Hi all. I found this board when I was having a threatened miscarriage and was blown away by how amazingly strong, courageous, uplifting and caring you all are. My sister died immediately after birth (I was 11) and I saw how hard that was on my mother - she still can't talk about it. I hope me posting here does not offend anyone, but I have a question and would really like some input.
DH and I have a very good friend (she actually set us up on a blind date). She was in an accident in college and had severe injuries. About a month after she got out of the hospital they discovered she had ovarian cancer and she had to have a hysterectomy to get the tumor out (at age 19). She has always wanted kids but now is not physically able to have them.
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We are having a baby and would like to honor her involvement and importance in our lives by using her name as the middle name if the baby is a girl/variation if it is a boy. Would that be a good idea? We love her so much and really want our child to be named after such a strong person. I am worried that doing so might come across as "rubbing it in her face" that she can't have a baby. I don't want to hurt her. Would using her name be too much?
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I would certainly ask your friend. We can only advise you on what we all would think of it if it were us... and everyone is different. We named out daughter that just passed after our best friend (his last name, Carter). He had passed away two years ago very suddenly. I had always liked the name as a first name but didn't know how to bring it up to my hubby. One night DH just turned to me and said, "What about Carter? And you know, I think it could work even if it is a girl." We decided we liked it even better for a girl's name.
I think in almost all cases, people realize that naming after them is an honor. But I would still even discuss it with her so she knows that is what you want out of giving your child her name. Goodluck with the rest of your pregnancy.
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First: Thank you for being so aware and considerate of all the ladies on this board.
Second: I personally would be honored, but I would chat with your friend about it first.