i gave in. DH may be pissed.

momtoboo · April 2011

I told my mom and sister. We weren't going to but my secret keeping skills suck and I work next to them every day. Today i wanted to unbutton my pants and they weren't going to let that go unnoticed. I just said don't say a word. Pretty sure DH will not be happy with me. He works with us too.

ababymaybe · April 2011

DH was kind of funny about telling people at first too. He was kind of mad that I told BFF right away. I was like WTF buddy, I have to tell her if (god forbid) something went wrong. Plus, it isn't his body that's changing and his emotions that are out of control! I get not wanting to tell the whole world but as long as you can trust them not to blab, I think telling a few people in your inner circle is fine.

InfamousQBert · April 2011

wow, you work with your entire family just about! i don't think i could handle that, honestly. i need my space!

Janimal · April 2011

I would be PISSED if my DH told before we agreed to! Seems to me you need to be ready to make this up to him!

jmd22 · April 2011

I work with my family as well, and it is so hard to not tell them!! I am hoping to hold out until after my 8 week ultrasound, but if M/S kicks in before then and I'm puking my guts out at the office, that might be a little hard to hide, haha.

aruiz82 · April 2011

Janimal:
I would be PISSED if my DH told before we agreed to! Seems to me you need to be ready to make this up to him!

I think there just simply IS double standard for men and women in many of aspects of pregnancy. She can tell, he can not.

Mrs.NGM · April 2011

My DH wanted to keep it to ourselves 24 hours before telling anyone. I lasted all of 10 minutes before telling my sister lol. He knows I'm really bad at keeping secrets. However, now that we know we're having twins he can't keep his mouth shut!

kbhaynes · April 2011

ababymaybe:
DH was kind of funny about telling people at first too. He was kind of mad that I told BFF right away. I was like WTF buddy, I have to tell her if (god forbid) something went wrong. Plus, it isn't his body that's changing and his emotions that are out of control! I get not wanting to tell the whole world but as long as you can trust them not to blab, I think telling a few people in your inner circle is fine.

agree!

NewzieMom · April 2011

aruiz82:
Janimal:
I would be PISSED if my DH told before we agreed to! Seems to me you need to be ready to make this up to him!

I think there just simply IS double standard for men and women in many of aspects of pregnancy. She can tell, he can not.

I total disagree. Why should there be different rules? It still his child.

mb72597@aol.com · April 2011

We waited until we were about 6 weeks. We told our close family as we were told that if something does happen you want to have a great support system. We only now just started telling others. I am a cheerleading coach so I had to tell my gals who are just as excited it not more then my family.

heather_09_15_07 · April 2011

NewzieMom:
aruiz82:

Janimal:
I would be PISSED if my DH told before we agreed to! Seems to me you need to be ready to make this up to him!

I think there just simply IS double standard for men and women in many of aspects of pregnancy. She can tell, he can not.

I total disagree. Why should there be different rules? It still his child.

Yes

aruiz82 · April 2011

NewzieMom:
aruiz82:
Janimal:
I would be PISSED if my DH told before we agreed to! Seems to me you need to be ready to make this up to him!

I think there just simply IS double standard for men and women in many of aspects of pregnancy. She can tell, he can not.
I total disagree. Why should there be different rules? It still his child.

It just makes sense. A woman has things physically affecting her from the beginning of pregnancy, a man has no tell tale signs to cover up. Besides, this early in pregnancy muc can happen and a woman should choose who is privy to the personal happenings in her own body. If she miscarried, she may be fine telling her mom and sister but might not feel so comfortable sharing with her husbands family or guy friends. It has nothing to do with it being "his child too". Right now it's about her body.

momtoboo · April 2011

InfamousQBert:
wow, you work with your entire family just about! i don't think i could handle that, honestly. i need my space!

yeah working with them all (my dad too) makes for some interesting family problems but some really strong bonds as well.

mben1119 · April 2011

aruiz82:
NewzieMom:
aruiz82:

Janimal:
I would be PISSED if my DH told before we agreed to! Seems to me you need to be ready to make this up to him!

I think there just simply IS double standard for men and women in many of aspects of pregnancy. She can tell, he can not.

I total disagree. Why should there be different rules? It still his child.
It just makes sense. A woman has things physically affecting her from the beginning of pregnancy, a man has no tell tale signs to cover up. Besides, this early in pregnancy muc can happen and a woman should choose who is privy to the personal happenings in her own body. If she miscarried, she may be fine telling her mom and sister but might not feel so comfortable sharing with her husbands family or guy friends. It has nothing to do with it being "his child too". Right now it's about her body.

That's bullshiit. MH would be pissed at me if I told before we were ready, and vice versa. Its our baby, our decision, and it goes way beyond being 'my body.'

