DH vent from a Pregzilla (long)
Melissa2216
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I need to get this off my chest. I'm so annoyed at DH right now.
My mom will be in town this weekend for my shower. She has never seen our condo that we've been in for 2 years, let alone all the renovations we've done. DH is in the process of putting up crown molding in the living room and dining room. He worked a 1/2 day today and said he was going to bust his butt to get the molding up in the living room in the afternoon. I told him I didn't care if the crown molding was done...my mom won't mind seeing a home improvement project in the works. I care more about the dishes, dusting, vacuuming, etc that needs to be done by tomorrow. I also asked him to finish sanding the inside of the nursery dresser drawers so I can put contact paper in them and start filling them with stuff after my shower.
I got home from work at about 6pm, and the living room is a disaster. Furniture is all moved, sawdust and drywall dust everywhere. He has also decided to wire for surround sound, so he nailed up speaker wire and hid it in the crown molding. He asked me several questions about where the speakers would look best. Um, DH? I don't give a crap.
I decided to occupy myself by cleaning the bedroom. I dusted, put away a bunch of things, and washed the bedding. 2 1/2 hours later, he's still putting up molding. Oh, and of course he never sanded the drawers. I'm now exhausted, my back hurts, and I just want to lay on the couch and watch tv. I'm done cleaning for tonight, which means I'll have to get it done before I see my mom tomorrow. (He'll be at work, and I took the day off b/c I have a dr. appt. Thanks, DH.)
I know I should be grateful that he's working so hard to get the crown molding done, but I just can't help resenting right now. It's not like the molding even looks good right now, because he still has to caulk, fill in nail holes, and paint it. So basically he spent all day nailing up pieces of wood and wiring for surround sound. And even though I vented on here, I just know I'm going to snap at him later.
Re: DH vent from a Pregzilla (long)
my dh does this too -- only the chores he's interested in. when it comes time for the rest of them he suddenly doesn't feel so well. it pisses me off too!
good luck getting everything done!
That's exactly the philosophy I've taken with the whole thing. It's not him trying to be a jackass, I think they just have different goggles they look through. It's easier to see "projects" that are undone for them. I also think it's true that whomever the "cleaner" of the pair is is always going to notice things being dirty first, because it bothers us more. In my case, my husband wouldn't notice unless he physically couldn't walk through the kitchen due to dirty dishes blocking his way.
This is my DH, too!!! It drives me NUTS!! I'm glad others are in this boat, too. Melissa, I hope you didn't snap too bad but I know I would've had to say something. Grr...