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TTC After a Loss
Oh dear lord what have I gotten myself into?? (babies mentioned)
So my Best friend had a baby in November fantastic for her... I unfortunately as you know lost my baby in February. I haven't seen her since or talked to her on the phone.
We have stayed in contact through email. She is in town this weekend so we made plans to hang out and of course she has to bring her son with. Fine... I work with babies all day I can handle her baby... RIGHT???
So she finally called me to make plans... it was so freaking awkward... she invited her parents??? WTF???
I said yeah no thanks. or I'll pass she was annoyed but agreed. She went on and on about how she had to plan around the babies schedule... which I get but cant you just tell me what time?
To top it all off she doesn't have a car here... so I have to drive with a car seat in my car... I dont want the fist car seat in my car to be someone elses FREAKING KID!!! 
Sigh... I am beginning to think I should suddenly come down with something. I dont even want to go anymore. and I was having a good morning. I hope we dont talk about her baby the whole time.
Emily Irene born February 8 2011 gone but not forgotten.
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I can not change. The courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I can not change. The courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.
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Re: Oh dear lord what have I gotten myself into?? (babies mentioned)
MTHFR 2 copies of C677t mutation homozygous 2/2010
Baby A born via c-section 1/10/12 @38w3d
BFP #1 11/4/09 m/c 4w3d baby crab
BFP #2 12/4/09 m/c 9w3d baby lion
BFP #3 7/1/10 m/c 4w1d baby fish
BFP #4 5/8/11
BFP #5 8/17/12 10dpo beta 7
Im goign to try to go! Thanks for the hugs. If its really awkward.... I dont know what I will do... I want to tell her everything that happened. but it will be really hard if she keeps going on about the baby.
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I can not change. The courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.
MTHFR 2 copies of C677t mutation homozygous 2/2010
Baby A born via c-section 1/10/12 @38w3d
BFP #1 11/4/09 m/c 4w3d baby crab
BFP #2 12/4/09 m/c 9w3d baby lion
BFP #3 7/1/10 m/c 4w1d baby fish
BFP #4 5/8/11
BFP #5 8/17/12 10dpo beta 7
so if her parents are obviously free, why couldn't she have "grama and grampa" watch him. It would definitely be more enjoyable for you. Some ppl are inconsiderate. My response to her statement about having to plan around the babies schedule would have been, "yeah I wish I had that problem; thanks."
You have a right to be selfish. It doesn't sound like shes being very understanding to you. I would either see if you can meet without the baby or cancel.
Hugs!
I think you should talk every bit as much about Emily as she does her child..I will be thinking of you and do not feel bad if it becomes hard and you have to end it early...I would just be honest that it is very hard for you and you are hurting and if she doesn't understand that I will talk to her!! {{{HUGS}}}}
Its a deal.. if its to bad and she is not understanding she will have to deal with the wrath of Jen!
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I can not change. The courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.
Its hard because I do want to see him. He's my Godson.... I just wish she wouldn't tell me about all the tings she has to do to get him ready... and blah blah blah. I KNOW how much work babies are I take care of them at work all day.
I think its not the seeing babies part that gets me its the seeing them with their parents part.
I wish things werent so difficult!
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I can not change. The courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.
MTHFR 2 copies of C677t mutation homozygous 2/2010
Baby A born via c-section 1/10/12 @38w3d
BFP #1 11/4/09 m/c 4w3d baby crab
BFP #2 12/4/09 m/c 9w3d baby lion
BFP #3 7/1/10 m/c 4w1d baby fish
BFP #4 5/8/11
BFP #5 8/17/12 10dpo beta 7
9 angels in heaven-3 in my arms and 1 in the NICU
Mono/di twin girls: Josephine born to heaven and Evangeline born Earthside at 25w
Aurora Rose born sleeping at 35w on 4-21-10
BFP#2 {Almond} - 2.1.11 EDD 10.12.11 C/P 2.11.11
Whatever you decide I'll be thinking about you. hugs.
My heart is as open as the sky.
Read about it on the blog
2 Corinthians 12:9 But he said to me, "My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness." Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ's power may rest on me.
This. I am sorry it has to be so hard.
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I can not change. The courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.
Chart
Surprise BFP 12.17.10; No heartbeat 01.28.11; D&C 02.03.11
TTCAL began 03.03.11; Break 4.25.11; TTCAL continues 6.9.11;
PAL/PgAL Welcome
Hugs Kate!!
If you can't do it, don't. If she's truly your best friend, she'll understand.
BFP-2/4/10 EDD-9/27/10 M/C-2/11/10 7w3d D&C and Methotrexate-2/19/10
BFP-11/21/10 M/C-11/25/10
Clomid Cycle #1-BFN
Clomid Cycle #2-BFP-1/18/2011 M/C-1/26/2011
BFP-5/18/11 Riley arrived 2/3/12 8lbs6oz 21.5in
I decided to power through and go.... I miss her and I miss my godson. I think the car seat in my car will be the hardest as well as seeing him in her little carrier. However we are going to the zoo and if it gets to weird we can just talk about the animals. And if I tear up its not like I have to make eye contact because we will be walking around.
I will update everyone later.
Thank you all for your support!
{{{HUGS}}}
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I can not change. The courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.
5/9/2013 = Our rainbow was born!!
08/18/2012 - BFP (Hoping this is our rainbow!)
06/24/2012 - Loss confirmed at 12 weeks
12/14/2010 - Loss baby girl at 20 weeks due to Turner Syndrome
01/2009 - Chemical Pregnancy
My Blog
mc 11/17/10 at 7wk3d EDD July 4, 2011 always missed: Michael
cp 5/12/11 EDD: January 19, 2012 here for just a moment: Gabriel
BFP 6-8-11 Lil Otis, 9dpo: 64, 11dpo: 156, 13dpo: 357, 15dpo: 803, 17dpo: 1483
FEB 2012 CHATROOM