Qmommy · April 2011

aruiz82:
NewzieMom:
aruiz82:
Janimal:
I would be PISSED if my DH told before we agreed to! Seems to me you need to be ready to make this up to him!

I think there just simply IS double standard for men and women in many of aspects of pregnancy. She can tell, he can not.
I total disagree. Why should there be different rules? It still his child.
It just makes sense. A woman has things physically affecting her from the beginning of pregnancy, a man has no tell tale signs to cover up. Besides, this early in pregnancy muc can happen and a woman should choose who is privy to the personal happenings in her own body. If she miscarried, she may be fine telling her mom and sister but might not feel so comfortable sharing with her husbands family or guy friends. It has nothing to do with it being "his child too". Right now it's about her body.

I disagree. Just because I'm the one carrying the baby does not give me an excuse to completely disregard my DH's wishes.

momtoboo · April 2011

turns out he wasn't mad. he just said he understood it was going to be hard to keep it a secret from them when i'll be having doc appts.

babywing · April 2011

mabenner1:
aruiz82:
NewzieMom:
aruiz82:

Janimal:
I would be PISSED if my DH told before we agreed to! Seems to me you need to be ready to make this up to him!

I think there just simply IS double standard for men and women in many of aspects of pregnancy. She can tell, he can not.

I total disagree. Why should there be different rules? It still his child.
It just makes sense. A woman has things physically affecting her from the beginning of pregnancy, a man has no tell tale signs to cover up. Besides, this early in pregnancy muc can happen and a woman should choose who is privy to the personal happenings in her own body. If she miscarried, she may be fine telling her mom and sister but might not feel so comfortable sharing with her husbands family or guy friends. It has nothing to do with it being "his child too". Right now it's about her body.

That's bullshiit. MH would be pissed at me if I told before we were ready, and vice versa. Its our baby, our decision, and it goes way beyond being 'my body.'

I disagree and agree. Yes there are things going on with my body that I need to have certain people I feel comfortable sharing with besides DH. But I talked to him and made sure it was ok. He didn't want to tell my parents yet, but I told him I see them every wednesday (they watch DS one day a week) and I want them with me during these first few weeks. He agreed, we are waiting on telling everyone else till after we hear the hb, even his parents. Better to be upfront.... I don't think there should be different rules.

peanutboogie · April 2011

Qmommy:
aruiz82:
NewzieMom:
aruiz82:

Janimal:
I would be PISSED if my DH told before we agreed to! Seems to me you need to be ready to make this up to him!

I think there just simply IS double standard for men and women in many of aspects of pregnancy. She can tell, he can not.

I total disagree. Why should there be different rules? It still his child.
It just makes sense. A woman has things physically affecting her from the beginning of pregnancy, a man has no tell tale signs to cover up. Besides, this early in pregnancy muc can happen and a woman should choose who is privy to the personal happenings in her own body. If she miscarried, she may be fine telling her mom and sister but might not feel so comfortable sharing with her husbands family or guy friends. It has nothing to do with it being "his child too". Right now it's about her body.

I disagree. Just because I'm the one carrying the baby does not give me an excuse to completely disregard my DH's wishes.

DH and I made this child TOGETHER! Any decisions will be made by both of us even if it is just about who and when we will tell.

aruiz82 · April 2011

peanutboogie:
Qmommy:
aruiz82:
NewzieMom:
aruiz82:

Janimal:
I would be PISSED if my DH told before we agreed to! Seems to me you need to be ready to make this up to him!

I think there just simply IS double standard for men and women in many of aspects of pregnancy. She can tell, he can not.

I total disagree. Why should there be different rules? It still his child.
It just makes sense. A woman has things physically affecting her from the beginning of pregnancy, a man has no tell tale signs to cover up. Besides, this early in pregnancy muc can happen and a woman should choose who is privy to the personal happenings in her own body. If she miscarried, she may be fine telling her mom and sister but might not feel so comfortable sharing with her husbands family or guy friends. It has nothing to do with it being "his child too". Right now it's about her body.

I disagree. Just because I'm the one carrying the baby does not give me an excuse to completely disregard my DH's wishes.

DH and I made this child TOGETHER! Any decisions will be made by both of us even if it is just about who and when we will tell.

Wow simmer! Easyyyyy girl. My dh is the one that said to me "you'll probably want to tell your mom and sisters right away? You just let me know when we want to tell everyone else!" I can't imagine a husband getting mad about that sort of thing.

RadicalDreamer143 · April 2011

It doesn't matter - in less than two weeks, OP will find out her entire family, and likely town, will know, and OP will be completely shocked and upset about it.

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