able to follow up and find out what happens next?  I would want to know that they definitely do something.  What he said to you was horrific and unbelievably callous.  Best of luck to you and your family! 

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    imageOctoberCAPA:

    Glad you took that step.  Are you going to be able to follow up and find out what happens next?  I would want to know that they definitely do something.  What he said to you was horrific and unbelievably callous.  Best of luck to you and your family! 

     Part of me wants to know what happens but the other part just wants to let this be done with.  I've got so many other things to worry about right now. Stupid people are the least of my list of priorities or should be! 

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  • OrangeSillyPuttyOrangeSillyPutty
    You have every right to "fire" him.  Next time you go in, and he's your dr...tell him you need someone else.  He is not to work on your case.  What an a55hole.
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