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Quazel
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s/o Does your child have any type of physical 'defect'?
Quazel
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The post below has me thinking. DS was born with a small crease on his belly that could be a third nipple. Some days it just looks like a crease and other days it looks a little swollen and makes us concerned. Our doctor has confirmed that it could go either way. We might wake up one day and it will look totally like a nipple or it may never change from what it is now.
DH and I decided when Ds was a newborn that we will do nothing about it until DS is much older and only if it truly starts to look like a nipple, as in hair growth, shape and size. If that should happen, DS will be active in deciding whether or not he wants to remove it. Just like the woman in the blog below, we have no interest in putting DS through surgery if he is happy the way he is. However, we are concerned about him being made fun of and plan to be very open with what that type of 'defect' may cause other people to say. In our eyes, he is 150% perfect.
Anyone else have this type of issue to deal with? How do you plan to deal with it?
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Re: s/o Does your child have any type of physical 'defect'?
DD has a strawberry hemangioma on her forehead. In all likelihood it'll go away on it's own, but even if it doesn't it's not something we're prepared to have removed. (Until, and if DD wants to go that route.) But we get people who ask all the time either what happened to her (they assume it's a scab) or when we're getting it removed. I don't even notice it anymore and have to think about what they're talking about!
She also has a red mark between her eyes and one at the base of her skull that I think might be stork bites, but they haven't faded much yet. The one on her face is really only noticeable when she gets fired up, but I have had people ask about those.
I have a giant, band-aide sized tan, freckled birth mark on the back of my leg, so it could be worse!
DD2 8.22.13
MMC 1.4.17 at 16w
Expecting #3, EDD 1.29.18
I have a friend who was born this way. Her mom taped her ears back when she was little. She chose to have surgery around 27 years old. She ALWAYS wore her hair down, none of us knew that was why until she chose to do surgery and told us all what was going on. When she showed us, we all thought she was crazy for covering them and having surgery. None of us thought it was a big deal.
This exactly. (See my response w/ photo in the blog post)
DS does not have any serious physical defects (he does have a big stork bite on the back of his neck), but we thought a lot about what we would do if he did because DH has a genetic disorder that causes craniofacial deformity. The type of disorder we believe DH has is autosomal dominant, which means there's a 50% chance of passing it on, but if a child is born without it he/she is not at risk of passing it on. DH's disorder causes craniosynostosis (prematurely fused soft spots), webbed digits, and a few facial deformities. His case is minor, but he had surgery as an infant because the doctors thought there was excessive intracranial pressure. Most kids with this condition have to have at least one cranial surgery, often more. It's not inherently life-threatening and it doesn't cause mental handicap. The risks are really associated with the surgeries.
DH and I thought a lot about whether we should even have kids. We did genetic testing to see if we could do preimplantation screening, but the tests weren't able to detect DH's mutation, so we wouldn't have known what to look for in embryos. I like to think that the tests didn't find anything because it's not really genetic, but that's unlikely. We talked about sperm donors and adoption. Ultimately we decided to just go for it. I hate the idea of putting an infant through surgery and having a child that might be made fun of and stared at for his/her appearance. DS does not have DH's condition, but if/when we decide to have another child, we will open this whole can of worms again.
DD has a hemangioma (sp) on her lip. It has faded since birth but I don't think I would do anything about it. It's small and now is the same color as her lip and only slightly raised.
I can't tell you how many people asked me if she had a bottle blister or a cold sore. Funny thing I didn't care that they noticed, but I was more annoyed that people assumed she took a bottle since I was very proud to be EBFing LOL
Ovi has a vein, deep dark blue vein running on the bridge of his nose, between his eyes. I don't notice it, but, people ask how he bumped his nose all the time.
ANd I have 1/2 of my top lip not pink. When I was 18 months I feel out of a basket and bit my lip off. Plastic surgery repaired me at 4, to not have a chunk missing, but I still wear a tinted lip gloss everyday. When my lips get chapped the white/ skin doesn't. It's unique.
David's left foot turns out, just a little bit. It doesn't affect his ability to walk or run, so we've decided to hold off on any interventions and see what happens. It seems to be improving on its own, but when he was little it was very pronounced.
We decided not to do anything unless it affects his ability to walk/run/play etc.
DH was born without ear folds too. His parents make a big deal of how they had him "fixed" before he went to school, as if he was broken or there was something wrong with him. DH was also born with an extra half a thumb. His parents also had that "fixed". He's very self conscious about both of these now and doesn't want anyone to know. One of DD's ears sticks out a bit (only a tiny bit), but MIL and FIL have commented on how horrible it is. I just don't get it, DD barely has any hair yet, when it comes in it'll cover her ears. If her ears bother her when she's older she can have something done about it then.
I talked about his ultra cool birthmark in the other post, but that isn't his only piece of flair. Being the bad new mommy that I was, it wasn't until he was a week old that I noticed it. DH laughed at me but never once thought it was something to point out.
At the top of his bumcrack he has a little hole. It almost looks like a second anus. I didn't know that the hospital pedi had talked to DH about it so it totally threw me for a loop when I finally noticed. His regular pedi told me that usually its evidence that his body tried to develop spinabifida but it didn't take hold. I count my blessing all the time that he came out healthy. We had an ultrasound done to make sure it was totally closed and wasn't connected to his spine or nerve and everything was clear. From what I understand, he could possibly have some back pain from it when he is older, but nothing that is worrisome.
I try check it fairly regularly just to make sure it's clean and there is no infection but it isn't something that is always on my radar.
both LOs have mongolian spots. I've been suspected of beating DS before, because of the spots. On DS, his butt is discolored quite a bit.
DD has a strawberry on the back of her head that hopefully will go away on it's own. It hasn't grown for a few months now so I am hopeful that it will not get bigger but its too early to tell. When her hair is fully grown it, it will cover the redness, but the physical shape of the bump might still be there.
DD was born with literally a small hole in her butt, discovered 2 days after she was born. I had thought it was a mole ( it was black at the time) and didn't think twice about it, but when a nurse changed DD, the black part fell off. It was dried up tarry poop (meconium) and when it came out, you could see there was a hole. The doctor was worried that poop was exiting her intestines and coming out of the hole. If this was the case, the hole might have to be surgically closed. Pediatric surgeons became involved and thankfully, it was a superficial hole and it closed up on its own. But there is a little scar there that looks like a cigarette burn.
My son has this too. So does my DH. It's hereditary. We won't do anything about it but we might see if he wants to be a swimmer