My H wants to go to a concert at 35 weeks

melaniedel · April 2011

Hi ladies, This sounds stupid, but my H wants to go to a concert (with friends-there is no way I will take a chance in that crowd of people) mid July. I am not going to tell him no, bc I am not his Mommy, but I am thinking is that a good idea? I have no family in the area, and sure he wouldn't hear my calls as it's a rock concert. He is mentioning it a lot I guess to get my reaction. I don't know-part of me thinks it's kind of wrong for him to be going and leaving his pregnant W at home in this stage with our first pregnancy. I am just wondering if I am being too sensitive or if I am being rational. My gut just has a funny feeling about it I guess.

KD+BC · April 2011

Is the concert close by? I guess I don't see a problem if it's at a venue close to where you live. You could tell him your concerns and ask him to call at the halfway point or between acts or something to check on you.

I understand being concerned about being left alone at the end of your pregnancy but as long as he could get to you pretty quickly in case you went into labor, he should continue to live his life, as you should, as much as possible!

Granted, I'm a first time mom and maybe I'll feel differently at 35 weeks!

Augustmama1113 · April 2011

First time mom here too. My DH is going to a Jimmy Buffet concert less than 2 weeks before my due date (can you say liquor). I'm not too worried about it because it's only a few hours of the day, plus i know if I'm not feeling right before he leaves I'll ask him not to go. I think everything should be fine, but understand being concerned.

stellahav · April 2011

If it's not far away, I think it's fine. Maybe agree that he should check his phone often, just in case, and that he should have his own way home in case he has to leave. Obviously as it gets closer if things change you can talk about it again. It would be a good chance for you to have a fun girls night too! That way you wouldn't be alone -- just in case.

melaniedel · April 2011

Definitely true. It would a good idea to have a girlfriend over or something. It is not too far. Great idea about driving seperately. Also pp are right in our feelings may change when the time comes. I guess it depends how I am feeling. Thanks for all of your great advice!

megd06 · April 2011

I don't see a problem with him going--chances are even if you DID start going into labor, it would be a few hours before you'd want to go in to the hospital. Maybe ask a friend to be on standby for those few hours? Give him one last chance to hang out with friends before he's on Daddy duty...it's really not a huge deal. It'll only be a few hours.

MrsCase1 · April 2011

KD+BC:
Is the concert close by? I guess I don't see a problem if it's at a venue close to where you live. You could tell him your concerns and ask him to call at the halfway point or between acts or something to check on you.
I understand being concerned about being left alone at the end of your pregnancy but as long as he could get to you pretty quickly in case you went into labor, he should continue to live his life, as you should, as much as possible!
Granted, I'm a first time mom and maybe I'll feel differently at 35 weeks!

This. Plus, he could always put his phone on vibrate so he could feel it in case he can't hear.

Excited Mrs P · April 2011

I would never be okay with my DH going. Then again, every relationship is different and only you know what is best for yours. However, my husband would not evevn consider going when I was that far along in pregnancy.

I have been to many many concerts - it is something that we always have enjoyed doing together - but if I'm not able to go because I'm carrying our baby, he can sacrifice not going for the same reason.

Concerts are so loud and overcrowded that it is not just taking a "chance" of him not hearing or feeling his phone -- but a reality that he will surely not hear or feel it going off. Additionally, depending on the location - some venues have bad reception, or no reception at all if it is an indoor venue.

While some mothers may be fine with going to the hospital alone and "waiting" hours for him to show up - that is just something that I personally would not be alright with. It is OUR baby, not MY baby - and he should be there to drive me to the hospital and wait as many hours as I do.

duchess0727 · April 2011

At 35 weeks, it's not likely you are going into labor. I didn't ever go into labor and had my first kid at 41.5 weeks. It would be kind of silly to restrict my husband's activities for 6 weeks. Plus if you do go into labor, he will have loads of time to get to the hospital and it's really not such a big deal to get yourself there. Just have a friend around in case of emergency. And if he puts his phone on vibrate, you can send him a text to say "come home now!" and I'm sure he'll get it and be home in enough time to get you to the hospital.

Having said that, I'm going to see Taylor Swift at 36 weeks and I can't wait! And I'm pretty sure I'm not going into labor at the concert - considering I've had two kids and never gone into labor.

StefandTodd · April 2011

I think you have nothing to be concerned about at all, and you should give him your blessing. Go get a pedicure, have a nice dinner out with girlfriends, then go to bed early and hog the whole bed!

mandyhahn01 · April 2011

I'm going to the NKOTB/Backstreet Boys concert four weeks before we are due and I AM SO EXCITED ABOUT IT!!!! My only requirement of my girlfriends was that we get actual seats and I get the one on the end. If you aren't comfortable with it than I'd just tell him and he should understand, but I don't think there's a problem at all. You can still fly on airlines up to four weeks before you are due, and it seems that would be a much bigger risk.

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